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When people reach middle age, there will be some small problems in the body. If it's a woman, there are a lot of people who have nodules. It's either thyroid nodules, breast nodules, and of course, some ovarian cysts, uterine cysts.
In Chinese medicine, nodules and cysts are actually melons on a vine, which are caused by emotional depression.
Therefore, it is not an exaggeration to say that women who have "nodules" are good women in everyone's mouth.
Such a good woman probably has these common characteristics: delicate in thought, but extremely kind, thinking more about others than herself, a bit of "I would rather the world bear me, I will not bear the world".
To put it simply and crudely, it is "old good man".
Generally speaking, physical illness is actually an external manifestation of lifestyle, which is related to daily diet and emotional mood. If it is because of the emotional illness, the emotional problem is not aware of the solution, the illness will not be completely better, even if you take medicine every day.
And the mothers who have nodules, I want to use the experience of a mother to tell you: This disease is actually telling you, don't endure things, you have to live for yourself.
After the "nodule", for their own living mother Xiao Chen
Take the experience of my friend Xiao Chen. After giving birth to a baby, she inadvertently had a physical examination, and she found that she had nodules in her thyroid glands, in addition to which her breasts also had nodules. The doctor told her without looking up, "In the future, I will be less sullen and don't put up with things." She was stunned, how did the doctor know her so well?
Later, I learned that in fact, the doctor was not a god-man, but only had some understanding of the cause of this disease.
Women who have knots are basically good women, good wives who are gentle and considerate to their husbands, good daughters-in-law who are filial piety to their in-laws, and good mothers who are dutiful to their children.
They were nice to everyone around them, but they had wronged only one person— herself.
The doctor's words made Xiao Chen very emotional. Thinking about it carefully, she has suffered a lot of grievances in her life, and she has misunderstood and endured, and she has the feeling of "like a fish in her throat". Unexpectedly, the thyroid gland first showed symptoms.
Why do you want to be so aggrieved? If she treats herself as someone else, will she be nicer to others?
People live this life, if they care so much about the feelings of others, always consider others when they talk and do things, and don't they think about themselves, isn't it living for others? But that's my life!
So she decided, no longer to put up with it, to obey her own will, to live for herself.
Her earliest change came from saying "no" to her sister-in-law's various interference in family affairs.
When the sister-in-law was ready to send her baby to her for the summer vacation and let her take care of it, she firmly said "no", because she was really fed up with the nephew's bullying of her own baby and the stalking of her in-laws. After refusing, the in-laws' phone immediately called, and she simply and neatly refused.
When her husband came back from work, he scolded her for acting too selfishly today, and she dared to defend herself: After taking over, it was me and not you who took care of my nephew. Have any of you ever considered it for me?
After this battle was won, she felt a breath of breath held in her heart, and finally had a breakthrough.
What exactly is "living for yourself"?
There is a classic sentence in Atlas Shrugged: I swear with my life and my love for it: I will never live for others, nor will I ask others to live for me.
This is the ultimate explanation of individual freedom and the best example of "living for yourself."
If the things in your life upset you, and the evaluations and suggestions of the people around you make you fall into it, you may wish to reason out which of these things and suggestions are related to yourself and which are imposed on you by others.
"Not living for others" refers to other people's opinions, suggestions and lives, which have no essential impact on you, you can refuse, you can ignore, and there is no need to pay for everyone's feelings.
In family life, others refer to everyone except the small family (husband and children). Including in-laws, sisters-in-law, mother-in-law parents and relatives.
"Not letting others live for themselves" means that you also have no right to interfere in other people's lives. This includes, but is not limited to, that you give advice to others out of good intentions and the other person does not accept it; because the other person does not meet your expectations, you have a grudge against her/him. If you use the phrase "don't let others live for themselves," you probably understand the other person.
For example, if the in-laws break their promises and say that they will help bring the baby, the result will not be realized, then they will not form a hard knot in their hearts. They are free, and you are free.
"Living for yourself" is to dare to say "no" to unfair treatment, not to accept unreasonable demands in its entirety, to have the courage to laugh at the spiritual PUA and the so-called moral kidnapping, and to return them with a blank eye of "who loves whom".
When you think more about yourself, you will find that others have a lot of respect for your attitude.
Senior nursery, psychological counselor. Understand the parenting and psychology, but also pay attention to the self-growth and family management of baoma, and strive to be the intimate person of mothers.
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