What is a good marriage? I believe that everyone has their own understanding. For some women, marriage should be their own financial independence, personality independence, emotional independence.
They feel that men should be the icing on the cake, not in the snow. In fact, this is not objective, nor is it the whole of a good marriage.
In fact, in marriage, it is not the core for a woman to find a good man.
Because there are many excellent men, and the man who can really give you happiness is the cultivation it is engraved in the bones. He can put all his love for you into action, and such a man is the most trustworthy.
Any happy marriage, initially at least 50 thoughts of wanting to divorce, 100 urges to strangle each other.
There is not so much perfection in the world, and neither is everyone.
To want to know a good marriage, you must first know, what is a couple? That is, when one party is in pain, the other party will always be by his side, bear the pain with you, and face the wind and rain together.
At home, share the housework together, and when you are happy, share the joys of life together.
A truly good marriage is mutual trust and companionship as the cornerstone, escorted by loyalty, and maintained with responsibility and responsibility, only in this way can we achieve the other shore of happiness.
In my opinion, the temperament of two people and the complementarity of personalities are very important, and learning from each other is the best marriage.
The warmest picture is that when one person is making trouble, the other is laughing, that is, people often say that you are making trouble, she is laughing.
Two people should not have the same temper, both grumpy or gentle is not good.
Secondly, a happy marriage I think is a solid life for two people. Many times, we pursue the romance of love and the passion of life, but this is not long, only a plain life, and a solid life, is the ultimate perfection of marriage.
Over the years, I have experienced a lot of human feelings, found a lot of unhappy marriages, and lacked this kind of down-to-earth attitude to life.
Here, I have summarized a few criteria for you, you can refer to it.
01, down-to-earth life.
Many families always like to compare others and often dislike their other half.
It is not that his husband has low earning power, but he says that he dislikes his wife and has no others to be considerate.
Never think about it, although your husband's earning ability is low, he is careful enough, considerate enough, and takes care of the family.
In the same way, your wife is not considerate enough, but she will make money, she has strong ability to do things, and she is dealing with many major things in the family, is this not enough?
Each of us is not perfect, all have shortcomings, we have to look at the advantages of others, and it is the key to living a down-to-earth life. Don't compare yourself with others, maybe others are behind it, envying your life.
02, focus on the person you are with in the moment.
Some marriages may be due to parental pressure, or when the age is reached, they find a person who makes it up to live together.
You may feel that you are not so in love with each other, in fact, the essence of marriage is to live a life, and when two people choose to be together, they must have made plans in this regard.
Love is only a small part of marriage, the chai rice oil and salt in life, so that you do not have much time to consider the layer of love, the longer you get married, the weaker the impact of these feelings on marriage.
Whether the life is good or not depends on how the two people operate after marriage.
Even if two people who once loved each other, they can't go on if they can't run a business. Therefore, we have to grasp the person in front of you, don't have to think too much, you just need to remember that the person in front of you is the person who came to Baishou with you.
03, willing to take responsibility for themselves.
Many women think that they can always be spoiled by each other when they are married, which is what they said before they got married.
But in fact, these people do not understand that whether men or women, before marriage and after marriage, there are changes, after all, the responsibility is not the same.
There are too many trivial things in a family, where there are so many times to pamper, and if you want a good life, you must work together.
From boys to men, from girls to women, this is something that needs to be experienced and grown.
Everyone has to take responsibility for themselves, and they have to think about how to build this home better, and this is the most important thing.
Finally, in a marriage, don't always think about changing each other, but dare to tolerate each other's shortcomings, because perfect feelings need our tolerance and understanding.
Don't try to change each other, which not only hurts each other, but also makes yourself miserable, because everyone is different, otherwise a happy marriage will become unhappy.
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