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I remember reading a question like this:
"Is life always so tiring, or is it just childhood?"
The answer was: "Always." ”
They all say that there are three tirednesses in life, think too much, can't say, no one understands.
All sentient beings are suffering, and who is not on the long road of life, silently gritting their teeth and moving forward.
Survive and you win.
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There is a kind of tiredness called thinking too much
As the saying goes, "Those who have a heart are tired, but those who don't have a heart don't matter." ”
Deeply.
Many times, the reason why people feel very tired is because they think too much and can't let go of their inner obsessions, and the heavier their hearts are, the heavier the burden on their bodies.
But in fact, many of the troubles and confusions in life are our own and our own inability to live.
You know, people's energy is limited.
The mind is always burdened with all kinds of things, and over time, it will naturally feel tired.
There is such a story.
A young man, on a high-speed train, accidentally dropped his beloved watch from the window.
Everyone around him felt sorry for him, and he himself was sullen about it.
At this time, an old man sitting opposite the youth said:
"The more you care, the more painful it will be, so it's better to look up and enjoy the scenery along the way."
The young man was stunned for a few seconds and looked up at the window, and a green grass came into his eyes, and his mood was suddenly cheerful.
He thought about it for a moment, and if he had been suffering from the sadness of losing his watch, he would not have missed such a beautiful view.
Yes, life is a guest, why a thousand knots, lost things, do not always have to pay attention to the heart, the heart is tired to turn a corner.
As the ancient saying goes:
"Troubles have no roots, do not pick up nature, have no source of confusion, and do not investigate themselves easily."
Take your troubles too seriously, and they will be infinitely magnified and pressed on your heart.
In this life, everything has its own fixed number, and it is good to live simply and plainly.
Why think too much and can't live with yourself?
As the saying goes, there is nothing in the world, and the mediocre disturb themselves.
There will always be a momentary accident, if you have been sorry for what you have lost, you care too much, and you are often tired of yourself.
As the saying goes:
"When the sun rises in the East China Sea and sets on the western mountains, there is also a day of sorrow and joy; when things do not drill the tip of the bull's horn, people are also comfortable, and their hearts are also comfortable."
Don't think too much and burden the mind.
Unload your tiredness and let the past clear up.
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There is a kind of tiredness, called unspeakable
There is a saying that goes like this: "If the mind thinks, it is impossible to detect it." ”
How can others empathize with the thoughts in their own hearts?
Bai Yansong once wrote such a passage in the book "Pain and Happiness":
"There will always be times in a man's life, a man's war.
At this time, your heart has been turned upside down, but in the eyes of others, you are just a little more silent than usual, and no one will feel strange. This kind of war is destined to go it alone. ”
Indeed, life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, but it can be said in the same way as people.
Thinking back to that year, the Song Dynasty destroyed the Southern Tang, and Li Yu, the lord of the Southern Tang Dynasty, lost his family and defeated the country, and lived a life of captivity with humiliation and burden.
"The cut is continuous, the rational is still chaotic, it is sad." Don't be the general taste in your heart. ”
This passage was composed when he was imprisoned in the Song Dynasty.
It can be seen from this that he left his hometown and went to the country, and there were many sorrows and sorrows in his heart, and it was difficult to send in his heart.
The former Son of Heaven is now a prisoner of the order, and he is insulted, and the sense of gap in it is indescribable, and others cannot understand it.
Even if there is a lot of sorrow, you can't tell people, you can only suppress the tiredness of your heart in your heart.
As Xin Yiwu said in "Mountain Moon Doesn't Know The Bottom of My Heart":
"Our hearts, our flesh grows on each of themselves, sour, sweet, bitter and spicy, and the taste they taste is only understood by themselves.
Don't pin your hopes on others, don't ask others to understand your feelings, and shouting loudly is in vain. ”
Yes, human sorrow and joy are not the same.
There is no real empathy in this world, life is like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
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There is a kind of tiredness that no one understands
Yue Fei Zengyun: "I want to pay my heart to Yaoqin." Who listens to the few voices and broken strings? ”
No one understands, even if the strings are broken, it will not stir up a wave, but only add a touch of sadness.
Many times, we feel tired, not because no one is talking, but because no one understands.
Get along with people who don't understand you, and each other's faces will be full of tiredness.
No matter how hard each other tries, it is a waste of time and energy, and both parties will feel extremely tired.
I can't help but think of this little story:
The egg wanted to make friends with the stone, and it desperately tried to get closer to the stone.
However, the stones did not understand the softness and fragility of the eggs, and the closer they got, the bumps against each other, and the eggs were bruised with bruises.
The egg felt very tired and turned away.
After the eggs left the stone, they encountered cotton.
The cotton is soft and sticky, and the egg hugs it, which makes it feel extremely comfortable.
The egg then understood that being with someone who didn't understand himself was a kind of torture.
Only by getting along with people who really understand themselves can you have a relaxed and happy life.
Yes, as Suzen said:
"People who understand you will love you the way you need to."
The person who doesn't understand you will love you in the way he needs. ”
A person who understands you is better than a thousand passers-by.
One word that understands you is worth countless comforts.
As the saying goes, those who know me say that I am worried, and those who do not know me say what I want.
Liao Yimei said:
"In our lives, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, it is rare to encounter understanding."
People who are alive in life and understand you can't be sought.
For the rest of your life, may you and I meet someone who really understands you!
On the long road of life, no one's life will always be smooth.
When you feel very tired, think about it from another angle, there are more people in the world who are more difficult than you, and there is no obstacle that cannot be passed.
In this world, except for life and death, it is all small things.
Roman Roland said:
"There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."
Life is not easy, life is really hard, but survive the past, those who can't defeat you, will make you stronger.
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