Under normal circumstances, the mother is the main force in educating children, the pattern of "male outside, female inside" is more common, especially in the case of the current two children and three children, the mother mainly focuses on education and family, and the father is responsible for career and family support.
Although the father does not often get along with the child, compared to the mother, it is also more majestic, the child generally has a small "fear" feeling for the father, the father puts on a face, the child obediently does it, appearing more obedient.
The role of fathers in educating children cannot be ignored, and fathers with patterns often say these four sentences to their children, and children are more prominent when they grow up:
1. Do your own thing
Fathers are more inclined to let children do their own things independently, rather than letting others do the work, from an early age to teach children to dress themselves, tidy up the room, learn to do housework, etc., to give children more free control space, and less like the mother to take care of.
Such a child grows up to have a more independent and free personality, unfettered, strong control, able to handle various things well outside, and the child has a number in mind, and will take the initiative to ask for support in case of need of help to help himself.
2, believe you can
When the child describes to the parents that his self-feeling state is not good, the father will give the child encouragement, not be confused by the child's superficial words, believe in the child's strength, and more keenly and directly sense the child's true state, rather than the mother who is worried when she hears the child's description.
Children can feel more strength in their fathers, not afraid of difficulties and obstacles, have the courage and confidence to overcome setbacks, the current backwardness is only temporary, and the spiral is in line with the law of growth, which is the normal state of life.
3. Take responsibility for your own actions
Children do wrong things, accept punishment, take responsibility for their own actions, rather than let others pay for you, understand the rules, pay attention to the rules from an early age; fathers are often more severe than mothers, because mothers have been worn out of the daily frivolous skin, and the willfulness of children is often ignored.
For mothers, although it is very tiring to take care of children every day, it is also necessary to find out the shortcomings of children in time and keenly, and guide them to correct them, so as not to let children develop wayward bad habits, which is not conducive to the formation of good character and good habits.
4, parents are your eternal strong backing
Tell the child: "No matter what, your parents love you, you are always strong backing, and your parents and mothers will always love you." This sentence is the driving force and source of the child's progress, the family is the child's warm harbor, and if you have been wronged and treated unfairly outside, you will be healed when you think of home.
Children who love in their hearts are full of security, more aggressive, more capable of loving others, willing to share and help others, broad in pattern, not selfish, have good popularity, get more help, and have a broader world of life.
Father's education and mother are equally important, not often with the child, but getting along with the child will give the child great motivation and support, warm fatherly love nourishes the child's healthy growth.
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