Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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People's personalities are different, some people are prone to underestimate themselves, and some people are prone to overestimating themselves.
These two habits have their own pros and cons, cannot be extreme, and need to be neutralized.
People who underestimate themselves are not easy to hit walls, relatively safe, but also easy to miss opportunities, and even more so become a kind of inferiority.
And people who overestimate themselves are prone to hitting walls, punching their faces, and being disappointed, and will often encounter situations that become jokes or disappointed expectations.
If you have to compare, it is better to underestimate yourself, more like a kind of protection for yourself. As long as underestimation does not evolve into inferiority, there is no problem.
Conversely, overestimating is sometimes a form of blind confidence, narcissism, arrogance, and self-righteousness.
So when the result is different from what you expected, you will be very disappointed, embarrassed, and ugly.
Here are two things that men and women are most likely to overestimate themselves, first of all, women, who habitually overestimate two things.
The first is their own appearance, which most people probably feel the same way, and the key problem may lie in the two things of makeup and selfie beauty.
There was a slogan in this era that "there are no ugly women, only lazy women", so most women believed it.
The amount of time and money they spend on their faces is countless, and some of them have worked and look beautiful.
But for what it looks like when you get home and remove your makeup, sometimes the gap is really big.
So that some men fall in love with them by their appearance, they find that she is almost like a changed person.
If this woman's soul is also very interesting, there is something in her heart, and this man is indeed in love, then she will not care too much.
If this man is only a character who looks at the face and does not use his heart, then it is easy to lose patience after seeing the real face.
At such a time, women still think that men are conquered by themselves, or think that they are beautiful, still high and proud, and it is easy to run into a wall in men.
Then women will have a second overestimation point, that is, "the depth of men's feelings for themselves".
No matter what men like about themselves, whenever they are together, most women will take it for granted that they are attractive.
Thus capturing the man's heart, gaining his love, possessing his heart, otherwise why would he be willing to be with himself?
If the man is a little more attentive, a little more sweet, and a little better for her, then it is more certain that the man really loves himself.
Unfortunately, men will be with women because of a lot of realities or pros and cons, not necessarily because of love.
Or they were initially attracted by "beauty", and after being together, they found that there was too much gap between plain faces, so they felt deceived, and they began to have a dislike psychology.
At this time, it is a sense of responsibility, or a little character in the support, if the woman is still pampered and proud, feel that he loves himself deeply and all kinds of "doing", it may be easy to let the other party completely lose the behavior of continuing to be and endure.
Some men like to overestimate their own two things, the first is also their own charm, but women have a difference.
The reason is that they believe that the so-called "man relies on temperament", and indeed, human temperament is important, and man's temperament is more important.
It's just that many men look ordinary and have an ordinary temperament, but they are very confident and feel that they are very unusual, so they are also prone to self-righteousness.
For example, the average woman does not look up to them, thinks that they are not worthy of themselves, and thinks that they are great in all aspects.
There is also a habitual mentality of looking down on others, or not behaving like this on the surface, but thinking like this in the heart.
This is probably the nature of some men, thinking that they are men, they have their own strength and attraction.
With such a mentality, most of them are also harvesting some white eyes, or being exposed by straight people, and it is easy to let yourself suddenly be in an embarrassing position.
At the same time, men also like to overestimate the ex's feelings for him.
Most women are affectionate and affectionate, or sentimental, such as the dynamics of frequent sad remarks.
When her ex-boyfriend saw it, she might be proud and feel that her ex-girlfriend must be missing herself and couldn't let go of herself.
If you just think about it yourself, if you immediately take such a thing to show off with your friends, or directly ask your ex-girlfriend if she can't let go of herself, it is likely to touch a nose of ash, making people laugh or despise it.
Besides, even if the ex-girlfriend really can't put it down, this kind of man treats this as a kind of capital to show off, which will make her feel sad or disgusted.
I found that I really remembered the wrong person, and when I was disappointed, I would never take this ex-boyfriend seriously again, and I was even ashamed to mention it.
In short, it is not a good habit to overestimate yourself, because it is easy to be self-righteous.
It's completely different from self-confidence, which is sometimes more like not caring about how others see you.
And overestimation is easy to get together to confirm the importance that the other party attaches to themselves, and as a result, they are punched in the face and despised, just like a kind of self-please, and the blow may be very heavy.
Therefore, not underestimating oneself, nor overestimating oneself, is the king of dealing with people.
Soberly understand their own ability, value, not arrogant, not pretentious, the posture will be more calm and calm and better-looking.