In fact, there should be no AA system between the family, but should pay their own expenses, not that this meal is obviously what he said to invite, the result is to let others to help him bear the money for this meal, after the brothers and sisters grow up, their respective expenses will be borne by each other, and should not choose the AA system, the only place that may need the AA system is only the expenses of the parents.
Some people say that the need for AA system is actually OK, and what is more excessive is that the parents let the sister completely reimburse the brother's things, which is not reasonable, people live a lifetime, it is impossible to rely on their parents to help themselves forever, and ultimately need to rely on their own.
Everyone should receive correct ideological education and guidance, and improve their own ideological concepts to a large extent, and people cannot stop moving forward for a lifetime, not only life and work need to develop well, but also their own knowledge and ideas must be improved.
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Give birth to a second child
Most people say that the idea of son preference is more serious in the countryside, in fact, there are some people in the city who will have the idea of son preference. Ye Weiwei their family has this situation, before Ye Weiwei's brother was born, in fact, Ye Weiwei did not feel the difference between sons and daughters, when her brother was not born, the people in the family were very fond of Ye Weiwei, ye Weiwei liked things, basically her parents would buy her.
But because there is only one child in the family Ye Weiwei and no other children, she sometimes does not know who to play with, when her mother took Ye Weiwei downstairs to play in the small park of the community, he watched other children have brothers and sisters to accompany, Ye Weiwei is still a little envious, and for the first time she proposed to her mother the idea that she also wants a sister or brother.
The mother was surprised that such a small child could even tell the adults that they wanted younger siblings, because there were some children who did not like their parents in giving birth to a second child, mainly because they were afraid that their parents would spoil the second child and forget to care for the eldest.
"Well, if Vivi wants a brother or sister, then Mom and Dad will have one more!" In fact, at this time, Ye Weiwei's mother was pregnant, but she did not tell Ye Weiwei, but her parents never thought about whether Ye Weiwei could accept the arrival of this second child.
October pregnancy soon passed, soon to the day of the mother's birth, Ye Weiwei also followed her father to guard outside the delivery room door, Ye Weiwei felt that her mother had gone in for a long time and had not come out, she asked her father a little worriedly: "Daddy, why hasn't my mother come out for so long, I heard other children say that when their mother gave birth to her younger brothers and sisters, it was very uncomfortable, very painful, and her mother is now inside, is it also very painful?" ”
"Vivi is assured, there is a professional doctor inside, and her mother will come out safely!"
After about half an hour, the mother came out of the delivery room, next to a nurse holding a newborn child, the nurse said to the father that it was a boy, and the father said to Ye Weiwei, you finally have a younger brother. Ye Weiwei looked at her newborn brother and was very happy in her heart: "Great, I will have someone to play with me in the future, and I can also share my toys and food with my brother." ”
2.
The younger brother of the unruly
There was a difference of ten years between Ye Weiwei and her brother, in Ye Weiwei's heart, she had always wanted to protect her brother well, but yes, so she gradually grew up, Ye Weiwei began to hate this brother, and also began to hate herself, why did she tell her mother to give birth to a younger brother.
Since the birth of her brother, Ye Weiwei has heard the most sentences is that as a sister, you must protect your brother well and love your brother when you grow up, and if your parents are gone, you are the only relatives in the world. When she was young, Ye Weiwei still felt a sense of responsibility and was very happy, but Now that she has grown up, Ye Weiwei is very bored when she hears this sentence, because her parents are really obviously patriarchal, especially loving their brothers, and completely ignoring Ye Weiwei's existence.
If Ye Weiwei accidentally breaks a cup, she will be scolded by her mother, and if her brother breaks a cup, her mother will only care about whether her brother has hurt her hand for the first time.
Later, after Ye Weiwei graduated from college, she went out to work, but she didn't have to watch her mother at home every day so eccentric to her brother, but what she didn't expect was that after Ye Weiwei started working, her mother actually let Ye Weiwei pay 1,000 yuan a month to her brother as living expenses.
"Mom, why are you asking me to pay my brother for living expenses?"
"Mom and Dad are old now, the salary for this kind of work is not high, and now the family can only rely on you a little, you help Mom and Dad share the living expenses of their brother, Mom and Dad are also more relaxed, aren't they?"
Ye Weiwei finally looked at the hardships of her parents, every month to her brother to play 1000 yuan of living expenses, and then the younger brother went to college, he asked Ye Weiwei for living expenses is more and more, in fact, for a college student's normal expenses, 1500 a month's living expenses are enough, because Ye Weiwei's family is not a rich family, so the living expenses of 1500 a month are almost the same, and they can't give two or three thousand.
But the younger brother actually asked Ye Weiwei for 2500 living expenses, and later he also learned that his brother was talking about a girlfriend, and what meal money was basically paid for by the younger brother, which is not equivalent to Ye Weiwei raising two people alone. Ye Weiwei did not give her brother 2500, or gave him 1500 as usual, the younger brother was still a little unhappy with Ye Weiwei, and resented his sister that he broke up because his sister did not give money, and his parents were also saying that Ye Weiwei was not right, so many years of saving so much money, it was not good to spend a little money on his brother.
"Dad, Mom, are you too eccentric, he is already an adult, do you want to spoil him so much, sooner or later you will ruin him, when did you do this to me, since elementary school, you have never loved me again!" 」
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reimbursement
Later, after my brother graduated from college, he had to learn from other people to start a business, and the start-up fund started with 200,000 yuan. Ye Weiwei's parents naturally can't come up with so much money, so her parents naturally ask Ye Weiwei to help her brother out of this entrepreneurial fund.
"He can't be hot for a while, watching others start a business to make money, he will run to start a business, will he do business in the end?" Don't put all 200,000 in the water! ”
"You should lend it to your brother first, and then I will definitely let him pay you back, this boy will come out in society or start his own business, and it is better to have his own career!"
Later, Ye Weiwei lent this 200,000 to her brother, and sure enough, her brother failed in this business, and the 200,000 were all adrift, and even owed some debts, Ye Weiwei lent this 200,000 out at the moment, in fact, she did not think of letting her brother return.
Suddenly one day, my brother actually said that he wanted to invite the family to a party for a meal, and since Ye Weiwei got married, she had not had a good family meal for a long time. Ye Weiwei looked at the decoration of this restaurant and knew that a meal money was definitely not cheap, and this brother had just failed to start a business now, and there was little money in his pocket, and it was estimated that after a while, Ye Weiwei had to AA with him to share this meal money, after all, it was not without such a situation before.
The husband came home from work at night to find that he did not have the key left in the company, so he called Ye Weiwei and asked her to come back to open a door, so Ye Weiwei said hello to her parents and brother and left, Ye Weiwei thought it was AA system and did not pay the bill, and after returning home, she received her mother's WeChat, she was gone.
Mother said that the brother failed to start a business, and owed a bunch of debts, this meal money spent 5,000 yuan, let Ye Weiwei reimburse, Ye Weiwei directly called the past: "Mom, that restaurant I know, it is indeed expensive, but there is no need, we ate a few dishes on 5,000 yuan, are you disguised to give my brother to my living expenses, that is, I gave money to my brother for the last time, don't look for me after anything in the future, we don't have to meet again, of course, after you retire, I will still give you living expenses, but I will never give my brother a penny, he is already an adult, and he must learn to take responsibility for himself! ”
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Flesh and blood affection
Since ancient times, there has been a feudal idea of emphasizing men over women, in ancient times, everyone felt that women should learn female red, rather than go to school to study, women should teach their husbands and children, and men are the ones who go out to fight in the world. This is the typical patriarchal idea, and now in society, such a thought still exists in some families, and when they give birth to a male fetus, they will love the boy more, and there is not so much love than a girl.
In fact, the main reason is that the ideological concepts of these parents have not been improved, they have not kept pace with the times, and they still have the ideological concepts of the feudal tradition. Parents love their sons, but also ask their daughters, but also with themselves to love his son, from the most typical material aspect, often let the sister to pay for the younger brother, some parents will also let the sister to pay for the younger brother to buy a marriage house.
The same are all pregnant in October, born from the mother's belly, in addition to the gender is not the same, there is no difference, why do you have to treat it differently, are all a family, are their own children, is it just because of gender is enough to make you have such a discriminatory treatment psychology.