Marriage is wrong don't worry
The lifestyle should be right
01
Marriage is the same as work, we are the first choice, there will always be all kinds of problems, two people quarreling, three views of discord, and may even reach the time when there is no way to reconcile.
If you can resign as decisively as work, it is good to change a unit, but many times marriage can not be said to be separated, there are always various practical reasons to hinder the separation of two people.
Whether it is an excuse or a bondage, in short, you can't easily leave, so what if the marriage is wrong?
Many people will be very persistent in reforming each other after the marriage is wrong, such as thinking that since you are with me, you are not as good as I want now, then you have to change for me.
After Chen Fei and her husband got married, I saw that everyone else had bought a house in the county town, so I quarreled in my husband's ear every day, and I also wanted to buy a house.
But the two of them did not have enough money, so she hated her husband every day and would not earn money, and at first her husband said that he was working hard, and later he did not explain.
But she didn't notice, she just thought you were going to change for me.
In the end, the husband went out to work to earn money, but at the same time, their relationship ended.
02
In fact, when you are looking for people who are different from you in all aspects, you may as well adjust your mindset, because you either leave or accept.
If you change him, it will only upset him, and the two people will break up unhappily.
At this time, you may wish to think about the concern of you and your friends, whether everyone can understand each other and not interfere with each other.
Then treat him as an ordinary friend, don't care about him, he is an adult, has his own ideas, you are not used to it, then go farther.
To change him is to quarrel.
Because most people will not communicate in the right way, saying it is a quarrel, then the final purpose is not achieved, and the two people are not happy.
03
And his decades-long habits are not something you can change in a few days, that's something he learned from an early age.
It's like you can't wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, he doesn't want to change, it's not something you can solve with just a few words, he doesn't want to change, and neither you nor his parents can convince him.
Your obsession with reforming him is nothing more than a waste of trouble and time.
With such time and energy to persuade him, it is better to spend time on himself, what he wants to create, want money, earn it by himself, want a good life, and work his own.
When you create it yourself, he will naturally be influenced by you, or after not the frequency with you, you can naturally leave him.
At that time, you didn't even want to communicate with him.
04
So when there is no way, he can provide what he wants, if not, rely on himself.
The energy to persuade him is enough for you to do a lot of things.
If he can't provide anything, it's not worth your waste of energy, and if he can't communicate, don't communicate.
All in all, if you choose the wrong person and the marriage has no way to quit, then at this moment, the only thing you can do is to live your day well.
It's not so scary that marriage is wrong, it's terrible that your lifestyle isn't right either, and if so, your future life will be a mess.
You are really entangled in this bad marriage and never have a chance to turn over.