A growing body of information indicates that the mental health of married women needs to be taken seriously. According to the results, women's chance of depression is itself twice that of men, and the probability of depression in married women is higher than that of unmarried women, so from the perspective of marriage and gender type, married women are considered to be the most vulnerable to depression.
Why is this happening? The cause of depression in women is caused by social factors, and Professor Rong Xinqi, a new concept psychology expert, said that a large part of the reason for depression in married women lies in social pressure, which can include the following:
1. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem: traditional family and modern family, in-law family is not my family, small family and large family.
2. Run-in problems after marriage: domestic violence, divorce.
3. Workplace issues: financial independence and housewives.
4. Fertility problems: giving birth to several children, giving birth to boys and girls, infertility, pregnancy and childbirth, postpartum recovery, postpartum depression.
5. Parenting problems: the distribution of focus (love children / love yourself), find a babysitter, family assistance, let the child win at the starting point, communicate different parenting concepts.
In most cases, the cause of depression in men is caused by problems that their own value cannot be realized, and social pressure may be only a small part of the situation. Professor Rong Xinqi suggested that if married women want to get better mental health, they can start from the following aspects:
1. Attach importance to yourself, and be mentally prepared for role conversion, before the role of family and work, first find a position for yourself, so as not to lose the center of gravity and feel lost when life changes, and master more skills and knowledge of being a wife and mother.
2. Know how to love yourself, know what to do will make yourself happy, and rest properly.
3. Maintain flexibility, enhance adaptability, establish self-confidence, but do not over-demand, change different ways of responding to different problems at different times, do not avoid contradictions, do not shrink back, do not drill the horns of everything, and want to open up.
4. Establish a reasonable and balanced atmosphere in the family, be considerate of each other, take the initiative to undertake housework within their capabilities and strive for the support and cooperation of their husbands.
5. Pay attention to the psychological compatibility between husband and wife, and do not neglect the mutual communication with the husband and the care and consideration for the husband because of the care for the child.
6. Make continuous progress in your career or self-ability, improve your own value, but do not worry more about personal grievances.
7. Strengthen cultural and artistic accomplishment, and attach importance to grooming and dress.
8. Carry out appropriate physical exercise, pay attention to diet and nutrition, quit bad habits, and adhere to a regular life.
9. Establish your own interpersonal relationships: When encountering great psychological pressure, you should be bold and talk to others, and seek the enlightenment and help of others.
10. Seek resources and support.
The above are Professor Rong Xinqi's ten suggestions on the mental health of married women, of course, the most important thing is to find that you have a psychological obstacle, even if it is most important to seek help.
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