My family is a two-child family, and my brother and I have a big age difference. The year of my middle school entrance exam coincided with the birth of my brother, and we were 14 years apart, which meant that I would always play with him as a child.
But over time, I found a strange phenomenon, there are always one or two people, as soon as they get close to my brother, he will dodge behind me, and even cry when it is serious.
At first, I thought it was because most of the people who brought my brother in the family were me and my mother, and my father never participated in it, so that most of the women around my brother made my brother a little timid and cowardly. When my brother was just beginning to walk, we took him out, and he would avoid the old man on crutches.
When he was two or three years old, he would clearly express his fear of the elderly on crutches or in a wheelchair, and his father would think that his brother did not have empathy and compassion, and he would reprimand his brother, perhaps this negative reinforcement, causing his brother to be more afraid of such old people.
Since I came from a school of education, I always felt that my brother's fear of such old people was for a reason, so I went to consult a professional psychological counselor and doctor with this question, so I knew the problem.
Why does a baby suddenly cry when he sees "someone"?
The eye structure of the baby at 6 months ago is not fully developed
The development of the eye structure of the baby at a young age varies with time, and at 6 months ago, the baby's eyes were all vague and confused, and it was not until the baby was 6 months old that he could see things in front of him more clearly.
Therefore, the little babies are born with "face control", they will show friendship to people with well-proportioned features, which is also because they are blurred in front of their eyes, and the well-proportioned facial features will be more comfortable than those slightly distorted facial features in their eyes, which is the so-called children like beautiful people.
For children before six months, the facial skin of the elderly is sagging, which is some facial distortion, so many small babies will have a sense of rejection of the elderly.
From 6 months to 1 year old, the baby is in the "recognition period"
The birth period is actually a kind of psychological anxiety, also known as "stranger anxiety", which is a period of psychological anxiety for babies from six months to one year old. At this stage, the baby will be particularly vigilant against strangers, and at the same time, there will be great resistance to the stranger's approach and touch and even pushback behavior.
I remember when my brother was less than one year old, there were always relatives at home to see, but the brother in that period was particularly "unruly", when the relatives wanted to hug him, he not only cried, but even reached out to pat the relatives to reach over and want to hold his hands, during that time, the relatives always talked about his brother, they were saying that he was not relatives at all, very uncivil.
I will be very angry after hearing it, scientific certification, about 50% to 80% of babies will have a birth period, not my brother's fault, but the mistake of adults who do not understand science.
Children after the age of one enter a period of high sensitivity
Many children after the age of one are highly sensitive, their sense of smell, vision, perception and even emotions are particularly sensitive, and it is easy to have different feelings due to changes in the surrounding environment or subtle changes. It's like my brother would feel uncomfortable with an old man on crutches, maybe it was just because the decaying aura of this kind of crowd made my brother uncomfortable.
In fact, high sensitivity traits are not the eyes of parents, on the contrary, this will make children have stronger empathy ability, they can also better regulate their emotions in growth, which is a very good trait.
How to relieve your baby from suddenly crying when he sees "someone"?
First of all, for babies at a young age, it is very necessary to fully exercise the eyes, which will allow their visual ability to be best developed, and naturally they will better recognize people's faces.
Secondly, for babies from six months to one year old, parents should encourage the baby to treat the people around them correctly, and at the same time exercise more, take the baby out of the comfort zone, go out to know more people, and intervene in the baby's long "recognition period".
Finally, it is necessary to create a safe space for highly sensitive babies to have enough security, and only by creating enough self-security in a safe environment can the trouble of high sensitivity be avoided.