With the liberalization of the two-child and three-child policy, many friends want to add icing on the cake, the first child is a girl's, want to have another son, the first child is a son, and want to have another daughter. When I was pregnant with my second child, you asked me if I had ever thought about whether it was a boy or a girl in my belly? That must have been thought, come on baby boy. There will be a momentary thought, but not strong, after all, I gave birth to a second child is not to give birth to a man, mainly to let Meng Meng have a companion, personality and other aspects will be more perfect, the pressure of the future pension is not so heavy, and the key me and my husband are the kind of people who like children, so the birth of this second child is based on these ideas.
There is a probability that boys and girls will be born
Furthermore, when it comes to having a boy or a girl, it is something that is decided at the moment when the sperm and egg are combined. This process is completed instantaneously, of course, by various factors, whether it is the sperm of the Y chromosome that runs into the egg, or the sperm of the X chromosome wins the heart of the egg girl, which is really difficult to predict and evaluate. Of course, there are indeed some factors that affect the probability of men and women, which I offer when I am preparing for pregnancy:
If the man works for a long time and stays up late, he is more tired, the occupational pressure is high, the fatigue is high, and the probability of giving birth to a girl is large. Under the condition of external stimulation or reduced body resistance, the Y chromosome is more fragile and susceptible to damage, resulting in a relative increase in X chromosome sperm.
The second is the age factor: the older the man, the greater the chance of having a "little cotton jacket", because as he ages, the germ cells age, and the Y chromosome sperm is more sensitive. Similarly, the older a woman gets, the less alkaline secretions in the uterus decrease year by year, and the X chromosome has a better chance. Then there are others such as the time of intercourse as much as possible with the time of ovulation, the Y chromosome runs fast, first-come, first-served; the alkaline environment is shaped, alkaline food is eaten; you can't soak in hot springs, and so on.
Anyway, I listened to a lot of this advice, but the last birth was a little princess, of course, this is also related to my failure to implement it, because my original intention to give birth to a boy was not so big. Some people may say that it is the request of the elders, of course, according to the succession of generations, it is better to have a man, this is something that God cannot solve, you can't solve it, all you can do is accept the fact that your parents prefer sons to daughters and do your best not to let their patriarchal emotions affect your children. Parents don't change, all we can do is accept and accompany, that's all. Especially dad, choose to protect his wife, if the parents prefer sons to daughters, it is likely to anger the wife and affect your feelings. As a father, a husband, you have a responsibility to protect them; as a son, you have to accompany and take care of your parents, accepting the fact that your parents have unreasonable needs, but it does not mean that you have to meet them.
I'm like that too, maybe I think the advantage of having a boy is that the guild is happier, that's all. When the second child is born, will you speculate about the attitude of the in-laws at the beginning? But the result is that the mother-in-law loves it and refuses to be hugged by outsiders, giggling. Now at night, in addition to breastfeeding, I sleep with my mother-in-law. The father's words are to take the big treasure round to the kindergarten, the relationship between the two people is getting better and better, and when they get home, they also take the initiative to take a small one. Now the atmosphere of the whole home is just fun. And the most important thing is that Yuanyuan accepted the second child very smoothly, and he liked his sister very much and helped all day.
Therefore, the birth of a second child must correct their own mentality, although the idea of wanting to have both children is the wish of most people, but if it is purely the pursuit of children of different genders and have a second child, it is recommended that you still not have children. For example, if you give birth to the princess or prince you want, you will spoil her/him in particular? If you don't have a same sex as you wish, will you be disappointed and make a difference in the right? Whether it is a man or a woman is arranged by God, disappointed and not disappointed, there is a healthy and lively and intelligent baby, not better than anything.
Every child's encounter with his or her mother is a kind of fate, so to love them well, whether it is a daughter or a son, is a gift from God.
Share a small poem "Pick Mom" that I like very much to everyone:
You ask me what I was doing before I was born
I replied
I pick my mother in heaven
I see you
Think you're especially nice
Want to be your son (daughter)
I thought I might not have that luck
Didn't expect that
Early the next morning
I'm already in your belly...
Yes, because we are good enough, the child has chosen us to be his parents, which is a great grace in itself, and what right do we have to pick their genders! Therefore, the birth of a second child really should not be too obsessed with the children's double completeness, the real double is not to have children and daughters, but the children have health and happiness.
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