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Zhihu shang answered a question posed by a girl: "Why does the other party obviously say that he loves me, but always keep in close contact with friends of the opposite sex?" ”
The reason is actually very simple, because the other party only says that he loves you from the beginning to the end, and lives in a community in his heart.
A lot of feelings, in fact, at the beginning, are already doomed to end, but people who are deeply in love have not paid attention.
1. How did I lose you?
The breakup, in fact, for many people, is not as painful as we think, but it feels like something is missing in his life.
When you break up, you'll act as if you're just having a fight, and you start doing the things he didn't let you do, trying to feel the joy of indulgence.
You order the most wanted takeout near your home, you throw your clothes and socks everywhere, you start without trimming or planning to make any changes.
In the process, you keep telling yourself that you can live better alone, that the presence of the other person will only tie your hands and feet, and that he doesn't love you at all.
However, when you lie in bed at night, you still miss it, and when you look through the circle of friends and see the horizontal line, you will still be heartbroken.
At this time, those once beautiful things will flood into your mind like a flood, and you feel like you are beginning to be submerged until you can't breathe.
After a few days of dawn, you start to miss each other, and you start to want to call the phone number that is imprinted on your mind anymore.
But all you have to wait for is a cold mechanical female voice, or a sentence from the other party: 'We are long over, please let me go.' “
It's only at this point that you really realize that you've really lost the other person, and this time, there's really no turning back.
2. Disappointment is accumulated
For many people who want to break up, or aren't sure if they've broken up, they're all facing the same problem.
That is, they will hesitate and be overwhelmed, because they have long lost the patience to continue to maintain this relationship.
Let go, and reluctantly, feel that that person has made himself pay so much after all, and has so many good memories with himself.
However, if you don't let go, you feel that this love is like chewed gum, except for emptiness, it is tasteless.
In fact, when you have this feeling, the relationship is over from a certain point of view.
It's just that some people still hope that they can become the good person after the breakup, so they choose to use 'cold violence' to force each other to break up.
Because they are also very clear that after the disappointment accumulates to a certain extent, no matter how deep the feelings, they will dissipate, and the other party will definitely propose to break up.
In this case, it's what people often say, "You're planning the future, he's planning to leave." “
If at this time you are still thinking about saving each other by paying, then you can only get an empty ending of the bamboo basket.
3. Let go of me, and let go of yourself
In fact, for the matter of feelings, just like "Zhiming and Chunjiao" has a line:
"I often ask myself, what have you done for me?" I can't think of a single thing, so you should be good at it and let me have a way to live. Why don't we end here. “
A lot of feelings, not that you try to maintain it will definitely have results, nor that you give the steps, the other party will definitely appreciate.
Those loves that are doomed to failure in the beginning are actually like a tornado in front of you, which begins to roar and then quietly.
All it can bring you and leave behind is the love that you have broken a lot, and the feeling that you thought would go forever.
They are actually laughing at you, you are too naïve, naïve to think that emotional things can also be solved through hard work.
So, if true love has failed, then let the other person go. Not for his own good, but for yourself.
Since he doesn't love you anymore, even if he still talks about retention, what's the point? That kind of other party just hasn't met a more suitable target yet.
When he finds out about that person's existence, he won't hesitate to abandon you. Don't wait until then to make yourself more embarrassed about the relationship.
4. Please, don't remember me
Letting go is indeed a difficult thing, and the more deeply loved the person, the more difficult it is.
However, you always have to let go of the past, your eyes always have to look forward, you can't just look back at the memories of the past.
The past will not come back, he will not love you again, you should have your own new life, in that story, there should be no figure of him.
Everything will always pass, even if time can't take it away, the memory will always be blurred because of something else.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.