The author | Dong Lin Fu
In the eyes of many people, "rich second generation" seems to have become a derogatory term, representing "profligacy, no learning and no skills, and finally sitting on the mountain and eating the air." ”
And have we actually thought about what makes the rich rich? How can the poor change their mindset and turn themselves into rich people? Is the "second generation of the rich" really as bad as we think?
What is the reality?
In fact, the richer the people, the more important they are to the education of their children. Keeping the family business is only the most basic requirement for the "rich second generation", creating more wealth, not being eliminated by the times is the goal of the "rich second generation".
What is most worth thinking about is not that the rich have more money, but that people have a lot of money, but they have more advanced concepts and more correct methods in the education of their children and the inheritance of family style.
In fact, what really makes us feel ashamed is that the "rich second generation" not only "has mines at home", but also works harder than your children, and accepts the correct concept of a more top-level way of dealing with the world, self-cultivation and wealth growth.
Rather than providing children with rich material wealth, the rich pay more attention to making their minds wiser, and we often only see the "wealth" of the children of the rich on the surface.
One of my good writer friends Min is a typical "second generation farmer", she has worked hard to break through the shackles of her original family, and she currently has more than 100 million assets, and her way of educating her children is worth learning.
Min itself is a typical example of changing the fate through knowledge, graduated from a master's degree in 985 key universities, and when she was an undergraduate, she could support herself by earning writing fees, and now has her own cultural company, with a large annual income.
Min's daughter Tiantian is in the first year of junior high school in a key middle school, and the accumulated money for many years has been 320,000 yuan, which can be enough for a down payment of a house in a second-tier city.
What surprised me was not Min's earning power, but how she cultivated a sunny, healthy, energetic and self-motivated daughter like Tiantian who had the aura of "rich second generation" but did not have the slightest "rich second generation disease".
There are many advantages of sweetness, just to name a few:
1, excellent children have super self-discipline.
Sweet is very self-disciplined. Whether it is getting up in the morning to go to school, or writing homework after school, including going to various art, swimming, basketball and other special classes on holidays, Sweet is arranged in an orderly manner, and will not let her parents urge her or let her parents worry.
Including their own weight, Sweet can be well controlled.
Sweetie weighs herself every night before going to bed, and she tells me that if she is too light or overweight, she controls and adjusts through diet and exercise.
Sweet's point is that a balanced posture is not only a manifestation of beauty, but also a necessary condition for maintaining a good state of health and mental state, so don't underestimate the role of maintaining a good body.
Sweet cleaned her room clean and tidy, spotless, Sweet said "why sweep every day without sweeping a house"? The clean and tidy room makes her feel refreshed, the items are clearly classified, she can reach out and get them, and she will never waste a lot of time because of finding things.
2, wealth is a responsibility, so that every penny is worth the money.
Sweet this point of view makes me feel that she has a sense of maturity of youth and old age. She saved up the money and managed the money, and the little one had already saved 320,000 yuan, and Sweetie said to me: "Money should be spent on the blade of the knife, and not a penny can be wasted." ”
I took Sweetie to dinner a few times, and I found that Sweetie's attitude toward money is not "slamming the door", but whether it is "worth it".
She always chooses a clean and tidy restaurant with hygiene and quality assurance, although the price is a little more expensive.
And she thinks that the quality of the ingredients can not pass, poor sanitary conditions of the restaurant, even if it is cheap, she will not eat, because can not save some money and damage the health, this is her consumption concept to me.
But Sweetie will not waste every penny, should not spend money, do not need things, Sweet can do to restrain themselves.
Sweetie said that her mother told her that every penny is hard-won and full of sweat, so don't squander it, let the money make money, than squander the money, more reflects the value of the money and the wisdom of the money holders.
Min has also told me many times that she would rather donate money to people in need than buy luxury goods, because for her, it is necessary to maximize the value of every penny and use money to do meaningful things, rather than use money to enjoy and live a luxurious life.
3, to be friends with positive people, positive energy people.
Sweetie told me that her friends are all optimistic, and even if they encounter the worst things, they can find something to be thankful for.
Negative people see everything as gray, and before they even start, they are already doomed to failure.
And even if a positive life encounters no matter how big the difficulties and setbacks, it can find a little light in the darkness, and find ways to break through the siege and go to the light.
Min told me that she told Sweetie since she was a child to stay away from people who bring you negative emotions and are full of negative energy.
People's magnetic field is contagious, and positive people, people with positive energy, the energy in your body can also be full, even if the road of life will encounter various setbacks, but I believe that with the help and guidance of positive energy and successful people, you can always go to the light.
And with those who complain and complain, but never find reasons for themselves, sooner or later they will let themselves be depressed and decadent.
Tiantian's tenacity in learning and her long-term status of maintaining the top 3 in the grade are not unrelated to the positive energy environment around her.
4, be a diligent and low-key person.
Sweetie is a very diligent child.
Min told me that compared to whether the child is smart, she is more concerned about whether the child is diligent, the sky is high, wealth is an appendage of diligence, as long as the child develops a good habit of diligence, she will not worry about the child's future inability to support himself.
Sweetie is a very simple, low-key and hard-working child.
Whether in study, or in doing housework or physical exercise and other activities, Tiantian has never slackened off, she is like a hard-working little bee, arranging her study and life fully.
Sweetie told me that her mother told her that laziness can make people lose the joy of life.
It is worth mentioning that Tiantian always thinks of herself as industrious, but she never thinks she is smart, although she is indeed very smart.
Min told me not to praise children for being smart, because that would make children think that they were born with a sense of superiority and that it would be easy to give up their personal efforts. In fact, no matter how smart a child is, the key to success and happiness is to see if he is diligent and hard enough.
Sweetie is also a very low-key child, never arrogant. Practical and hard-working, pragmatic Sweetie's favorite thing is to sit in the study at home and read, young to read widely, Min told me, Sweet little age is well-informed, the maturity of thought is far beyond the peers, most of them benefit from reading a lot of good books.
Reading a good book is like talking to a wise man, and the harvest is self-evident, Min said to me.
Min said to me, if you want to stand at a certain height in the education of your children, it is not enough to rely on our own knowledge and insight, you have to read more good books, so that you know how to guide your daughter, and when your daughter grows up, you must let her develop a good habit of loving reading, the stone of the mountain, or to attack the jade.
After reading Min's parenting style, did you inspire your children's homeschooling? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.