The 6-year-old boy was accused of repeatedly drilling the bottom of the girl's skirt, and the child's mother: "He's just a child"
"The son is not the fault of the father", this sentence is very correct, a child's growth is from the family environment to the school environment to the social environment.
If a good family environment is not established at the beginning, the child will definitely take a detour in the process of growing up. Many parents face some of their children's bad habits as "mischievous" and "smart" performance, but if some habits continue in his life, it is not certain that one day it will cause a catastrophe.
It is good that children are naughty when they are young, but if they do not change some wrong behaviors, so that they subconsciously think that this behavior is correct, they may feel that they are doing the right thing for a long time in the future, after all, this is how they have been done since childhood. Once parents know some bad habits of their children, they should stop and criticize education in time, which will not cause any psychological burden to the children, but will help them grow healthily.
"Love" and "spoiling" are two different things, once the "degree" is not well grasped, sooner or later there will be an accident.
Over the years, there have been many cases in the news or in person, but the attitude of a mother determines whether the child's behavior is intentional or even if the parents do it.
Case:
A 6-year-old boy often drills the bottom of a girl's skirt, whether in kindergarten or in a public place, many people think that this cute-looking boy is naughty, so they choose to forgive, but some people are very angry and even accuse the child. However, the boy's mother feels incomprehensible, the child is so small, can you be an adult and a 6-year-old boy?
The first information we can get from the case is that the boy is naughty and plays in the way of drilling the bottom of the skirt, while the girl is panicked and a little angry because of this behavior, but it is a little boy and does not care. When someone accuses the boy of his behavior, the mother not only does not blame the child, but instead shields the child's fault, and there is a problem in the concept of family education.
What's more, directly saying things like "he's just a child" to maintain the dignity of his son.
Yes, a 6-year-old boy is indeed a child, but can a child be lawless? Can parents be indifferent when they do something wrong?
I often say, don't take love and pampering as a meaning.
In July 2017, in a shopping mall in Xi'an, a girl was changing clothes, and suddenly a little boy entered the fitting room, took out the girl's underwear and ran around the mall, the girl was suddenly frightened, but her underwear was taken away, and she did not dare to come out, so she could only hide in the fitting room and cry.
At this time, the boy's mother dragged the child back, returned the underwear to the girl, and said: "The child is small, playing, don't mind." ”
There was no apology in the words, and it seemed that as long as the girl was accusing, it was her fault. But this girl is not a good stubble, and directly slapped the boy's mother, so the contradiction between the two people became more and more serious. Later, the mall came forward to solve the problem, the boy's mother apologized to the girl, the mall and the counter selling clothes apologized and made a mental compensation of 500 yuan.
In the vast country of China, there are too many such cases.
Since ancient times, we have paid attention to teaching by example, what kind of virtue the parents are, the children will basically do it, some have a good understanding, more or less able to go on the right path, but some people not only did not take the right path, but even worse than the parents, more than enough.
In 2021, a 17-year-old boy, after learning that his father broke the law and went to prison, he felt very uncomfortable, thinking about his father's love for himself, now two places apart, suddenly angry, and then he stabbed his classmate with a ballpoint pen, saying: "I want to go in and accompany my father." ”
This extreme way of education is ultimately unhealthy and harmful to others and to oneself. Because there is no good educational environment for children from an early age, the parents' bad conduct will make the children hear about it and deal with the problem in the same way, even more extreme than the parents.
Over the years, there have been many "eagle dads" and "tiger dads", who educate children in a unique way, such as letting their sons exercise naked on snowy days, such as letting children complete learning in a very hardcore way, what to use chopsticks, with rolling pins, really back to the "stick education" era.
Strict fathers and filial piety may not be able to understand why their parents are so strict with themselves when they are young, but when they grow up, they understand their parents' good intentions.
Modern children understand things early and mature early, so as parents, they are more troubled in the process of educating their children.
I suggest that parents should do the simplest of these points:
Do not spoil, do not cover up, do not shirk responsibility, know mistakes and correct mistakes, understand politeness, and have a conscience. Parents lead by example in these parents, and sons will learn from them.