"My child is in elementary school, when reading books, he always likes to hold a lot, see the interested to read a little more, do not like to turn a few pages and throw aside, how do I cultivate the habit of reading the whole book?" 」 One mom said.
Of course, she also made a lot of efforts, such as making a reading plan with her children, discussing how to read the book in a few days, reading the book and then reading the next book, and even "threatening" the child that if she did not finish the existing books at home, she would not be able to buy new books.
Unfortunately, her efforts have no effect, and the child will still read his favorite books several times, but he has no interest in the books that his mother asks to read.
Is there really a problem with your child reading this way? Do you want to cultivate the habit of reading a book from beginning to end?
In fact, reading does not mean that every book must be read from beginning to end.
Reading is an interest-based activity. Children read books that interest them, so that they can read attentively and happily.
When children encounter books that they are not interested in, they do not want to read at all, or insist on reading a few pages, and eventually give up, which is the normal state of reading.
In the real reading activity, the child enjoys the process of reading, immersed in the state of the book, thinking and imagining with the content of the book, not the sense of accomplishment of reading each book from beginning to end - reading a book will indeed bring a sense of accomplishment, but the premise is that he really likes the book. The same goes for mature adult readers, whose pleasure comes from "I read a good book" rather than "I finished a book."
Reading in order to finish a book becomes a task, and the reader loses the pleasure of wandering freely in the book.
Of course, when encountering books that they are particularly interested in, people will not be willing to put them down for a second, and they will have to read them without sleeping or eating.
The process of reading a book is also not just the process of sitting down, opening the book, and going from the first page all the way to the last.
Thinking of a question to look up a book, reading a book many times, reading a book to others, and making your own comments on a book are all part of the reading process.
If the child will only read a book from beginning to end, and his reading process does not include other content, it can be said that the child has not really learned to read. To put it another way, not every book is worth reading from start to finish.
Some are of low quality and not worth reading; some are boring and boring, making people unable to read them; some are good, but the translation is too poor; and some are books that do not match the actual content and your expectations when you choose.
These books are actually not worth spending time reading from beginning to end, but we can't avoid buying such books.
Maybe some parents will think, books have been bought, money has been spent, how pity not to finish reading!
But let's think again, is the child's time and interest in reading precious, or is the twenty or thirty yuan to buy that book precious? Will read books of interest over and over again, throw books that are not interested aside, know how to choose, but also know how to give up, is part of the child's independent reading ability.
In this sense, such a child, than what their parents give to read, regardless of whether they are interested in it or not, can obediently read it, the reading level and reading ability are much higher.
Parents who may pay attention to their children's character development and good habits will worry about what their children do when they read books like this and do nothing in the future.
I think this is a misinterpretation of the meaning of "persistence".
Insist on doing what you want and are valuable, and this persistence is meaningful.
Being forced to insist on doing things you don't like is not called persistence, it is called compromise, patience, and self-abandonment.
Parents don't want their children to be raised as children without opinion and self, so what children don't like, we never force them to insist.
"Not reading the whole book" may encounter a specific problem: what if the child does not want to read the required reading list stipulated by the school?
The simplest and most direct way is to tell the child to treat these readings as homework, to decompose the amount of reading, and to complete them as tasks little by little.
In short, when it is found that the child's reading style is not in line with the parents' expectations, what parents have to do is not to deny the child's reading style, not to use the method of indoctrination to force or semi-compulsively guide the child to the direction that the parents think is "correct", but to support the child's exploration of their own reading technology in their own reading practice.
In this way, children can truly learn to read in their own way, actively and freely.