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Do you know what happens if you don't let your child eat snacks? Many parents are afraid that their children will eat too much snacks and will gain weight. Some parents are worried that their children are addicted to snacking and will get caries and unhealthy. Therefore, some parents explicitly forbid their children to eat snacks. But what happens to children when they are forbidden to snack? Parents may not guess!
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As parents, most people believe that if their children are forbidden to eat snacks, their children will naturally stop eating. I used to be the same, I was afraid that my children would not eat snacks well, and I never bought snacks for my children.
However, when I went to the supermarket with my son that year, my son was lying in the jelly area, refusing to leave, and looking at me with tears in his eyes. I asked him what was wrong? The son said, "Mom, you don't know, I made people laugh." Because I was given a jelly at the same table, but I couldn't open the lid and couldn't eat it! ”
My son had never eaten jelly, he was 5 years old at the time, and I hadn't bought it for him once. But I never thought my son would be ridiculed for not having eaten snacks. Unexpectedly, my son told me, "Mom, the jelly is delicious." After I ate it, I dreamed of eating it again that night. Can you buy me a bag of jelly and let me eat enough? ”
Although my son was pitiful, I refused. I thought it was over, but to my surprise, the next night, I saw a large bag of jelly in my son's bag. I asked my son, what's going on? The son said that he did not eat buns and soy milk for breakfast, and saved money to buy them.
This made my heart chill, and I began to reflect on the education of my children, where there was a problem. Perhaps, many parents feel that prohibiting their children from eating snacks can ensure that their children will stay away from snacks for a lifetime. Obviously, this is unlikely. Conversely, children may also steal snacks and eat more snacks behind their backs. This completely violates the original intention of parents to forbid their children to eat snacks, but it hurts the child's health even more.
In addition, according to my in-depth research, this shadow of being forbidden to eat snacks and the repressed deep desire will also affect the child's life when he grows up.
Seeing the way such children grow up, many parents, including me, regret that they really should not forbid their children from eating snacks.
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Children who never eat snacks may be like this when they grow up! Parents: It's hard to accept
There is a real example, a boy who was not allowed to drink Coke by his parents since he was a child, and when he grew up, he became addicted to drinking Coke, and he couldn't stop drinking it at all. As a result, the child got stones, which affected his health.
The reason for this can be explained by the "Pandora effect" of psychology, also known as the "forbidden fruit effect". The "forbidden fruit effect" is about the idea that if you want to ask others to do something, it is best to have a good reason. Otherwise, the curiosity and rebelliousness of others will expand infinitely.
To use here is to say that children's curiosity about snacks, their enthusiasm for snacks, their enjoyment of the taste of snacks, and even their liking for the outer packaging of snacks are all curiosity and desire to enjoy.
If parents blindly forbid their children to eat snacks, tell their children: "No snacks, not once." Then, the child may succumb to the majesty of the parents and temporarily obey the orders, but this desire and rebellious mentality gradually expand, and then evolve into the desire to eat snacks.
As a result, some children put into action when they were children, and began to steal snacks and eat uncontrollably behind their parents' backs. And some children are depressed to adulthood, and they will indulge in snacking without a bottom line.
Such an ending is certainly not the consequence that parents want to see. Therefore, blindly prohibiting children from snacking is really not the best choice.
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Blindly prohibiting children from eating snacks is better to give children a chance to eat snacks
Parents want to completely forbid their children from snacking, but blindly ordering is equivalent to covering their ears and ringing the bell. Because, the matter of eating snacks, in the child's heart, the amount is quite important, which parents may not have thought.
There is a scene in "Mom is Superman", which is enough to illustrate. Children's love for snacks is far beyond the imagination of parents. Dong Jie's son was at the top, because his mother stole his own snacks, and he cried bitterly: "That's my favorite food!" But you gave me all to eat!" ”
Beloved snacks can even exceed the importance of mothers, this is the world of children. Only when adults understand can they not blindly forbid children to eat snacks. Otherwise, there is a rift between parents and children, and the relationship is easy to become more and more deadlocked.
Instead of blindly forbidding their children to eat snacks, parents should give their children a chance to eat snacks. Moreover, control the amount of snacks that children eat, which can not only take care of the child's mental health, but also be more beneficial to the child's physical health.
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So how to control the amount of snacks children eat and avoid children from eating snacks?
Here I applied "language aversion therapy" to help the child successfully control the amount of snacks eaten, so that the child's love for snacks is not so strong.
At that time, in order to help my son quit the habit of disobedience and eating snacks, I specially bought three bags of jelly to go home. On that day, my son was very happy, and he threw himself into my arms happily and said to me, "Thank you Mom, you are so good!" ”
Just when my son was happy, I took the initiative to open the jelly for my son, and my son directly stuffed it into his mouth. Soon, my son signaled me to eat one too, but my actions directly changed my son's face. I said to my son, "Moms don't eat, this is not good for the child's health, and moms don't dare to eat it often." ”
The son was curious when he heard it, why did his mother say this? Therefore, I used this topic to explain to my son the harm of eating jelly often. For example, jelly belongs to the processed food, which contains carrageenan, gelatin, thickeners and other ingredients, children grow up to the body stage, often eat easy to affect the absorption of necessary elements, very bad for health.
As soon as the son heard this, his desire to eat jelly was greatly reduced. Since then, I haven't loved jelly much. This kind of language aversion therapy can control the amount of snacks that children eat, so as to avoid children from eating too much snacks and harming their health.
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