The third Tuesday of March is recognized as the International Day of Social Work, and 15 March this year is the 16th International Day of Social Work. The theme of this year's International Social Work Day, "Building a New World for an Ecological Society: Leaving No One Behind", aims to build trust, security and confidence in the sustainability of the planet and human development through the creation of new global values, through policies and practices.
The first time she received a gift from a child in the ward, Zhi Nan was actually confused in her heart: at that time, she had been coming to Aiyou Children's Paradise for half a year, and the children used to call her "Pumpkin Sister". In the morning, when she toured the room with the doctor, the boy who sent the flowers did not show any special performance, and in the afternoon, when she went to the ward alone, the boy's mother quickly beckoned her to the bedside, "Sister Pumpkin is coming, Junhao has a gift for you", and then she received the flower.
ZhiNan's first gift was a rose that "never withered"
Now, this flower has been placed on Zhinan's desk, and every day before she starts work, she has to "look" at the rose, as if she is talking.
It was also from this flower that Zhi Nan began to receive various gifts from children more and more frequently. For example, the little boy below, he is ready to let his father give all the money in the family to pumpkin sister. In order to reassure The Pumpkin Sister, he also specially asked the Pumpkin Sister to help him write this note and gave it to Zhi Nan as a "gift".
The reason why such a "big gift" was given was because when zhinan visited the ward, the little boy's favorite toy had been borrowed. After learning that the number of toys was limited, he said to Zhi Nan domineeringly, "It's okay sister pumpkin, I asked my father to give you all the big money in the family, so that you can buy more toys!" ”
Seeing his mother and sister pumpkin laughing at their own words, the little boy said, "Sister Pumpkin, don't you believe it?" You help me write it down, and I promise to go talk to my dad. Zhi Nan met the little guy's request, so he had the above photo.
The little boy later gave Zhi Nan a pumpkin pen, and as soon as he saw the pumpkin pen with his mother when he was shopping, he asked his mother to buy it and said that he wanted to give it to his sister
She is one of the few people in her classmates to become a social worker after graduation
Zhi Nan has been a warm-hearted person since she was a child, and when she learned that she studied social work, her former teachers felt that she was a very "good match" with this major.
In fact, when she filled in the college entrance examination, Zhi Nancai knew for the first time about the social work (referred to as "social work") major, and the purpose of "helping others to help themselves" made her deeply impressed by the social work major. After consulting some information, she quickly filled in the volunteer. That autumn, she came to Taiyuan for the first time, set foot in this strange city alone, and began to really understand and walk into social work at Shanxi Medical University.
After six years of study, Zhi Nan was different from the students who chose to take the civil service examination and engage in other jobs, she entered a social work agency, and just in time for the Shanxi Provincial Children's Hospital Aiyou Vanke Children's Paradise was recruiting social workers, she signed up. In this way, from July 2019, she officially became the medical social worker of Aiyou Children's Paradise. Having never dealt with children, she chose to become a social worker who mainly deals with children.
At the beginning, Zhi Nan was particularly stressed, because her department was the Hematology Department of Shanxi Provincial Children's Hospital, "the children here have a long treatment cycle, the body reacts strongly after chemotherapy, and the activity materials must be treated in strict accordance with the department's elimination standards every day." At the same time, Zhi Nan is also a little confused about getting along with the doctor, "The doctor knows all the conditions of the child best, but at the beginning, they may not understand what the medical social worker can do." ”
Therefore, in the first two or three months, Zhi Nan mainly carried out services in the ward, which was convenient for establishing contact with children and quickly familiar with medical staff.
ZhiNan will prepare different toys for children according to their personalities and hobbies, and cultivate feelings with children in the process of playing together
Going to the ward every day, Zhi Nan quickly learned about the children's situation. The hospitalization of children with leukemia is very monotonous. In order to avoid infection, their activity space is basically limited to the ward, and there is basically no other way to entertain except to watch cartoons or play games with their mobile phones. The conventional treatment of chemotherapy and bone puncture always makes children very repulsive and fearful, especially for newly admitted children.
The love card written by the children to Zhi Nan
Once, Zhi Nan, who was wearing a white coat, had just pushed open the door of the ward, and a little boy was drilling into his mother's arms while shouting, "Mother protect me, mother protect me." Zhi Nan reacted at once, probably because he was wearing a white coat, and the child thought that the doctor had come to do medical operations for him again.
Because of this incident, Zhi Nan secretly made a determination, she wanted the children to see the "white coat", not always feel afraid and rejected, but feel the original "white coat", but also bring them happiness and comfort.
Zhinan regularly holds 2-3 theme activities every week
Almost at the same time, Zhi Nan also systematically introduced his work to the medical staff through the learning exchange of the department, and showed everyone the various activities held by the children in the children's playground and the ward, "so that the doctors and nurses have a better understanding of what the medical social worker can do, so that I can carry out my work." ”
From summer to autumn, "Pumpkin Sister" has become a veritable "child king" in hematology, whether it is accompanying at the bedside or organizing children's activities in the children's paradise, wherever she goes, she brings happiness and laughter to everywhere. In the originally very quiet ward, there are more and more laughter, and the doctor will also synchronize the child's situation to Zhi Nan in time, so that she can better help the children adapt to everything in the hospital.
Now, the children are all grouping up with Zhi Nan to go to the children's paradise
"Sister Pumpkin" is the person who receives the most gifts from children in the ward
Every day before starting work, Zhi Nan will "change" a face in the office, she tells herself that she must be positive, optimistic and sunny, only in this way can the children feel more secure. But what Zhi Nan did not expect was that his sunny "face" was exchanged for one sincere and precious gift after another from the children.
The children gave various gifts to Zhi Nan
At the beginning of receiving gifts from children, Zhi Nan was actually a little nervous and shy, because although her parents loved her very much, they did not have much awareness of giving gifts, Zhi Nan's impression of the first time she officially received gifts, or when she was in middle school, her cousin bought her a birthday cake and doll, which was a very warm memory for her.
After receiving the children's gifts, Zhi Nan felt the warmth of receiving the gifts for the first time, as if he had once again surrounded him.
"Sister Pumpkin will be lonely alone, I will draw another pumpkin brother" - the painting that Zhi Nan received
Sending this picture of a pumpkin sister portrait to Zhi Nan's child is a little girl of eight or nine years old. When Zhi Nan first saw her, she was shrinking into a mess on the hospital bed because of the pain caused by the treatment, even if Zhi Nan brought her favorite brush and paper, she could not concentrate on drawing because of the pain.
Later, when she was not so painful, she painted this portrait, "Thank you Pumpkin Sister for always accompanying me when I was uncomfortable, Pumpkin Sister will be lonely alone, so I drew another Pumpkin Brother." ”
Some children saved the stickers of the doctor's reward after completing the bone piercing, and gave them all to Zhi Nan
The 13-year-old Heart Language is almost the oldest of the children who give gifts to Zhinan. "The 9 beds that came in yesterday were a 'big girl', introverted and thoughtful, not too cooperative with the treatment, you pay more attention to her." As soon as he went to work in the morning, the head nurse came to remind Zhi Nan to pay attention to a new child.
The "big girl" was called Xinyu, who was 13 years old at the time, was sent to the hospital because of a sudden fainting, and after examination, she was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia and had just been transferred from the intensive care department. Zhi Nan soon went to visit the ward, but XinYu did not react to Zhi Nan's arrival, and did not answer the greeting, and sat in the corner of the bed.
For the next month or so, Zhi Nan would go to Xinyu almost every day, patiently ask her some questions, and if Xinyu did not want to open her mouth, Zhinan would accompany her at the bedside with Xinyu's favorite handicraft. At first two people may not be able to say a few words, but a lot of work can be done. In the process, Zhi Nan slowly learned that on the one hand, Xinyu did not confirm that she had any disease, nor did she know how long she was going to live in the hospital; on the other hand, the sudden interruption of her studies and life made her feel completely out of touch with life.
Children in the hematology department are generally hospitalized for 30 or 40 days during their first treatment. When they were first admitted to the hospital, the children's resistance and fear were relatively persistent, especially for children with such a large heart language, although their parents would hide the disease at first, they often realized a lot in the process of examination and treatment, and even used mobile phones to inquire.
At this time, the state of the people around them has a great impact on the treatment of children. Zhi Nan always reminds himself that he must remain positive and optimistic in front of the heart language, and even pretends that he is very brave, takes the initiative to share some of his life experience with her, accompanies the heart language with the greatest patience, and reminds himself not to rush to achieve success.
In order to make Xinyu more suitable for hospital life, Zhinan found another girl in the department who was similar to Xinyu's age and held a networking activity for them, but the effect was not satisfactory, and the introverted Xinyu still did not want to contact others. Zhi Nan was not discouraged and continued to chat and do handicrafts with his heart every day.
It wasn't until she had been treated for four or five months that Xinyu finally adapted to the life of hospitalization, and she began to take the initiative to tell the doctor how she felt about her body, and she would also find Zhi Nan to do handicrafts together. When she was preparing to be hospitalized before chemotherapy, she suddenly appeared in the children's paradise with a bouquet of handmade bouquets, "Sister Pumpkin, thank you." ”
The first photo of Zhi Nan and Xin Yu
A handmade bouquet of flowers given to Zhi Nan by Heart Whisper
Heart-language's mother told Zhi Nan that after the chemotherapy at home for two weeks, Heart Language's physical reaction was not very strong, and she offered to do handicrafts for Zhi Nan and the medical staff, "I want to send them gifts that I made myself, thank you for being so kind to me." ”
On Teachers' Day last year, Xinyu sent ZhiNan a pair of hand-made Tiananmen, "You are like my teacher in the hospital, I wish you a happy holiday." Zhi Nan never thought that she could still receive gifts on Teacher's Day, when the treatment of heart language had stabilized, and she spent a lot less time with heart language than before. Along with the gift, there was a letter written by Xinyu, in which she said, "Seriously, when I was uncomfortable, my temper was sometimes unbearable even for my parents, but you always comforted me in a gentle voice, and I was really touched." Although sometimes I don't speak, I always want to show you the best of my life. ”
Handwritten letters from the heart
Zhi Nan placed the gift that Xinyu had given her on the windowsill of her office
Later, at zhinan's invitation, Xinyu began to serve as a "part-time" handicraft teacher in the children's paradise, teaching other children to do handicrafts.
The children gave zhinan many of the crafts they had done as gifts
On Christmas Eve, she rushed to the hospital in time for Xinyu, and she sent a gift to Zhinan, "Sister Pumpkin, I wish you peace and security." Zhi Nan placed the gifts from Xinyu neatly on the windowsill, reminding himself that he should always be a little more patient with the children.
Another little boy who is very good at doing crafts also impressed Zhinan, especially the fan he gave zhinan.
It was the hottest time in the summer, and in order to avoid catching a cold for children, the air conditioner in the department could not be turned on too low. Zhi Nan, who wears a mask and works, whether it is ward service or organizing activities in the children's paradise, is always hot and sweaty, and often takes out a paper towel to wipe the sweat.
Before an activity began, she saw the little boy come to the children's paradise early and handed her the fan, "Sister Pumpkin gave it to you, and it won't be hot if you fan more." The little boy's intimate behavior instantly moved Zhi Nan. This little boy has always been very dependent on Zhi Nan, especially when doing medical preparations and medical companionship, he also told Zhi Nan more than once, "Sister Pumpkin, I am not afraid to have you." ”
Little boys who love to do handicrafts often come to the children's paradise to find Zhi Nan
The little boy had an infection during the third course of treatment, and both thumbs were bandaged up and could not be done by hand, so Zhi Nan read him picture books, told stories, and used interesting little stories to tell him what the infection was, so that he did not worry too much. Within a few days, the little boy adapted to doing handicrafts in the case of bandaging, and he gave Zhi Nan a handmade drawer, "Pumpkin sister this treasure drawer is given to you, you can put your treasures in." ”
"Pumpkin Sister" also prepared a lot of gifts for the children
While receiving gifts from children, Zhinan has also been carefully planning and giving out various gifts for children.
Xinxin, who has just been admitted to the hospital, is about to celebrate her second birthday, and after discussing with the doctor, Zhi Nan is ready to hold a special birthday party for her. Considering Shin Shin's age, Zhi Nan specially prepared several toys for her as gifts to ensure that she would not be bored without coming to the Children's Paradise.
Zhi Nan and Xinxin's attending doctor celebrate her birthday together
For very young children, the monotonous hospitalization life will make them more resistant and repulsive to treatment and hospitals, and their parents are relatively young, and in a short period of time, they must accept the fact that the child is sick, but also take into account the child's emotions, and must also learn very meticulous and complicated details of the escort, which is also a great pressure for them. Therefore, Zhi Nan wants to let Xinxin and her parents feel more warmth and care through the birthday party, but also relax the tense nerves and help their family adapt to the hospital life as soon as possible.
8-year-old Zi Hao was the first child to offer to join Zhi Nan in delivering gifts to the newly hospitalized children. At that time, Zhi Nan had just delivered the hospital adaptation warm bag to him, "Sister, can I go with you to give it to other children?" Zhi Nan immediately agreed to him. Although in order to avoid infection, Zi Hao can only take the gift to the door of each ward, and then hand it to the children by Zhi Nan, he has no complaints, and said that he will continue to help tomorrow.
Accompany Zhi Nan to distribute the hospital to adapt to the warm bag of Zi Hao
Later, after getting acquainted, Zi Haocai told Zhi Nan that because he especially liked to be admitted to the hospital to adapt to the warm bag, he wanted to send such a great gift to more children like him with "Pumpkin Sister", so that more children like him could be happy.
Zi Hao, who is inconvenient to get out of bed because of the treatment operation, has been playing with the toys sent by Zhi Nan
Later, after Zi Hao's condition stabilized, he also volunteered at the children's park to help Zhi Nan simply clean and disinfect the toys. Because of a small gift, with such a caring and warm little volunteer as Zihao, Zhi Nan was very relieved in his heart, "It turns out that giving gifts and receiving gifts brings the same emotion and strength. ”
Zi Hao carefully disinfects the toys
According to the different conditions of children, the treatment process of children with leukemia is generally divided into induction remission therapy, early intensive treatment, consolidation therapy, delayed intensive treatment and maintenance therapy period, and children who enter the maintenance period do not need long-term continuous hospitalization. Zhi Nan decided to hold a treatment party for Xiao He who ended the chemotherapy and entered the maintenance period, she prepared a mysterious surprise for Xiao He - 2021 Growth Record, using a photo album to record Xiao He's more than a year of treatment in the hospital, and collecting blessings from doctors, nurses, friends and other parents in the ward for him, Zhi Nan edited these materials into a video and played it on the day of the party.
Seeing frame after frame of video, turning over page after page of photo albums, full of memories and deep feelings, made everyone present very moved, and it was not only every activity that Xiaohe participated in, but also the footprints of his growth. A child took Zhi Nan's hand while watching, "Sister Pumpkin, I can't look at it anymore, I'm in tears." "Not only the children were moved, but many parents and medical nurses also saw tears in their eyes, because with the children's paradise and medical social workers, the children's memories of being in the hospital are not just injections and infusions."
Koga knot healing blessing video
After dialing the spike and receiving the graduation gift, Zhi Nan told Koga, "You are already a successful person in the treatment, and we all wish you a brave way to meet your future life and study!" Keep up the good work! Every time when holding a knot party for the children, Zhi Nan will also invite the doctor to send the children the growth record book she made, so that the children can remember the warm time they spent in the company of medical care, parents, social workers and ward friends.
Director Hao of the Department of Hematology of Shanxi Children's Hospital sent gifts to the children who were treated
In the more than two years of the children's paradise, Zhi Nan may have received no less than 100 gifts from the children, from simple sketches to carefully completed handicrafts, from fruits placed on the table in the morning, to small holiday gifts specially sent by the children, and various pumpkin peripherals that the children encountered... Zhi Nan's box of gifts also became larger and heavier.
Zhi Nan received the most gifts, which were children's paintings
Zhi Nan always remembers the letters written to her by Xinyu, and she is more determined to choose the job of social worker, she feels that every gift given to her by the children is a medal, and she also wants to do her best to send more warm memories and loving gifts to the children.
A happy moment for Zhi Nan and the children together
I hope that more hospitalized children can better adapt to everything in the hospital in the company of Aiyou Children's Paradise and medical social workers, and leave happy memories of childhood in the hospital. (The names of the children in this article are pseudonyms)
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Editor / Pi Lei Responsible Editor / Li Qing