In the latest plot of the TV series "Heart Residence", Gu Qingyu, played by Tong Yao, and Shi Yuan, played by Feng Shaofeng, are about to separate.
From flash marriage to cohabitation to separation, the relationship between the two has changed "as fast as lightning", and it is estimated that "flash away" will soon be arranged.
Obviously, each other is their own childhood white moonlight, each other is trying their best to think about each other, why are they going farther and farther away and parting ways?
I think the main reason is that the two people have "three views are not compatible", the family background is not right in Yemen, and the melon that is twisted together is naturally not sweet.
First of all, Gu Qingyu gradually felt that Shi Yuan was not on her side.
Gu Qingyu's change of attitude toward Shi Yuan began with Shi Yuan's rebellion in entering Aimeng.
Ming Ming vowed that he would not accept Ai Meng's invitation, but under his mother's "forced palace", he did not consult with his wife and retorted.
This act of "punching yourself in the face" touched many of Gu Qingyu's "reverse scales" at one time.
First, for Gu Qingyu, career is her pride, and when feelings affect her career, her rationality will overcome sensibility.
Gu Qingyu mingming had already explained to Shi Yuan very clearly that the reason why he would be blinded by love was entirely because of his special status.
Whether he joined Aimeng with good intentions or ulterior motives, it will affect Gu Qingyu's choices in the mall in the future.
Shi Yuan still chose to "enter the trap" after understanding the stakes, and from the perspective of commercial warfare, he was more like an enemy than a relative.
Second, Gu Qingyu judged from the origin of Shi Yuan's watch that his "change" originated from Shi Mu.
Shi Mu was suffering from bipolar disorder, and all kinds of tricks embarrassed Gu Qingyu. Gu Qingyu, out of love for Shi Yuan, endured not to attack even if she was uncomfortable, because she thought that Shi Yuan would respond to her sacrifice with the same love.
However, Shi Yuan obviously loved his mother more. This time, because of her mother's words, she broke the promise and laid hidden dangers for Gu Qingyu's career. Will he do the same thing in the future to subvert Gu Qingyu's life?
After all, Shi Mu's mental problems could not be cured, and her prejudice against Gu Qingyu was so stubborn.
Gu Qingyu was originally a very rational person, and after reuniting with Shi Yuan, because of the white moonlight filter in childhood, sensibility once overcame reason, resulting in her making a flash marriage without understanding each other's family.
When Shi Yuan's behavior makes her feel "down", after the return of rationality, she will re-evaluate the feelings of the two people who are good at weighing the pros and cons.
Like the girlfriend said, maybe she would be better off relaxing, but it is difficult to estimate according to the development of the plot.
On the other hand, Shi Yuan also began to realize that the gap between himself and Gu Qingyu could not be made up by hard work.
One is that the gap in economic strength cannot be shortened, so that they lose the possibility of equal exchange.
Shi Yuan is a relatively "macho" person, who believes that men should not be taken care of by women, even wives.
But the problem is that a foreign company executive with an annual salary of one million, a forty-year-old or a newcomer to the workplace, the gap in income between the two is not crossed by staying up all night. If Shi Yuan has not been able to face up to his marriage state of strong women and weak men, and constantly pushes Gu Qingyu's goodwill away, it will only make the two unable to communicate equally.
The second is that the differences in emotional expression are irreconcilable, so that their ineffective communication gradually increases.
After the first time the two relatives met and broke out into a conflict, Gu Qingyu's scene of expressing dissatisfaction with Shi Yuan is a typical example.
In the face of Gu Qingyu's accusations, Shi Yuan's handling method has a feeling of bearing the burden of humiliation and seeking perfection, resulting in Gu Qingyu punching on cotton like a punch, and there is no way to vent if there is fire, so he can only fight back with cold violence.
When expressing emotions, Gu Qingyu likes to "showdown" between the two sides like negotiations, while Shi Yuan likes to hold things in his heart, and the two have not found a compromise way to reconcile the above differences, so each time they quarrel will only break up unhappily.
In fact, the problem between Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan is simplified to a common sending proposition in gender equality:
Your mother and I fell into the water, who did you save first?
For this question, there are many "jittery" solutions on the Internet, which seem to be able to answer without fail.
But in fact, whether such "jittering cleverness" can work depends specifically on whether the two sides of the substitution problem are "consistent in three views".
People with the same three views, even if the man answers "save my mother first", will feel that the other party has filial piety and is worth relying on for life.
People with inconsistent three views, even if the man answers "save you first", will make the other party feel that they do not attach importance to family affection, which makes people feel cold.
Shi Yuan was answering, "Who will my mother and I save first?" On the issue, the discord between him and Gu Qingyu was fully demonstrated.
From the matter of "joining Ai Meng", Gu Qingyu will think that Shi Yuan is "not only choosing to save his mother, but also stepping on his own face and landing".
Shi Yuan, on the other hand, felt that "it is not easy for my mother, it is natural to save her, and the daughter-in-law must understand." After that, the two could not reconcile this discord.
If the two sides have similar growth backgrounds and are two people who are the right door, the three views of the difference may also be consistent.
But the growth trajectory of the two has deviated far, and after an occasional accidental intersection, they are destined to go their separate ways.