Founding General Xiao Hua is a famous "doll commander" in our army, not only did he join the revolution early, but he was also given a relatively early age of marriage.
In 1939, the 23-year-old Xiao Hua married the 15-year-old Wang Xinlan and had a total of 5 children, except for the eldest daughter Xiao Yu and son Xiao Yun, who were born during the war years, the other three daughters Xiao Shuang, Xiao Lu and Xiao Xia were born after the founding of the People's Republic of China.
The names of these 5 children are also very interesting, called each other
Rain, clouds, frost, dew, kasumi
, all related to the weather.
After the founding of the People's Republic of China, one day Mr. Chen came to Xiao Hua's house as a guest, when the children were surrounding Xiao Hua, playing and playing, Mr. Chen saw this scene, laughed, and quipped: "Good you doll, in a few years it will become a big tree, you see, fruitful!" ”
Xiao Hua also smiled and said, "Boss, boss, don't tease me!" ”
After the children returned to the room, Mr. Chen held out a hand and said to Xiao Hua and Wang Xinlan: "You usually educate children, do you need this?" "The implication is that you can't beat the child.
Xiao Hua said: "Boss, Xinlan and I never scold children, but this is what we agreed before we got married." ”
Indeed, in the matter of children's education, Xiao Hua has always opposed "stick education", and one of the sentences he often said is:
"Marx is not allowed to beat and scold children."
Of course, this does not mean that Xiao Hua is coddled and conniving with children, in the education of children, Xiao Hua is actually very strict, and even set a few rules for children, no one can violate!
The first is to never detach ourselves from the masses and resolutely not to allow the mentality of being condescending.
Once, xiao Hua and her eldest daughter Xiao Yu were walking, passing through a shantytown, Xiao Yu said: "Dad, I have a classmate, their family lives here. ”
After Xiao Hua listened, he said, "Since you have come here, let's go to their house and sit down." ”
When the classmate's mother saw Xiao Hua's father and daughter coming, she greeted her warmly and prepared tea while letting the two of them sit down.
Xiao Hua took the tea, casually sat on a dirty matza, and talked to the mother of the classmate, without a little shelf.
On the way back, Xiao Hua took Xiao Yu's hand and said, "Xiao Yu, you must remember that you must not look down on the people who live here, that classmate you have to contact more, help more, and invite her to come to our house to play when you have the opportunity." ”
Xiao Yu later recalled:
"My father likes to be with the people the most, to talk with them, and he often tells us that at any time, we must not forget the people, let alone look down on the people."
The second is that it is resolutely forbidden to engage in specialization.
When Xiao Hua's son, Xiao Yun, reached school age, Xiao Hua sent him to a school for military children on the outskirts of Beijing, more than a dozen kilometers from home.
Every Saturday when I come home from school and every Sunday afternoon, Xiao Hua will tell everyone in advance: "The car allocated to me by the state is used for office work, and Xiao Yun is never allowed to take Xiao Yun to and from school." Therefore, Xiao Yun took the shuttle bus to and from school every time, and sometimes he couldn't catch the shuttle, so he walked home, walking down more than ten kilometers, grinding his feet with blisters.
Wang Xinlan sometimes feels sorry for children, Xiao Hua said: "No matter how many blisters, you can't use the bus to pick up, boys should be trained like this!" ”
Xiao Yun was still a small child at that time, and there was resentment in his heart, Xiao Hua patiently enlightened him, explained to him clearly the stakes, and gradually, Xiao Yun understood his father's good intentions and never cried bitterness again.
Later, Xiao Yun recalled:
"Since the third grade of primary school, in order to exercise my will, I often asked a few classmates to walk home, and it was seven or eight o'clock in the evening when I returned home. My mother was very worried, afraid of accidents on the road, and inevitably had to say a few words. At this time, Dad always looked at me with a smile, and I knew that he approved. Therefore, I was more fearless and continued to exercise. ”
The third is to learn to adapt to various environments, so that good days can be lived, and hard days must be able to live.
In the "three years of difficulty" period, everyone's grain and vegetables are rationed, although Xiao Hua is in a high position, he is also like everyone else, eating what he gets and never picking.
Sometimes, the chef did not master the heat, the meal was pasted, after serving it to the table, the children could not help frowning, but Xiao Hua picked up the chopsticks and put a piece into his mouth, ate with relish, and said to the children: "The reality is the difficult period of the country, you all have to be patient, even if the chef does not do well, you can not blame him." Remember, we can't just pursue things to eat and drink, let alone pick and choose, and being able to fill our stomachs is the greatest blessing. ”
Under the influence of Xiao Hua, a piece of clothing is worn by five children in turn, even if there are many patches on it, it is not allowed to be thrown away.
Therefore, in the eyes of outsiders, the five children of the Xiao family are no different from the children of ordinary people's families, which also makes Xiao Hua very proud, saying that children should be like this, mingling with the masses, and must not have special ideas.
Under Xiao Hua's education, the five children of the Xiao family have achieved good results later, especially their son Xiao Yun, who was admitted to Tsinghua University, or a colonel in the People's Liberation Army, and after changing careers, he founded a company and served as a manager and vice chairman.
The so-called "if the family style is right, then the national style is right; if the national style is right, then the country is prosperous", General Xiao Hua's good family style is worth learning from each of us.
(References: "Xiao Hua Biography", "Century Style", "Biography of People", "Chinese Culture Newspaper")
——To learn more about the story of the founding generals, you can check out the column of the history inn, a total of 100 founding generals.