After taking the film, do you still have to fight for 4 tires?

Let's start with a question.

If you are now thriving in your career, it is a good time to work hard, but your husband asks you to have another child, what will you do?

Put it on the current female star, basically choose: engage in career.

For example, Jia Jingwen's husband Xiu Jiekai, when he recently talked about the topic of parenting on the Small S program, he suddenly came to a sentence:

"I love children, and if I can, I'd like to have another one."

This remark not only surprised Xiao S, but also surprised the melon eating masses.

You know, when she married Xiu Jiekai, Jia Jingwen had already risked the risk of being 40 years old and had given birth to two daughters successively.

Plus a daughter with her ex-husband, she has already had three children.

Now 47 years old, her career is starting again, her family is happy, she was originally very perfect, and she did not want to be "spawned" by her husband.

Many netizens complained: "Is it really not for a boy?" ”

Jia Jingwen's attitude towards giving birth to the fourth child is also very disgusted, and she directly rolled her eyes in public, helplessly saying:

"I've already given birth to three, let me go..."

Seriously, Xiu Jiekai wants his wife Jia Jingwen to have four children, whether he wants to fight for his son, it is not easy to say.

But it seems that women nowadays are really not very interested in having children.

According to data from the National Bureau of Statistics, in 2019, the national birth rate was only 10.48%.

In 2020, it was 10.3%, a new 43-year low.

Just in the first two weeks, we witnessed a moment in history.

India's population exceeded 1.415 billion, surpassing China and becoming the world's most populous country.

It seems that the willingness of young people to have children is really getting lower and lower.

In fact, behind this, there is still no way to avoid economic problems.

To put it bluntly, today's young people "don't want to give birth", to a large extent, "dare not give birth".

If raising children is like an investment, it's easy to understand.

The first is the high cost of marriage and love, the cost of education.

Today, the three mountains of housing prices, medical care and education have overwhelmed young people.

Getting married and having children, one ring buckles and one ring, and the ring is very expensive.

The high cost of raising children in the first-tier cities of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen is thrilling to watch.

Take education, for example.

Since kindergarten, my daughter has enrolled in a lot of interest classes, dancing, drawing, and playing the piano.

And these interest classes, the price is outrageously expensive.

Can I not learn?

As a parent, you don't dare.

When more and more parents give everything they can to raise their children, you also have to roll up, otherwise, the children will really be left behind by their peers.

Looking at the findings, the cost of education is the biggest factor influencing fertility.

No wonder there is a saying that goes like this: "Education is the best contraceptive pill".

Secondly, the time cost of women's childbearing is too large.

It will even lead to a work crisis.

From pregnancy to childbirth, and the breastfeeding period after childbirth, in order to better raise children, most people have to stay away from the workplace for a period of time after becoming a mother.

Many people even directly bid farewell to the workplace and became a housewife.

And today's employment environment is really unfriendly to women.

Originally, the three births were released in order to encourage everyone to have children, and women's maternity leave was extended accordingly.

However, in this way, many employers are even more afraid to hire women, but it aggravates women's employment discrimination.

If a woman is married and childless, she is likely to be asked: When will she have children?

Because of the fear that taking maternity leave to have a child will affect work.

If a woman is married and has children, even if she has already had a second child, she is likely to be questioned: is there enough energy to focus on work?

In short, childbearing seems to become a kind of "punishment" for women, so that they lose the opportunity to realize their self-worth.

In addition to the cost, young people's concept of childbearing is also very different.

Different from the concept of raising children and preventing old age in the older generation, the concept of fertility of young people is now changing.

They seem to be more concerned about where the nursing home facilities are more perfect than raising babies and preventing the elderly.

Many young people now even start to plan their own pension plans early to avoid risks.

Investment looks at cost, looks at pay, and pays more attention to results.

When the cost, energy and harvest are not equal, then in the eyes of most people, the investment of raising a baby is actually not cost-effective, and there is no need to invest too much.

After all, most of the post-90s and post-00s are only children, most of them are well educated, and their self-awareness is also relatively strong.

They are not willing to sacrifice their quality of life for their children, and they would rather not have children if they do not have enough financial means to raise them.

On the other hand

There will also be many people who choose to shelve their birth plans because they do not have the confidence to give their children better conditions, or even give up directly.

Under the pressure of reality, young people's desire to have children has gradually decreased.

Therefore, it is not possible to simply blame young people for not being born as "selfish" and "irresponsible".

Some parents even left a harsh word:

"If you don't get married and have children, I won't be able to close my eyes when I die."

But is this simple and rude marriage urging and urging really useful?

Today's young people have long jumped out of the thinking mode of the previous generation.

They have more caution about the topic of fertility.

They feel that under the financial permission, it is only responsible for the child to consider childbearing.

In the stage of economic impermissibility, refusing to have children is actually a kind of "risk control" stop loss move.

Write at the end

Back to Alyssa.

If she stops her career now and has more children, in addition to the risk of physical reasons, financial loss, it is estimated that it is a greater risk.

After all, At the peak of her career that year, Jia Jingwen suddenly announced her marriage and children and faded out of the entertainment circle.

As a result, the first marriage hurt her badly.

After a hard time in 40+, her career glowed for the second spring:

At the age of 45, with the masterpiece "The Distance Between Us and Evil" with a Douban score of 9.4, he won the Golden Bell Award.

47 years old, won the Golden Horse Film Queen with the movie "Waterfall".

Now that her family is happy, she has three daughters, and her career is expected to go further, and she will fight for four children at this time?

For Jia Jingwen, it is really not the best choice.

People are all attributes that seek advantage and avoid harm, let alone in the entertainment industry where competition is so fierce?

Moreover, it is not easy to have a baby, it is really not such a simple thing as touching the upper and lower lips.

Whether to be born or not, when to be born, should be decided by the women.

As family and friends, we only need to give the greatest blessings and support.

Finally, I also hope that you will not only have the confidence of "giving birth to a baby", but also have the freedom of "not having a baby"!