Author | Inspector (total 1394 words, about 4 minutes to read)
"The son follows the father's surname" and "the son inherits the father's business" have been "branded" in the thinking of many people since ancient times.
This is something that is "profound" in the souls of many descendants of Yanhuang in the 5,000 years of Chinese history and culture. And this kind of thinking has been passed down from generation to generation in the Chinese nation, which is not only a product of the times, but also a subtle cognition in thought.
With the progress of the times and the gradual emancipation of ideas, people's ideological concepts have become more and more enlightened, the preference for sons over women has long been less obvious, and equality between men and women is the fairness and justice that people pursue. Among the younger generation around us, more and more couples feel:
● It doesn't matter much who the child's last name is with.
In their opinion, as long as it is their own children, the surname is completely fine. Therefore, in the younger generation, children and mothers' surnames have also become a phenomenon and trend of the new era.
Although couples in the younger generation have such ideas, they often have these major "drawbacks" in their daily lives, which make it difficult to find.
★ Children with one surname and one parent do not have the consent of the older generation
Even if many families now have a second child, it means that all families can accept a child with a father's surname and a mother's surname.
Although couples in the younger generation have such ideas, the elders in the family are often firmly opposed to such things.
Even when discussing, most of the elders will strictly refuse, saying that a person with a surname feels as if they have "separated the family", which shows that the older generation is still very resistant to such behavior.
And some people who have come over do have experience, and according to their sharing, it can be seen that there are indeed great drawbacks to actually doing so, although there seems to be no problem in doing so, but this operation may cause their families to have a "split" in thought in future life, and even disintegrate the harmonious atmosphere of a family from within.
★ A child's last name can be misunderstood by outsiders
It is very easy for people to have "misunderstandings" in a family with two different surnames.
Even if it can be recognized by acquaintances, it may make people feel that such a family is a "half-way family" in the first impression, and even the children are from different couples, if the explanation is not clear, it is very easy to cause great psychological shadows and harm to the children.
◆ Children who grow up in this atmosphere may suffer greater psychological trauma.
In particular, children are also very vulnerable to isolation from other children when they are with their peers. For children, such behavior will have a great impact on their lives, because the child's world does not have so many complicated things, and it is difficult for them to grasp the "measure" in their speech, which will cause a very large psychological shadow for such children.
★ It is easy to trigger "disputes" in some families
◆ On the one hand, they can not easily get the support of the older generation, if they force "hard to come" will have a contradiction with the elderly, there is no doubt that this is a very affecting the harmonious existence of family relations.
◆ On the other hand, even if two children who are related by blood have different surnames, they will always have a strange feeling of "if there is none" when they get along, and they do not have such a sense of intimacy in the eyes of outsiders, so that the feelings of the two people may be hurt.
If there is no contradiction, it is good, once there is a bad pool, it is bound to affect the harmony of the whole family and the harmony between the family, which is also the common sentiment of people, and it is not possible to complain about others.
▼ There is a difficult scripture in the family
In life, we always like to follow the trend, but it is best to decide and decide according to our family situation.
Therefore, if you really want to let the child follow the father's surname and the other follow the mother's surname, you must seek the consent of the family members, and do a complete ideological work for the child in daily life.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
In essence, the surname is indeed just a pronoun, and if a family is in harmony, then there is really no problem in what to call it.
Therefore, as long as you do a good job of ideological work for your children, and give them a harmonious and happy family, then it is indeed feasible to do so, otherwise you must carefully decide whether to do it like this.
Will you choose "son follows mother's last name"? Do you have a similar case around you?
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