Today, from the private message, I found a very typical question "how to judge betrayal", the word betrayal, no one wants to see it fall on themselves, at the same time, the sense of betrayal, everyone has their own special spiritual awareness.
But it is necessary to make it clear that because it is a mysterious spiritual awareness, accuracy cannot be guaranteed, for example, in the case of a person's own insecurity, he will inevitably have a feeling of "may be betrayed", how can this be accurate?
Let's analyze this matter from the perspective of reality and psychology.
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In reality, if a person has been betrayed, the betrayed subconscious will actually exist, and the severity of the injury will be determined by the degree of harm.
Another realistic point of view, if a person has been insecure since childhood, especially for relationships, then he will also have a certain subconscious existence of "may be betrayed", and this insecurity is not only for one relationship, it may be for all the relationships he wants to keep.
Then in the psychological point of view, the subconscious will affect people's cognition and judgment, especially affect themselves, that is to say, in the heart of a person who is insecure in himself, once something is considered to be a "possible danger", then his subconscious will attack.
Subconscious attacks, psychological alertness will increase linearly, at this time the instinct to protect himself will be activated, and then he will pay attention to those words and deeds that may endanger himself.
It's like being alone with us, one minute we have talking and laughing, the next minute one of them saying something like his "hurt the past, the hurt he has been worried about", then his psychology will change.
This feeling can undoubtedly be tiring.
So if this is the case, that is, when we are not safe ourselves, it is inaccurate to judge whether a person will betray us.
So this situation is not the case that we are mainly talking about today.
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We are mainly talking about situations in which we feel a sense of security ourselves and a little feeling, or some unrealistic and possibly practical conclusions of a "betrayal character" by observing the words and deeds of the other person.
So in this case, how do we judge whether a person is going to betray or not?
The first is the point that I've been stressing all along, that the best hunters come out as prey and work out for the sake of the relationship, so even if you find something and you feel something, you don't have a seizure.
At this time, you have to calm yourself down first, because once you can't restrain yourself from having a seizure, such as questioning or deliberate clichés, this is not advisable, because at this time you have become a prey, no longer a hunter.
If the hunter wants to catch the prey, he will definitely be prepared, so if you are prepared, you will obviously not be able to do so.
Second, if there is no betrayal of such a thing, but your own speculation, then the rash attack will inevitably affect the development of the relationship.
This is the first layer of logic, it is a foundation, you can't grasp the first one, it is useless to talk about the following logic.
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A person who cares about you, a person who cares, a person who has you in his heart, he will not only have the form of your eyes, but he will also have people who constantly drive you to improve yourself, or improve yourself, or people who talk to you every three or five minutes.
So don't just look at the outside, but one thing you can confirm is that the person who has you in his heart can reflect this emotion in his eyes.
The person who has you in his heart, when encountering some big things and small things, he can think about you first, or he would rather think about you first if he is wronged, which will not be fake, especially in the case of the other party's unconsciousness.
On another realistic point of view, if you choose a person and that person betrays the other person and then stays with you, this kind of thing is not over.
People who do this kind of thing can do it once, and they may do it a second time, so try not to choose such a person.
Psychologically, when a person has the idea of "may betray or betray a person", his first reaction should be conscience and morality, which is a sobering agent.
If there is no way to extinguish his evil fire, then he will inevitably do something to cover up this inner thought.
It is also possible that when a person has a rebellious idea, he will suddenly change his normal behavior to be good to another person, so as to balance his mistakes and guilt.
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There is also a situation where there is no love, this situation actually needless to say, when a person no longer loves you, there is no such consciousness in his heart, he will not have an emotional reaction to you, because you have no value, in his heart.
This layer of logic means that when there are thoughts of betrayal in the mind, or after some acts of betrayal, his normal behavior will become abnormal, and his normal behavior will become "more normal."
But from a normal point of view, his behavior is clearly abnormal.
These actions are either to cover up betrayal, or to deliberately pretend to be normal, to dispel the doubts and doubts of the other party and not to alert them.
So what to do after finding this kind of thing, make it pay the price, if you don't want to do it, if you want to get together and disperse, then decide on your own after finding evidence.
The last thing you can do, that is, the most likely thing to hurt yourself, is to confront and reason!
Once you do, the hurt is hard for you to get rid of because you're not willing, especially if you're particularly nice to a person.
To betray, or have already betrayed, your value and position in his heart is dispensable.
Don't tell him about virtue, just tell him one thing, you can accept repentance, he can guarantee repentance, you can't accept it and just give up.
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Although we often say that betrayal is shameful and a blasphemy against feelings, we will still see such things again and again in our lives.
But we can't subjectively think that the emergence of such a thing as betrayal is all the responsibility and error of the party who betrayed it, and in most cases both sides have certain responsibilities and mistakes.
So how to avoid this kind of thing, two directions, one is to make ourselves more valuable, let ourselves be more capable, or more dependent on capital.
In such a realistic environment, a person who wants to betray must first weigh the reality.
On the other hand, when we choose a person, we try to observe and investigate as much as possible, and then make a decision when it is possible to determine his/her nature, character, and morality.
If there is no substantive and reliable answer to these things, you should not make a decision, and you cannot easily give all your feelings and hearts.
The last direction that there is no way to go, leave more for yourself.
Even if something happens, we can hold on to it ourselves, we can continue to live a normal life if we can hold it up, and we must keep some hole cards for ourselves at any time, even if something bad happens, the bottom card is our comeback.
Finally, without any evidence, just guess for ourselves, don't be suspicious of the person who is with you!
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