Text: Xi Xihuan
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Those who are close to Zhu are red and close to ink, and what kind of people they deal with, if they get closer, they will most likely be contaminated with this person's temperament habits.
Obviously, if you deal with a small belly chicken intestines for a long time and like to complain about people, then your heart will become more and more narrow, and you will become more and more stingy and calculating.
But if you get along with an open-minded, optimistic and positive person for a long time, then even if you encounter a big storm, you will face it with a more sunny mentality.
People who are dark in their hearts and are always full of negative energy will bring gloomy feelings to the people around them, and they are not happy unconsciously, and the people around them are not happy.
So we must understand that people who often talk about these topics are often darker in their hearts, and they try to stay away from each other, let alone make deep friends.
01 likes to say words of jealousy
Even if we are excellent, there are always people who are better than us, and even if we have more wealth, there are still people who are richer than us.
Therefore, envying others is a very normal psychological state, but not all people can transform envy into motivation to improve themselves, but instead evolve into jealousy.
Jealousy can make a person unrecognizable, because when jealous of a person, they will ignore the good of the other party, and even think that everyone is inferior to themselves, and they do not want anyone to surpass themselves.
When people lose their minds, it is easy to do things that are appropriate, and they may also do things that hurt others, which is not worth the loss.
Once had a colleague, middle-aged, obviously she was quite okay, had children and daughters, and her husband was considerate, but she was particularly jealous.
Either she thinks that any colleague's performance has exceeded her, or she feels that she has suffered losses when inviting guests to dinner, in short, in her heart, it will always be owed to her by others, and no one should be better than her.
When she is ashamed and angry, she will also say jealous words behind her back, make up something out of nothing, and make up some right and wrong to denigrate others.
It is said that after a long time, everyone's deeds have been seen by everyone, and gradually, no one is willing to cooperate with her, even if it is some busy raising hands, no one is willing to help her.
In fact, such people are really unpleasant, they always stare at the excellence and strengths of others, but look at it with the darkest eyes.
People who live wisely will not be jealous of others, they may be envious when they see the excellence and strengths of others, but they will not be jealous, because if they want to be equally excellent, they will spur themselves to learn from each other's strengths.
And those who will only envy others behind their backs and say that others are right and wrong, often have a dark heart and can't see that others are better off than him.
Such a person is still very good at disguise, and when others are in distress, he will show a very concerned look, because the unsatisfactory person is not as good as him, and does not arouse his jealousy.
But once he has a better life than him, he will show the jealous side, with such a person, can not feel his true feelings for you, let alone get sincere blessings, so you still have to stay away as soon as possible.
02 Likes to say things out of nothing
Hurting a person, in fact, often do not need some actual actions, only need invisible language is enough, the so-called good words a three winter warm, bad words hurt people June cold, sometimes hurt a person's heart, only one sentence is enough.
Those who are sunny in their hearts, the words spoken are like warm sunshine, maybe the other party knows that it is a lie, but it is comfortable to listen to, and they are willing to be sincere with such people.
A person with a good heart will say warm words, because he can think about problems from the perspective of others, and he can think for others.
Although we talk and do things for the purpose of selfishness, but there is a premise, that is, do not harm the interests of others, otherwise there is no difference with unscrupulous people to achieve the end.
Saying warm words, in fact, it is also accumulating blessings for yourself, which will help you win more respect and have your own personality charm.
But some people are different, they are not unable to say nice things, but they are not willing to say, and even prefer to say things out of nothing, slandering others, but also damage their own dignity, who wants to deal with such a person?
Friend Wang Ying has been very unhappy since entering the new company, not because she is not able to work enough, but because she has met a difficult colleague.
Wang Ying and this colleague are the same working group, originally if the two people cooperate well, it is not difficult to achieve greater performance, but that colleague likes to chew the root of the tongue.
She always said something behind her back that didn't happen at all, and what she hadn't done was also told to others by colleagues, and even said that she was viciously competing and wanted the leader to fire her.
Wang Ying thought that she had not offended this colleague, and she really couldn't figure out why her colleague always said something out of nothing.
Later, when I was chatting with other colleagues, I learned that this colleague often did this, and she liked to make up something that did not happen at all to denigrate others in order to live a sense of inner superiority.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve your own goals, but you should not use despicable means to achieve them, otherwise you will not be at ease even if you succeed.
The person who always says something out of nothing behind his back is actually very narrow-minded in his heart, and it is normal to be surpassed by others, but here he has become intolerable.
In this world, even if the brightest places, there are shadows, because the sunlight cannot shine to every corner, so people are the same, different growth backgrounds, living environments, and differences in education level, will make people's hearts different.
People who are full of sunshine in their hearts illuminate not only their own lives, but also the paths of others, and they will unconsciously bring positive influences to others, so we must get along with such people more, from them, the positive energy we get is huge.
And people with dark hearts are not easy to be detected, they are very good at disguise, good at hiding their true psychology, and never easily let others see his true thoughts.
Therefore, we should pay more close attention to the people around you, and the person who smiles at you is not necessarily really friendly, because he may be laughing at your embarrassment.
The unique characteristics of a person with a dark heart can never be hidden, and a sentence, an action, or even a look can reflect his dark psychology, so we must make friends carefully to avoid unnecessary negative impacts.
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