【People on the journey】My family has a female who has not grown up / Lu Shaobin

Granddaughter Ma was born in September 2014. At birth, because he was too big, he had to have a caesarean section in the hospital. Born a name, obedient, 8 pounds 4 two! This is also one of the best babies born in the hospital. The day after birth, when I went to the hospital, the little guy was chubby, especially the small mouth with two small meat buns, which was very cute and cute.

A few days later, when I was discharged from the hospital and went home, my wife came back and said that the child always slept soundly at night, and cried all night! My wife and I have always wanted a daughter, but since the 1980s and 1990s, family planning has been a national policy, and many people have been punished for having one more child, and some even lost their jobs. Although I dream of having a daughter, I am afraid that if I give birth to a second child and lose my hard-won job, I will not have the opportunity to have my own daughter again, and I have always regretted it. Seeing those who use various reasons to steal and have more lives, while admiring their bravery, I also deeply regret their honesty and obedience, and often think, why not find a reason to have one more at that time? Now that we have let go of the second and third children, we do not have this ability, and we can only look at other people's "little cotton jackets" in a daze.

The arrival of my granddaughter gave me a feeling of fulfilling my dreams. Since you don't have a daughter of your own in this life, treat your granddaughter as your "daughter". The next day, after a busy day's work, I came to my son's house after work in the evening.

Sure enough, the little one ate and slept restlessly. Dad, Grandpa, Grandma, and Grandma take turns to hug and can't sleep. It is strange to say that the little granddaughter who cried for several days took me into my arms and fell asleep peacefully in ten minutes, and slept very sweetly and sweetly! Afterwards, I have been wondering, is the little guy feeling in his heart, discharged from the hospital for several days, blame grandpa did not come to see in time, a little provocative?

The little guy is naturally active, and his appetite is surprisingly good, and he often rolls his little belly round. After a few months, he looked white and fat, and he was likable, either sleeping heavily, or grinning at someone to tease.

Watching children is a technical job, but also a worry, a little inattentive will be a problem. Every day we are worried, really holding it in our hands for fear, holding it in our mouths for fear of melting. When she was able to run on the ground for more than 2 weeks, one night when we were not paying attention, she picked up the boiling kettle, which scared me into a cold sweat, and quickly let her put it down. But the boiling hot water still spilled on her body, and she cried in pain. My heart ached unspeakably uncomfortable, and I immediately went to the hospital to buy medicines for burns and anti-inflammatory pain, but the child's hands and body still had big blisters on his hands and body, and it did not gradually subside until two weeks later.

After that, she also had a long memory, and she did not dare to touch the kettle where the hot water was boiled. The hardest part of every day is when you go to work in the morning, when you wear shoes to go, she is blocked at the door and cries and shouts and hugs your thighs and does not let go. The little guy is willful and not easy to manage, sometimes go outside to play, see what is fun and want to buy, otherwise cry, saying that we are not grandpa, not grandma. Under such kinship threats and kidnappings, we often raised our hands and surrendered our weapons. In this regard, the child's parents also have opinions about us, which makes us feel embarrassed.

Watching children also has fun. Whenever you go to bed at night, the little guy will pestering you to tell stories, such as "The Wolf Is Coming", "The Pony Crossing the River", "The Daughter of the Sea", "The Seven Dwarfs", etc., at first it is a big eye to listen to it, and it falls asleep listening to it. Her favorite listening to are "Divine Pen Ma Liang", "King Kong Gourd Baby", "The Little Girl Who Sold Matches", I don't know how many times I have listened to it. Some storybooks I don't know how many times I have read them, and I have to let you read them when I sleep at night. When you mispronounce a word or make a mistake, she will correct it for you immediately.

The little guy also has a lot of self-esteem. Once, for the pronunciation of a word, it was obvious that he was wrong, he had to say that grandma was wrong, and he almost cried all night without opening the sun. For this, you have to take it seriously. Sometimes, for the origin of a word, in order to make an accurate pronunciation, we have to look up the dictionary and find information, which also forces us to review the knowledge of the past elementary school and junior high school. It was when I was in kindergarten, and my grandmother and I took her to the lawn of the old second middle school on the east side of the villa on weekends to play, and she shouted in surprise while running: "Ghost hug thief!" "What is ghost hugging and stealing?" I'm so weird. Looking in the direction she said, there was a stone stele standing under the big tree, and the inscription on it was: "Locust hug elm!" "Suddenly it made us lean forward and backward. The little guy was embarrassed and ran away with a red face.

The little one is curious and often asks where he came from, how he got married, where my mom and dad went, and so on. Sometimes she also said that in the future, she would go to university, go to Tsinghua, become a doctor, and become a dean, and treat me. He also said that he would become a soldier in the future, and when I was old, he would come back to see me, and the small mouth would be sweet for you to enjoy very much.

I love watching war movies, and she loves watching them too. In the winter of 2020, I followed CCTV to chase the "Across the Yalu River" TV series, and she often squeezed into a sofa with me to chase the drama and recommended movies. One night, after the two of us held the tablet and watched the hit "King Kong Chuan" together, she actually said that without the People's Liberation Army (actually the volunteer army), we were all dead! I don't know how she got this realization.

As she grew older, her granddaughter came into contact with early education classes such as "Disciple Rules" and "Three Character Classic", and whenever she heard the Tang poems and Song words emitted from her childish voice and air-leaking small mouth, she truly felt what is the joy of heaven and the joy of going around her knees. Under the guidance of her parents, she was exposed to swimming, dancing, calligraphy, and painting. When I saw her going back and forth to this class every day, I had a lot of pity and sympathy in my heart, especially when I saw that she couldn't finish her homework and was punished by her parents, there was unspeakable heart-wrenching and uncomfortable.

Today, my granddaughter is 8 years old, in the second grade of primary school, and is learning more and more. What "clouds to rain, snow to wind, evening light to clear skies; smoke and willows on both sides of the strait, a garden of spring rain and apricot blossoms." "Spring to summer, autumn to winter, twilight drum to morning bell, mountains to play with water, green bamboo to cang pine."

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It makes me happy and surprised that a child has mastered so many things at such a young age, and in addition to being happy and surprised, I am also worried, will I be crushed by the mountain of knowledge if I accept such a profound thing at such a young age?!

In fact, the process of accompanying children is also a process of constantly correcting themselves and improving themselves. Usually, if you don't pay attention to a rude sentence, she will unceremoniously point out that if you dare to come up with a dirty word, she will criticize you mercilessly. When you go out, if you don't pay attention to spitting out a mouthful of spit or throwing a piece of confetti, she will also firmly remind you to correct you. Therefore, when you are with your child, you must always pay attention to your words and deeds. To a large extent, the child is my teacher, the child is my friend, and it is a mirror of me!

When adults are older, virtue is not necessarily better than that of children. We must always pay attention to self-cultivation and morality, and children must grow up with children again! We must pay attention to using our own virtues to pave the way for children's growth. In the face of innocent children, nature cannot be destroyed, kindness cannot be deceived, and any laissez-faire and incorruptibility is a blasphemy against human nature and a harm to innocence!

May the granddaughter have a happy childhood, and may more granddaughters thrive.