"Parental Love": Ambiguous old Ding, like painters, the political commissar of the final marriage, Teacher Ge's counterattack life is worth thinking about

Douban's 9.5-point "Parental Love" is directed by Kong Sheng and starring Guo Tao and Mei Ting, which is a classic period drama that cannot be tired of watching. Many people like this TV series, they are touched by the warm and moving love story of Jiang Defu and Anjie, and they are all envious of Anjie's quiet and good married life in his life.

Also envious of Anjie's life is teacher Ge Meixia Ge in the play. Therefore, after many years, the times have changed, and Teacher Ge dares to remove his disguise and show his heart to Anjie:

"When I was young, I had a goal, when I could live like Teacher Ann, even if it was only one day, I would live a worthwhile life."

Until Teacher Ge finally got his wish, we suddenly realized: it turns out that Teacher Ge is the model of "people going to high places", and is the character closest to real humanity in the whole play. Thinking about it carefully, it is difficult for us to disagree with such a point of view: Anjie does not often have, you and I are "Ge Teacher".

01

Teacher Ge is the daughter of the "fishing bully", who originally lived a life of being ostracized everywhere on the island and being bullied every day. Before Anjie came to the island, she may have confessed her fate - because her composition is not good, she should be excluded and bullied, and she should live such a cautious life.

But when Anjie came to the island, everything changed.

Anjie, who has a similar origin to her, "miss capitalist", is not only not bullied, but also lives a comfortable petty bourgeois life because she is the wife of the chief officer: you can drink coffee from expensive cups, you can listen to records with a phonograph, and there are a bunch of beautiful clothes at home...

Most importantly, Anjie was not only beautiful, but also as innocent and kind as an unworldly child, and even warmly invited herself to her house for coffee.

Teacher Ge, who has no friends on the island and is used to being excluded, suddenly faces Anjie, who has a comfortable life and is committed to spiritual enjoyment, how can there be no waves in his heart? How could there be no feelings of envy, even jealousy, towards Anjie?

In our perception, it seems that in the face of people who are better than ourselves in some way, we should all bless, not be jealous. But because of the inferior nature of human nature, very few people can do it unless he is a "saint."

But Teacher Ge is not a saint, she is just an ordinary person like us, so when she holds up the coffee cup with trepidation, when she looks at Anjie's beautiful clothes, the envious look cannot be hidden.

Although on the surface she is still a promise, saying compliments and praise, but at this time, she should be in pain inside, or even cry out in her heart to complain about the injustice of fate.

This is the normal reaction that a normal ordinary person should have.

02

Many years later, Teacher Ge still remembers that the first time she drank coffee was taught to her by Anjie, when Teacher Ge combed long braids and wore Anjie's beautiful flower skirt, and in Anjie's exquisite small courtyard, she smiled like a flower and enjoyed the aroma of coffee.

Perhaps, from that time on, she fell in love with the feeling of drinking coffee and became her lifelong obsession; perhaps, from that time on, something had awakened in Teacher Ge's heart; perhaps, since that time, she had planted a seed in her heart.

What awakens is the dignity of living as a "human being", and what is buried is the goal and expectation of living a "good life like Anjie".

Therefore, Anjie, who has always had the pursuit of spiritual life, has become her best friend on the island; so when Dehua exclaimed in the car carrying Jiang Defu and Anjie to pick up Lao Ding, "Teacher Ge is picking up the dung", she turned her head in embarrassment.

She no longer wants to let people see her shame and helplessness, especially Anjie, who is already better than herself.

Man, isn't that what it is? Once the personality is awakened, there is a "self-esteem".

03

Teacher Ge is a cultural person with her own pursuits in emotions and marriage, so before Anjie entered the island, she had become a well-known "old girl" because of her origin and the marriage attitude of "high or low".

Later, after meeting Anjie, she pinned her pursuit of life on her future husband. So the "widower" Lao Ding who later entered the island became her target.

Although Lao Ding did not have Jiang Defu's high position, he could indeed give her the life she wanted, even if it could not fully match Anjie's life, but it was enough to pull her from "hell" to "heaven".

So she didn't mind that Lao Ding was a widower with several children, and she didn't mind whether the two had feelings and whether they were compatible, and even knew that Anjie's sister-in-law Dehua liked Lao Ding, or secretly associated with Lao Ding, until the two of them reached the stage of talking about marriage and marriage.

She is not afraid that her good friend Anjie will be angry about this, she is only worried that Anjie will have opinions and opinions about her and Lao Ding together, in the end, all she cares about is her own happiness.

Later, when she apologized to Anjie, Anjie said to her: "You don't have to do this, this is your lifelong event, you should make your own decisions, you don't need to ask for others' opinions, and you don't need to look at other people's faces." ”

Perhaps Teacher Ge thought so at the beginning, as smart as Anjie persuaded her, just to help her find a reason for self-comfort and self-exoneration.

Unfortunately, Lao Ding is not Jiang Defu, and he does not have the courage to break the boat for love. Therefore, when his marriage application with Teacher Ge was rejected by the political commissar of Wang Zhenbiao because of Teacher Ge's origin, Lao Ding withdrew.

Although Lao Ding has always wanted to find a cultured wife, the two people take what they need is also a good match, but they can not pass the "reality" level after all, in the words of Lao Ding, they have old and young, no better than Jiang Defu, who was not hungry for the whole family when he ate alone.

Time is also fate, and in reality, we sometimes have to bow to fate. If Anjie is "Phoenix", then Jiang Defu is the "Linjiao", they are all surreal idealized beings, and as ordinary people, we can only look up to them like Teacher Ge.

04

Although Teacher Ge is not bad in nature, he has always had his own goals and plans, even in the process of getting along with Anjie, he sometimes has some of his own "little nine-nines." The most criticized one should be at the time of the "Summer Painter Incident".

The painter Teacher Xia came to the island to sketch and invited Anjie to be a model, and for a time rumors spread on the island, and Jiang Defu was even more jealous. Just when Anjie was hiding from Xia Painter, Teacher Ge, who went to Anjie's house for coffee, led Xia Painter directly to Anjie's home, which somewhat fanned the flames and added fuel to the fire.

In this matter, many viewers scolded Teacher Ge for having a clever mind, and she is indeed not innocent. But if you think about it, is this yet another manifestation of human nature?

After the rumors of Anjie and Xia painters were spread, Teacher Ge not only did not comfort Anjie, but also joked about her and Xia painters, and even bluntly said that she herself wanted to be a model, and joked that she liked Xia painters.

On the surface, it was a joke, but in fact she might have wanted to see Anjie's attitude towards Xia Painter. When Anjie invited her to her home for coffee and told her that the coffee was bought for her by Jiang Defuyi, Teacher Ge's sensitive nerves were completely stimulated.

Anjie has already lived much better than herself in life, why can she gather thousands of pets in one, even the painter who has just entered the island will ignore her single self, and favor Anjie who has a husband and children?

Teacher Ge is puzzled by this, perhaps she also wants to let her friend plant a small heel, let her also experience some of the setbacks she has experienced, and see her friend's "jokes" as a kind of adjustment to her boring life.

But we can't say that Teacher Ge is a bad person, human nature is complex, and only imperfection is more real. This incident can only be regarded as a small prank by Teacher Ge, a small demonstration of the inferiority of human nature.

05

Fortunately, in the end, Teacher Ge still achieved his goal and married the political commissar Wang Zhenbiao, the "culprit" who broke up her and Lao Ding.

This makes many people, including Anjie, not understand, obviously Wang Zhenbiao was originally a "daughter of a fisherman" to call Teacher Ge, obviously It was also Wan Zhenbiao who broke up Teacher Ge and Lao Ding, how can two people come together?

In fact, having such a question shows that you still don't know much about Teacher Ge, and you just use your idealized human logic to define the "Teacher Ge" in your mind.

Teacher Ge's pursuit of marriage has always been only one, that is, "living a life like Anjie", in addition, everything can not be minded, do not mind whether the other party is older than himself, do not mind the character of the other party, do not mind whether the other party has bullied himself.

Therefore, when Jiang Defu entrusted Wan Zhenbiao to himself and Anjie to help the two to connect, Anjie angrily criticized Wang Zhenbiao to be complete, which shows how much she despises Wang Zhenbiao in her heart and how much she does not want Teacher Ge to marry him.

But when Anjie really went to Teacher Ge to talk, Teacher Ge agreed without much hesitation. Anjie Cai Mingyue and the two people may have secretly opened the ditch long ago, perhaps at this time Anjie really understood Teacher Ge.

Facts have also proved that she was right to marry Wang Zhenbiao, not only living a rich life, but also finally being able to enjoy coffee in her own small courtyard like Anjie.

So Teacher Ge didn't want Anjie to give any wedding gifts before leaving the island, and wanted to have coffee with her again, just like the two of them drank coffee together in this courtyard for the first time.

At that time, the two were already middle-aged and just like autumn, they had seen the prosperity of the world, tasted the cold and warm of the world, they remembered the deceased Zhang Guiying, remembered Zhang Guiying's appearance when drinking coffee, and drank no longer mellow coffee in their mouths, but a cup of bitter potion.

Anjie said: I didn't expect that now you have taken her class.

Teacher Ge also answered calmly: Yes.

Anjie said: At that time, you were still afraid of her?

Teacher Ge said: At that time, I was not afraid of anyone? You think I'm not afraid of you? ”

The short two-sentence dialogue exhausted the bitterness of Teacher Ge's life. Fortunately, the good days she had been looking forward to were already beckoning to her, and she could finally leave the island and leave this humiliating place.

Many years later, the gray-haired Teacher Ge no longer had the dilemma of the past, and she generously invited Anjie to come to her own home and use the best coffee beans to brew the mellow aroma of a courtyard. She recalled the past, no longer had the original anxiety, and she could finally declare the envy in her heart.

From "When will I be able to live like this?" To "Ah, yes, although it is a little late, but after all, it is still over." "The suffering experienced by Teacher Ge is not something that Anjie can imagine.

Therefore, seeing teacher Ge like this, do you still bear to criticize the weaknesses of human nature that she carries?

epilogue

People often say that "one knowledge of oneself in life is enough", but the relationship between Anjie and Teacher Ge is not just a confidant, but also more than a friend. It's like Dehua asking Anjie, "Aren't you two friends?" Anjie said, "Bullshit friend." ”

Although it is an angry word, it is also a bit true.

They have the same origins, similar spiritual pursuits, but have different lives and lives. After the two met, Teacher Ge regarded Anjie as a "tool" to enhance his life style and the life goal he pursued in his life; while Anjie took Teacher Ge as a reference object for his life, and was also a foil for his happy life.

In the TV series, Anjie's personality tends to be perfect, while Teacher Ge's personality has many flaws. But Anjie does not often exist, and Teacher Ge may be you and me, because many people in reality, even myself, are more or less a bit of Teacher Ge's shadow.

In fact, we are more like a combination of the two of them, one is an idealized us, the other is an imperfect us in reality. We are all ordinary people, and we are all pursuing our goals with the most ordinary efforts, so we must accept the ordinary and imperfect in ourselves like Anjie accepted Teacher Ge.