Pay attention to the diary of the fish parenting do not get lost on the way to parenting
Many parents say that the child is not obedient, the acceptance of the acceptance is useless, and then escalated to scolding, the child still does not have a long memory of what to do? In fact, it is the wrong method, as a parent is usually preachy, in fact, reasoning can have, but if the child does not listen to the reasoning and roaring and playing, it is like saying that you bought a household appliance, even the instructions do not read the instructions to start using it is not good to simply smash it, but the child is not the same As he is a person is not a machine, you need to pay attention to him with an emotion and guide him.
Then for children before the age of six, their cognitive way is more dependent on perception and specific image thinking, they are dominated by the right brain, and the right brain is more emotional, so it is more suitable for both ways. One is the way of playing, less reasonable use of games to guide him, yelling at him to collect toys is better than making a phone call and saying ~ Oops ~ I am trapped and ask a rescue team to help me more effective. The second is the specific image, do not just use the mouth to say not to hit people but to demonstrate to him, if you do not hit people, you can do what to say, let the child learn specifically, and then use more opportunities to practice concretely.
For older children over the age of six, especially teenagers who listen to him more, there must be a reason why he is upset and does not want to write homework, and he must stand in the perspective of understanding his emotions and emotions and then make a plan with him to discuss solutions, and once he has done it, he will give him an encouragement to feedback positively. At the same time, I would like to say that we as parents are people who get along with the child day and night, but we are not the people who know him best, the child's world is different from ours, what we see in our world is the child's disobedience, grinding, unfocused, old mistakes, disobedience, if you bring these presets to take the child, you will really bring the chicken flying dog jump.
In fact, the child's inner world is very simple, he needs his parents to be able to listen to him, play with him, do things together, chat, analyze problems together, and discuss methods. Entering the child's world in these ways will cultivate a person with temperature and thought, rather than a cold and rusty machine.
I'm a fish, like to pay attention, to understand more children, less anxiety