This article is from the WeChat public account (fish yearning life)
Many times, the emotions of those around you, whether low or high, will be affected by it, or will produce fierce resistance, or empathy.
In a relationship, when you love each other deeply, your emotions are more "imaginative", and no one can control their emotions. Once his emotions are not right, the other half will be driven by his emotions. As the saying goes, whoever is serious suffers losses.
Especially those who are deeply in love, it is always easy to compromise and easy to be led by the nose. While relationships are what you want, for women, being "eaten" by a man means you will be incredibly humble in the relationship.
Maybe it's because women are too obsessive, love too deeply, and are "obedient" to men most of the time. In the long run, you are used to "obedience", he is used to "domineering". That's why a lot of women don't have a say in front of men. Whatever you say, you'll be denied by him. In the end you will obediently give in to him. He said one is one, no negotiable. Although sometimes women feel helpless, they love him too much, so they accommodate him. The men you get along with in these four ways are just playing with you and not really loving you!
1. Love freedom and play "Disappear" at any time.
A man may just like to be free, to live an unfettered life, and to let himself go.
He never tells you his whereabouts, but when he needs to find you, he will contact you or show up in front of you. You ask him why he doesn't report to her, doesn't care about her, and he always has a whole bunch of excuses to explain or prevaricate you, a little impatient. In fact, the real reason is that he doesn't care about you.
Again and again indulged, and again and again he could be forgiven, so he was unscrupulous. Because he knows that you love him deeply and expects that you will not leave him easily. With "love" as a shield, he has enough confidence to easily get you.
Therefore, if he often disappears without a trace and does not take the initiative to report to you, you will not be able to contact him. In fact, the reason is very simple. He kidnaps you in the name of love.
2. Self-centered and disregard for others.
No matter what decision you make, whatever you do, he thinks about himself first, whether he likes it or not, whether he is comfortable with himself or not, he is self-centered. Many times, he completely ignores your feelings or thoughts. As a "monarch," you have to revolve around him. What he wants to do, you have to follow; he doesn't want to do anything, and you have nothing to complain about.
People are always selfish. Most of the time, they always think about themselves first. There's nothing wrong with that, but under the premise of love, "selfishness" can also become "giving."
When a man does not change his selfish appearance in the face of love, and you easily compromise because of love, then he will only become more aggressive and more unscrupulous. He does what he likes, and his own things are the most important. You can't control it anyway.
Well, in the long run, you will only live more and more sadly. How can he know how to understand you and hurt you?
3, don't care, don't care about you
Women are inherently insecure and need the care of men.
It is said that men who truly love you will never let you suffer any grievances. Even he himself would not allow himself to do anything to hurt you. If he sees you being bullied by others, he will definitely stand up for you because he cares about you.
But some men, in the face of love, won't take the initiative to care about your feelings or even take care of you when you're sick. They simply say "remember to take medicine", "drink more hot water", "remember to go to the doctor", and so on.
This is no different from the performance of ordinary friends. It feels like having a fake boyfriend, but it's dispensable. Won't hold you and comfort you when you're uncomfortable, always fooling you with the excuse of being busy at work. Give it a good name to raise this home, and you have no better reason to blame him. In the face of family or love, "work" is still the most important. Not to mention that you have minor illnesses. No big deal. It's too pretentious.
4. Play with other women
A man who "kidnaps" you in the name of love will still play with other women at any time and any place. In short, don't miss any opportunity.
If a man is only thinking about how to get more women, keeping you around like a spare tire, and not caring about your sadness and pain, it means that he doesn't love you at all.
Even if you find out he has a leg with another woman, he doesn't care, and even if you want to break up, he won't stay at all. Because in his heart, he feels that you can't really leave him. When he needs you, just a few sweet words to you can coax you back to him. So, whether you're sad or not, it doesn't make sense to him.
Many lovers are passionate at the beginning, and they are also full of tolerance and care when they get along. Over time, slowly get along, the passion recedes, becomes dull, and finally falls apart. Feelings change, and so does the behavior of getting along. If a woman looks closely, she will definitely find flaws.
Feelings are originally a very beautiful and sweet thing, but they are often called torture and pain. Pure love is mixed with an insincere attitude, and everything becomes impure and not beautiful.
Men get along with you like this, just playing, not really loving you. How many women have been temporarily seduced by men, lost their minds, and been seriously injured. Women still polish their eyes and stop being fooled.