The text I tweeted today is an excerpt from
Writings of Friedrich Nietzsche
Wisdom about love, self and growth
01
Love is two people illuminating each other
Brother, I have asked you a question alone, this question is like the lead pendant of detection, from which I can understand your soul.
You are young and longing for children and marriage, but I ask you, are you entitled to crave children? Are you a winner? Have you overcome yourself? Can you control feelings? Can you dominate your virtues? Is your desire an animalistic need, or is it a sign of loneliness or inner conflict?
I hope that you will have victory and freedom and then desire children, and that you should erect living monuments to your victory and liberation. What you have erected is to surpass you, but first you must establish your own righteous soul and body.
Not only should you reproduce, but you should also work hard to move up, and maybe marriage can help you. You should create a higher body, which is the beginning of movement, the wheel that naturally turns. In short, you have to create a creator.
I call marriage a double will, it creates a creator who is higher than the Creator, respects each other as guests, and marriage is the implementation of this will. Let this be the meaning and truth of marriage.
But what should I call marriage, which many people call marriage? It is the poverty, filth, and pitiful complacency of the souls of the two men!
They call it marriage, a match made in heaven. I don't like the paradise of the superfluous, I don't like the animals that are netted in heaven.
The God who has stumbled to bless the unmarried is also far away, don't laugh at such a marriage, what child has no reason to cry for his parents?
I find that all people are careful when they buy things, their eyes are shrewd, but they are confused when it comes to marrying their wives. Many ephemeral acts of stupidity, the kind you call love, tend to end in marriage and be replaced by longer acts of stupidity.
The so-called love, hopefully, is sympathy for the suffering and the blinded, and generally speaking, the mutual illumination of two people. And even the best love is just a symbolic smile and a painful passion that can illuminate the road ahead of you to the heights.
One day you have to go beyond yourself to love, and first learn to love, you have to drink the bitter wine of love. Even the best love has a bitter taste, so it arouses your desire to transcendence and to pursue creation.
The desire of the Creator, the yearning for Superman, my brother, is this your will to marriage? I call it divine will, divine marriage.
02
Imitating others is a waste of time
Don't be self-righteous. Don't think that if you hear the word "self-control," you can do self-control. Self-control requires you to take practical action. Restrain one small thing every day. If this cannot be done easily, it cannot be called self-control.
If you can't control yourself in small things, you can't control yourself in big things.
Self-control, that is, self-control. That is to say, you have to resist the desires that are entrenched in your heart, not be swayed by desires, and become the masters of your own actions.
— Nietzsche, The Wanderer and His Shadow
Whoever it is, it has a skill.
And the strength of this skill belongs only to him.
Some people discover their strengths early on and use them to succeed. Some people never figure out what they are capable of in their entire lives. Some people discover their strengths on their own. Others, on the other hand, refer to the world's reactions and constantly explore what their abilities are.
In short, as long as you persevere and keep challenging, you can always find your own skills.
— Nietzsche, "Human, Too Human"
Even if you read more methodologies, even if you learn the practices of famous entrepreneurs and rich people, you will not be able to find a suitable approach for yourself. This is a matter of course.
A good medicine, B arsenic cream. What others do is often not right for you.
The problem is that you don't understand your "why" at all. Why do you want to do this? Why want that? Why do you want to be that person? Why do you want to go that way? You have never thought about these questions, and naturally you do not know the answers to them. As long as you figure out these "whys", things are simple.
Things will be in front of your eyes, there is no need to imitate others to waste time. You have clearly seen the way forward, just take a step forward.
— Nietzsche's Twilight of the Idol
03
Boredom is because you have stopped growing
Boredom is because you stop growing, and the more difficult things are to get, the more you yearn for them.
However, once you take it into possession, after a while, you will get bored. Whether it is a thing or a person, there is no exception.
Because you have got it, you are used to it, so you get bored.
However, what you are really tired of is actually yourself, and what you get does not change in your mind, that is, your inner perception of such things does not change, so you are tired.
The more stagnant you are, the easier it is to get bored.
A person who is constantly growing is always changing, and even if he is facing the same object, he will not feel the slightest tired.
Pleasure and unhappiness come from the mind. People always think that pleasure and unhappiness are given to them by the outside world. However, they actually arise from their own thinking.
For example, after doing something, we will think, "If only we had done it in the first place," and then we would be unhappy, and conversely, if we feel that "because of this, things can be completed smoothly", we will experience pleasure.
We thought we could choose one of two approaches, which is why we had this idea. That is to say, the premise of this mode of thinking is that we always have the freedom to choose one or the other.
Without the freedom of choice, we would not be able to feel pleasure or unhappiness in the face of the status quo.
Why free people are more slender, want to be more free, want to see things more freely, want to make the most of their abilities and personalities, and think that this can bring many benefits.
First, they don't let go of their flaws and don't do evil, even if they don't deliberately control them. Because these things affect their freedom to see things.
Similarly, the feelings of anger and disgust that prevent one from becoming more free will naturally be discarded.
Truly free people can always give the impression of being slim and dashing, precisely because their spirit and heart abandon the superfluous.
- Nietzsche, The Knowledge of Happiness
From Holographic Universe
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