-01-
Life is long, and each of us is on the road.
Remember what SuZen once said:
The person who understands you will love you in the way you need it, and the person who doesn't understand you will love you in the way he needs.
It can be seen that between lovers, a thousand sentences of "I love you" cannot withstand the default sentence of "he understands me" in his heart.
People who understand you don't need to explain, there is no need to explain, and they won't let you love each other humbly, nor will they let you lose yourself.
And people who don't understand you, even if you give everything, exhaust your strength, and try to get close to each other, you will still be like a thousand rivers and mountains, unable to cross.
Because there will always be a gap between you, that is, words are not speculative, more than half a sentence.
It's like you like to raise flowers, but in the pots you carefully care for, there will always be a lot of cigarette butts that he extinguishes;
You like to climb mountains, but whenever you invite him to go along, he will always refuse on the grounds of "many people", "tired", "better to play games at home" and so on;
You like to be quiet, but he always likes to invite friends to the house, noisy, you keep cutting fruit, pouring drinks, exhausted, complaining to him, but he comes to a sentence "Playing with everyone is better than the two of us at home";
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Therefore, in this relationship, you do not get the warmth of love at all, nor do you feel the joy of love at all, but you are becoming more and more lonely and more and more want to escape.
You said "Tonight's moon is beautiful", and he replied to you with a sentence of "beautiful, not round at all".
At this time, you must understand: you, different frequencies, do not resonate.
You guys, it's really inappropriate.
-02-
Love needs the same frequency resonance.
I still remember when watching "Those Years", at the end of the film, Shen Jiayi married a man who was much older than her, and the two people, just from the appearance point of view, were very incompatible.
The scene on the wedding, let us in front of the screen, sigh incomparably.
However, after people mature, when you have talked about several loves, when you enter marriage, you will find out what Shen Jiayi shouted at the male protagonist in the rain, "You don't understand anything", what does it mean.
The appearance of a talented woman, sometimes, is only superficial coordination; the real fit requires two people to be able to understand each other's voices.
The love of two people, many times, does not need to be so vigorous, does not require any commitments and vows.
It's just that one understands, one appreciates.
If you are self-motivated and want to go abroad for further study, and the other party feels that it is enough to make money, get married, and have children in this life, then the future you want is itself a problem.
For example, in "Children of the Qiao Family", after Qiao Yicheng and Ye Xiaolang met, they quickly flashed marriage, and both of them held their own purposes, both longed to be able to leave the original family, and both longed for someone to hug together for warmth.
However, when they live together, one spends a lot of money, one saves money, one thinks that it is delicious but dumplings, and one cannot do without white rice... Life is difficult to run into, emotionally, it is even more difficult to communicate, Ye Xiaolang wants to go abroad for further study, Qiao Yicheng can not rest assured of his home, can not let go of his brothers and sisters, and finally, the two people peacefully broke up.
It can be seen that different frequencies and non-resonant love will not be a heart, and it will not go through a piece at all.
-03-
When two people meet, there is always a lot of indescribable beauty.
Women smile and smile, all with charm, men every word, are telling love.
But love is not as simple as "being together", but it needs to feel happiness in real life, and be able to hold an umbrella together when encountering wind and rain.
The famous director Ang Lee once confessed affectionately in his award speech that his wife is his favorite and respected person.
As he said these words, he looked at his wife who was sitting in the audience, and his eyes were full of love.
Then, when he was interviewed, he said: The greatest happiness in this life is to be scolded by his wife, and at the moment, the happiest thing is that his wife laughs at herself.
All this is because, before he became famous, he had been silent for six years, and during these six years, it was his wife who was "raising" him.
The so-called "raising" is not only material, but also she has always encouraged him and supported his film dreams, and whenever he wants to give up, she will say to him: Ann, don't forget your dreams.
Once, he wanted to change his career to learning computers, and his wife said to him: So many people in the world learn computers, there is no shortage of you Ang Lee.
So, finally, one day, he became a world-famous director.
And all this is because the person next to him, who understands him, understands him, can give him soul resonance, can resonate with his soul.
A person who resonates with you on the same frequency is: when everyone appreciates you, he will hold your hand and smile lightly to say: I already knew; and when everyone turned their backs on you, he will always be silently by your side, giving you the most comfortable dependence.
Let the years ripple, let the wind and rain be swift.
-04-
There is a saying that is well said: good-looking skin bags are the same, and interesting souls are one of the best.
Perhaps, the person who resonates with you is the one who discovers your interesting soul.
In marriage, always with a person who understands you, the heart will be warm, and with a person who does not understand you, the heart will become more and more desolate.
You will find that what is originally just some innocuous little things can be seen by two people in the eyes of those who understand you, but in the eyes of those who do not understand you, it will cause an uproar.
When two people insist on each other and argue endlessly, there is nothing wrong with them, but they cannot tolerate each other and understand each other, and sooner or later such love will be dissipated.
Another point, it is worth saying, is that in love, perhaps two people will not resonate at the same frequency, but they can also seek common ground while reserving differences. That is to say, you have different habits and incompatible personalities, but your three views are compatible and you do not hate each other.
It's like, you like to eat a stall, he likes to eat in a restaurant, but he won't laugh at you for it, and he will sit in front of the barbecue stall with you and eat a lot; you like to watch literary films, he likes to watch war movies, but he won't say that you "pretend to be literary", but will accompany you to nestle on the sofa and watch quietly.
Because the premise of the same frequency resonance is love, and the premise of seeking common ground while reserving differences is even more love.
Because of love, so, will choose to accept everything of the other party without complaint, tolerate everything of the other party, and will try to protect the lover and their own "different".
-05-
The world is troubled, and life is full of ups and downs.
Between people and people, the generation of love is not a temporary hormone production, not a temporary rise, but in a long life, can take the same step, can talk, eat, live.
The person who understands you, he doesn't have to really understand you, and he doesn't necessarily have telepathy with you.
However, he will certainly not mind being different from you, will tolerate your shortcomings, and will understand the decisions you make and support the choices you make.
He will like you in his own way and love you deeply.
In other words, although you have different frequencies, you can also resonate.
In this world, encountering sex, encountering love, is not rare, it is rare to encounter understanding.
Two people, only by understanding each other, can they live a hard life, they can rely on each other, the road is difficult, they can also support each other, give each other the best preference, and the most touching heartache.
Love, very simple.
Affectionate to the right person, this life, every day, is worth looking forward to.
When two people are together, don't just care about "like" and forget to be "suitable".
Therefore, if the person next to you is the one who understands your implications and understands your forced smile, then you must cherish it; if he has not yet arrived, then don't worry, wait a little longer.
Right people, need the same frequency resonance.
Believe that there will always be a person who understands your sorrows and joys, knows that you are cold and warm, travels all over the mountains and seas, and comes for you.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!