Liu Jing, the author of "Parental Love", as a female writer, when she writes novels and scripts, she naturally focuses on women. The characters in the play are all unfolded through the heroine, Anjie.
Sister An Xin is beautiful and elegant, but her fate is illegitimate; her girlfriend Ge Meixia is beautiful and affectionate, but she has been repeatedly frustrated by birth problems; the matchmaker Secretary Yang is intellectually wise, but as an old revolutionary, she cannot be judged in vain; the younger generation of women, Yafiyani, has her own personality and has also harvested her own happiness.
This is a female sentient being map, the only one who has not given birth to offspring is Ge Meixia, and it is the times that make her miss the opportunity to give birth.
In "Parental Love", Ge Meixia is the only person who can speak after Anjie lives on the island. The two of them often sat in Anjie's yard, sipping coffee and chatting about their hearts.
Ge Meixia's envious look at Anjie and the timely compliment made her feel very comfortable and proud on the desert island. Anjie did not know that it was precisely because of her arrival that Ge Meixia, who had never seen the hope and goal of life, had a yearning and pursuit.
In Ge Meixia's heart, living Anjie's life became her goal in the future life, and she moved closer to this goal step by step until she really lived such a life.
Many people don't like Ge Meixia, saying that she is too ambitious and ambitious, but throughout her life, as a descendant of a "fishing bully" who even fishermen look down on, she can only be stepped on by everyone if she does not step by step.
In Ge Meixia's body, there are too many complexities and weaknesses of human nature, if you can deeply understand her and read her, you will also see through the hundreds of turns of human nature.
At the beginning, Anjie awakened Ge Meixia's yearning for a better life
Anjie first met Ge Meixia when he was carrying water on the island. As the most beautiful woman on the island, she naturally attracted the eyes of other women on the island, and there was envy and jealousy in this look. A lot of people want to see Anjie's jokes.
Anjie wore a beautiful skirt, stepped on high heels and twisted her waist to the well, she could not draw water, she caused ridicule from everyone, and people were whispering: "Look at the mother-in-law of Commander Jiang's family, it is really an embroidered pillow, it is not useful in the middle!" ”
Anjie stood at the edge of the well in shame and was confused, and Ge Meixia appeared to relieve Anjie. She taught Anjie how to fetch water and how to pick up burdens.
Although Anjie lost someone because he could not fetch water, he met the only good girlfriend on the island, Ge Meixia.
She invited Teacher Ge to her home and invited her to have coffee together. This is also the first time That Ge Meixia has walked into the home of the head of the base, and she has fallen in love with an atmosphere when she looks at Anjie's spacious courtyard like a basketball court and a laid-back and comfortable look.
She thought, "The days ahead will allow me to live a life like this for a day, and I will be satisfied." ”
On the surface, Ge Meixia is extremely flattering to Anjie, but in her heart, she does not feel that she is inferior to Anjie. Like Anjie, she wears a hat with bad composition, and she is also beautiful and cultured, but Anjie married Jiang Defu, and she has a completely different fate with Ge Meixia.
At that moment, Ge Meixia understood that she could only find a man like Jiang Defu who could shield her from the wind and rain and protect her left and right, so that she could sit on an equal footing with Anjie, and she began to plan and work hard for this goal.
In order to get closer to this goal and become a person like Anjie, Ge Meixia tried everything she could, and finally she married Wang Zhenbiao, who was higher than Jiang Defu's official rank, and lived the life she wanted.
The elderly Ge Meixia danced square dances, drank coffee, and reminisced about the past, which was really like a distant world.
Some people say that Ge Meixia's ambitions are too heavy, her heart is too deep, in order to compete with Anjie, she has endured for so many years, but she refuses to get married. It was not until Wang Zhenbiao, who had lost his wife, asked for a wife that he realized his dream. Although she achieved her goal, she missed the age of childbearing, and it was not worth it to have no children of her own in her life.
I disagree with this view.
Ge Meixia can go from a despised fishing bully daughter to a superior and happy life in her old age step by step, she yearns for a better life, is not affected by the people around her, insists on being herself, and is always the teacher Ge who speaks softly and behaves gently.
As a person in the mire, it is not easy to do this, what person does not aspire to live a high-quality life of material wealth and spiritual pleasure, but how many people can face their hearts like Ge Meixia and stick to it to the end?
From this point of view, as ordinary people, we should all admire such women.
Ge Meixia has never lowered her standards in her approach to marriage
Some people may say that the reason why Ge Meixia married Wang Zhenbiao is to live a superior life, she is so utilitarian, what is there to admire?
I think this kind of statement is not completely correct, utilitarianism is completely wrong, in order to achieve the goal to fight is too ambitious?
Marriage is originally a woman's second rebirth, and a woman's happiness is directly related to what kind of partner she finds.
Choose the right, happy life, choose the wrong, if you can't stop the loss in time, you can only suffer for a lifetime.
Therefore, to be a happy and wise woman, you must not "love the brain", do not make decisions based on momentary impulses and passions, but weigh the pros and cons and make your own most favorable choices.
Such an approach seems realistic and utilitarian, but in the days to come, it will better display its talents and truly live the life you want.
And those seemingly desperate loves, in the end, are nothing more than turning the water that was originally in the brain into endless tears.
Like Anjie, Ge Meixia is a person who pretends to be high and refuses to be at the mercy of fate, and ordinary people cannot enter their eyes.
Influenced by her origins, there are very few people on the island who are willing to marry her, and coupled with her critical eyes, it is even more difficult. So by the time Anjie met her, she was already a well-known "old girl" on the island.
Even Wang Zhenbiao's son Wang Haiyang laughed at her: "I don't look at who I am, and I still pick fat and thin, and it is good that people don't dislike her." ”
In the face of the rumors on the island, Ge Meixia is not unable to hear, but she has never changed her original intention because of these words, lowering the standard of marriage, in order to block The mouth of Youyou.
If that were the case, she would not have been able to successfully move from the island to the city many years later, when Wang Zhenbiao's widowed wife came to ask her to marry her, and live the life of her dreams.
Treating Lao Ding's ruthlessness, Ge Meixia did not complain, but tolerated and understood
Before Ge Meixia and Wang Zhenbiao, she and Lao Ding also had a love experience, and they were almost about to get married.
Old Ding lost his wife, and there were four and a half big boys, but his position and identity still attracted Ge Meixia, who was not small in age.
Lao Ding also has feelings for Teacher Ge, he has always wanted to find a beautiful and cultured woman like Anjie, and Ge Meixia just meets his requirements.
The two men were in love with concubines and were about to go to the palace of marriage, but they were vigorously interfered with by the political commissar Wang Zhenbiao, threatening Lao Ding's political future, and Lao Ding was afraid, and finally chose to abandon Ge Meixia and save his career.
Old Ding's exit made Ge Meixia's situation on the island more difficult, and Anjie also hugged her unevenly, saying that Old Ding was really not good, in the end he still didn't love her enough, he only thought about his own business, and he was not worthy of Ge Meixia at all.
Ge Meixia looked at Anjie's indignant look, only smiled slightly, she said that although she was abandoned by Lao Ding, she could also understand him, and few people could leave everything for Anjie like Jiang Defu.
Ge Meixia's attitude towards Lao Ding fully explains her generosity and quality. People are often the easiest to expose their true faces when they are angry, and some people are generous and decent on the surface, but they really have to suffer losses and humiliation, and immediately change like a person, becoming an imageless shrew and a scoundrel.
In the face of Lao Ding's ruthlessness and selfishness, Ge Meixia chose to be patient. She is different from Anjie, who is smooth sailing, so her mouth is unobstructed. And she has become accustomed to betrayal and repression, and also accepts the ups and downs of life, so she can face the tribulations and be more calm.
Ge Meixia did not choose to take revenge on Lao Ding, but chose to accept and understand, which is her most precious quality. She will not go with the flow and break the jar because of the difference in circumstances, but will remain graceful and independent until she waits for the one who satisfies herself.
Mr. Lu Xun wrote in "Chao Hua Xi Shi": Life sometimes inevitably falls into difficulties, but the nobility of people lies in the fact that they still maintain their integrity in difficulties, and they must not indulge themselves and let wrong desires run rampant.
The soldier said: No matter whether you are a good person or not, no matter what you have experienced, as long as you are willing to believe in beauty, as long as you are not willing to eat and wait for death, and break the jar, you can have an equal opportunity and exit.
Ge Meixia waited for this exit, smoothly from the island to the metropolis, she is realistic and determined, always dominate her life and thoughts, and try her best to grasp her happiness.
From her personal level, the final outcome is undoubtedly successful, life has not given her many opportunities, can still seize the opportunity in such a situation, her perseverance and endurance are also very comparable!
In my eyes, she is a real cruel character, leaving no room for herself, fortunately, in the end, life has not failed her, and there are no regrets.
Write at the end
When Anjie and Ge Meixia grew old, they revisited the island with An Xin and Dehua, and everyone else reminisced about the past and was excited.
Only Ge Meixia complained: I really don't know what kind of wind to smoke, I think of coming to the island, what are the good memories here?
Dehua looked at Ge Meixia, who was full of impatience, and did not understand: Isn't this your mother's house, how can you see that you are not happy at all?
Ge Meixia bowed her head and said: "Where are my relatives here, and my only niece is also married to Dalian, what else is worth nostalgia?"
Dehua teased her, you are not remembering things, you are remembering revenge!
Jiang Dehua's words reached Ge Meixia's heart, and she did not want to recall the unforgettable past events that had once been on the island, and the days when she had been trampled under her feet.
Since you can live happily now, why do you still have to think about those painful past events, Ge Meixia has always been a person who lives in the present, and for her, there is nothing more worthy of cherishing and satisfying than her current life.
As the daughter of a "fisherman" who grew up on a small island, although she has a certain education, her vision of the world is limited.
After many years of stoicism, she combined with Wang Zhenbiao to complete the counterattack of the class and lay the foundation for the happiness of the second half of her life.
She maintained the family life of the Wang family, treated Wang Haiyang's children kindly, and when Wang Haiyang and Jiang Yafei's love was facing premature death, she stood on the side of the Wang family without hesitation, and achieved the marriage of Wang Haiyang and Jiang Yafei.
Ge Meixia has a bottom line in doing things, has a measure, and although she is ambitious, she will not lose her heart. In those isolated days on the island, although she complained about the unfairness of life and was jealous of Anjie's luck, she did not hurt anyone, let alone destroy the marriage of others.
She relied on her firm will and wisdom to guard happiness and became a woman who even Anjie was "sour".
Coco Chanel said: Life has never pleased me, so I have created my own life. Instead of caring about the betrayal and unkindness of others, it is better to manage your own dignity and beauty.
Through Ge Meixia's life, I finally understood that in life, no one will always be smooth sailing, nor will it always be bumpy, as long as you have good thoughts, live frankly, dare to look directly at your ambitions and desires, endure hardships, and the beauty will eventually beckon you.