"Get up! Hurry up and get dressed! Don't carry a school bag? Can you hurry up..." Do you have to say these words to your children every morning? Are you busy every morning and the children are still not in a hurry?
If you ask parents what is the biggest headache for you in terms of child management? I believe that many parents will say that the most headache is to wake up their children every morning. Quite a few children have difficulty getting up in the morning, and even if the parents have just adjusted their schedules, once the holidays are over, they are ruined again. So many parents complained: "Every morning that moment, it's like a war!" Therefore, in the face of the "difficult to get up" at home, many parents do not know what to do. So there are all kinds of ways to teach parents how to help parents how to help their children not to be bedridden and not to procrastinate, I carefully read these methods and found that some methods are not curative, some are impractical, and some methods may also endanger the physical and mental health of children. Especially the third method, I believe many parents have heard, come and see if you have taught to avoid these pits!
Black list method 1.Wake up your child 30 minutes in advance.
I was shocked when I heard this method! Are you serious about the person who said this? Waking your child up half an hour in advance means that parents also have to get up half an hour early, just imagine if you are a parent of a primary school student, then you usually get up from six o'clock to six thirty in the morning to cook, and you have to send your child to school at 7:30. But in order to get your child up, do you have to get up at five o'clock and then call your child half an hour in advance, just to let your child rub that 30 minutes?
And I believe that most parents are worried about not the difficulty of getting up in the morning itself, but want to fundamentally solve the problem of children's rubbing and dragging, and hope that children will develop the habit of actively doing their own things, so this method can be said to be a symptom rather than a cure, it is not desirable at all!
If you really use this method, then the child will sleep 30 minutes less every day! In the long run, it will also have an impact on the health of children!
Black list method 2. Pull up directly
Such a method in my opinion belongs to the "lethal get up method", just imagine if you are still asleep and suddenly pulled up, your heart will not jump suddenly, will you be anxious like hitting people, this method will not only stimulate the child's nerves, affect the child's mood and appetite, but also make the child have a fear of getting up, thus aggravating the crying, so that it is counterproductive. Similar to the "roaring up method", "slapping up method", and "derogatory wake-up method", all belong to the lethal wake-up method.
Black list method 3.Parents take a day off in advance, and then deliberately get up later than the child the next day, let the child be anxious, let the child urge you.
This should be a method that many parents have heard, in fact, I think there are not many parents who really do this. Let's not talk about how difficult it is for our parents to take leave, but the premise that this method can succeed is that the child must know that his own affairs must be worried about himself, and he will be responsible for himself, and he will be anxious when he finds that his parents are late. If you do not cultivate the child's sense of responsibility and self-discipline, then you get up late, and people should not be in a hurry.
Some people will say, "Although the child is not in a hurry, but the teacher will criticize him fiercely, he will be afraid." In fact, most teachers now will not criticize children particularly harshly, and those students who are not even afraid of their parents will not be afraid of teachers. The key is when the teacher learns that the child is late because the parents are late, and guess what the teacher will think?
From tomorrow onwards, please do as I have done, and from now on you will not have to urge, the last of which is very important.
1. You can try to wipe your child's face with warm water first.
This method was taught to me by my daughter, and it works with my own testing giant! Once I told her to get up, she sat on the bed with her eyes closed and said, "Mom, I'm awake but I can't open my eyes, you wipe it for me!" Since then, every morning I have gently woken her up and wiped her eyes and face with warm water, and then she has begun to put on her own clothes, shoes, and wash herself until she goes out. And I'll just do it myself. It didn't feel too cool.
2. Write down on paper what your child is going to do when he wakes up early and paste it on his desk.
If it's not so hard for your child to get up, it's hard to get up and procrastinate or don't know what to do, then you can write down on a slip of paper about what your child is going to do when he wakes up early and stick it on his desk. After the child gets up, he can follow the list on the table to do what he should do, which can effectively help the child manage himself, so that the parent does not have to ask "Brush your teeth?" "Go get your shoes on!" "Why don't you carry a school bag?"
3. If you want to wake up your child, please wake up your child's beautiful emotions first!
This method is especially useful for children at a young age! A lot of children get up and have a wake-up gas, easy to cry This is not the child's temper, but the child's mind is not fully developed, crying is a manifestation of his physical reaction from the sleep state to the wake up after the wake-up, so we can first kiss the child's small face, in the ear to wake him up softly: "Baby, it is time to get up!" You can also play music or stories that your child likes instead of sharp alarms!
You can also squeeze his little hand and say, "Oh, baby's little hand is awake", rub his stomach and say "Yo, baby's belly soldier is awake", rub his calf and say "Haha baby's two legs are also awake", so that the child will get up quickly.
4. You can give your child a buffer time.
Very few children wake up after calling again, especially those who are still in kindergarten! So we need to gently wake up the child first, and then tell the child: "Mom got up first and washed her face!" After washing your face, I'll call you oh, my baby is awesome! "Then parents can go to their own business, come back after two or three minutes, and remember not to wait too long, otherwise the child will fall into deep sleep again."
The last point is very important, that is, be sure to let the child go to bed early, develop the good habit of going to bed early and getting up early, otherwise the useful methods are in vain, and secretly tell you to prepare the clothes that the child will wear the next day in advance the night before, and the next day will save you a lot of time!
The above is my summary of the wrong way and the right way for children to get up for parents and friends, I hope to help you!