Why do children always cling to their mothers and refuse to contact new friends?
Why does everything around you make your child nervous?
Why are children timid, shy, and unwilling to say hello to those around them?
Why can the slightest thing make children cry endlessly?
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Timid, crying, clingy and shy, what happened to the child? Is it really the "glass heart"? When encountering this type of child, it is estimated that most parents will have a headache, right?
What is haptic sensitivity?
Tactile sensitivity, simply put, the child's tactile information from childhood is not enough, and later when faced with some foreign new stimuli, it is impossible to adapt quickly, and then produce some more negative emotions, such as avoidance, irritability, and even crying.
How to tell if the baby in the family has a tactile sensitivity problem?
If there are more than 2 of the following 10 self-test items, it is recommended that parents can further make a detailed assessment for their children.
1
Will the child resist stepping on the grass or the beach
Children with sensitive touch will be very afraid on the beach, usually the mother will feel that the beach is too hot, but if he is not even hot, or even as long as it is the ground outside the home, he will be afraid when he steps on it, which may be a problem of tactile sensitivity.
2
Do not give hugs to people other than parents
At the beginning, when children do not give people to hold, we will think that they are afraid of life, but when children with sensitive touches can walk, they will hide behind their parents when they meet strangers or people who occasionally meet, and they will hide behind their parents and do not like the touch of others.
3
I don't like to wash my hair, face, and brush my teeth
Because when washing hair and face, our vision is not visible, brushing teeth is the same, simply only the sense of touch, so children with sensitive touch will feel afraid.
4
You'll need your own pillow, quilt or doll to sleep with
Why do children feel safe holding these things? Because he can get a familiar tactile stimulus, this stimulation can stabilize him, relatively speaking, unfamiliar tactile stimulation will make them feel uneasy and unable to sleep.
5
Kids don't like to wear new clothes
The tactile sensitive baby will like to find the clothes he is used to wearing, probably some special materials, the texture of the new clothes is likely to make the child unable to adapt, there is a poor mood, can not sit still, irritable... and other conditions.
6
Doesn't like interacting with others
The tactile-sensitive baby doesn't like to play interactive games with other children because he avoids touching others, so he tries to leave the crowd to do his own thing.
7
Touching or touching him will throw a tantrum
Because for a tactilely sensitive child, the brain is like an amplifier that makes the sensations very large, so even if someone just touches him gently, it feels as if someone else is hitting him.
8
Don't dare touch a new toy
When this kind of child sees a new toy, he will be curious, but he will not play with it immediately, because he will still be a little afraid, so he may run and jump around the new toy happily, but he does not dare to reach out and take it.
9
Wear long-sleeved pants on hot days
To avoid skin irritation from the wind, other people's touch, or from tables and chairs... Wait, tactile sensitive children still like to wear long-sleeved pants even on hot days.
10
Very picky about the water temperature in the shower
As long as the temperature of the water is slightly higher or lower, it will start to wow, take the thermometer to measure, and find that the child will find that the water temperature is very accurate every time he feels acceptable.
Since there is a reason, there is naturally a way to solve it, how can we improve the child's tactile sensitivity, let them let go of their defenses, and become a child full of security, optimism and confidence?
1. Companionship and touching
The patient companionship of parents can make children feel the love of their parents, make children feel safe, and no longer fear strange environments and things.
Moderate touch can help children establish a good tactile system, stabilize their emotions, and at the same time allow children to relax physically and mentally and face the world around them optimistically.
2． Give your child free space
Create a free space for children, so that children can perceive and contact the surrounding environment in their own space.
In fact, whether it is a baby who likes to crawl, or a big baby who can run and jump, they all need free space, space to explore and discover. If parents can satisfy their children's desire to explore under the premise of ensuring safety, their development will be better, and the tactile system can be well established.
3. Train your sense of touch through games
Parents can use some parent-child games to train their children's sense of touch.
Tactile ball massage: let the child lie on the bed, parents gently roll the tactile ball from the child's head to the child's feet, slow down, the force is light, to the child's comfort is appropriate (you can also let the child lie on the bed, from the back to the buttocks rolling massage).
Scratching game: let the child lie on the bed, parents scratch the child's chest or armpits, pay attention to the child's reaction, if the reaction is too large, it can be appropriately reduced.
Combing the hair game: Parents use the comb to comb the child's hair, let the tip of the comb stimulate the child's scalp, but also let the child comb his own hair, so that not only can carry out tactile training, but also promote the development of the child's hand fine movements.
PS: When playing, you can put a soothing music or a funny story to relieve the child's nervousness.
Parents are a mirror of the child, in life, we must look more inward, but also to see the advantages and disadvantages of the child, give them the most needed, so that it is more conducive to the growth and development of the child.