We often see this scene, the child runs in front, parents or grandparents chase in the back, either chasing the feeding or chasing the feeding water, just so that the child can eat more food, always afraid that the child will not eat enough, wear not warm enough.
In fact, babies aged 8-12 months can try to grab things and eat themselves. If you don't want to chase the baby to feed every day in the future, the key is to cultivate the child's ability to eat independently from an early age.
Looking for food is a natural instinct, the baby from birth to the mouth touched the mother's breast to know to suck, in the baby chewing function matured, the mother should gradually let the baby develop the ability to eat independently.
Chasing the feeding is bound to bring different degrees of harm to the baby:
1. Damage to digestive function
Parents can not grasp the rhythm when feeding, sometimes fast, sometimes slow, the baby eats very hard, often gobble up, can not fully chew food, facial muscles can not get normal exercise, swallow into the stomach is not easy to digest, the baby's digestive function has a great impact.
2. Damage to concentration
In order to let the baby eat well, parents often play with the baby while feeding, and even in order to let the baby sit quietly, let the baby watch TV, play with toys, and then take advantage of this time to feed the baby, a meal often has to be fed for more than an hour, and parents are also tired and miserable. This is a good mood for the baby, but the baby does not understand whether this is eating or making games, and it is impossible to use both purposes, once there is no game and TV accompaniment, forming a vicious circle, the meal of course can not be eaten.
3. Affect the baby's fine motor development
The development of the baby is first from the big action to the small action, from the first stroke of the arm, kicking the leg such a big action, to the use of small hands to take chopsticks to take toys and other hand fine movements. Babies eat by themselves, need hands, eyes, mouth coordination with each other, can be a good exercise of the baby's hand-eye brain coordination ability and balance ability, has a positive effect on the baby's intellectual development. Some parents feel that their children eat slowly, and it is difficult to clean up everywhere, so they simply feed the baby directly, but the child's coordination ability has nowhere to exercise.
4. Affect the baby's sense of autonomy and positive personality
Eating is originally the child's own business, and it is up to him to control how much he eats and how fast he eats. But if the parents chase the feeding, the child will think that this is the parent's business, he is only to help the parents to complete the task, in the long run, the baby's sense of autonomy is gradually weakened, will form a negative personality.
5. It is easy to form a way of thinking of "talking with parents about conditions"
We can often hear parents say to the baby "eat quickly, eat to you ...", while feeding while promising to give the baby a variety of things, once the habit is formed, the baby may use the meal to talk to the parents about the conditions, and "a cry to meet the harm of the same work", in the long run, the baby may become more and more willful, selfish, love to lose temper.