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I remember once, a friend I had just met asked me, "What color do you like?" I replied to her, red. The friend smiled and said, "People who like red are generally very cheerful and lively." ”
I was surprised at that time, a person's personality, can be seen in the favorite color?
Later, after reading some books on color and personality, I found that a person's choice preferences can really reflect his personality.
The book "Child Personality Psychology" points out that children's favorite colors hide their personality codes.
The book details several typical personalities of children, as well as the corresponding colors of personalities, which is quite interesting. Let's take a look.
One: Red - phenotypic personality
Children who like red are generally more extroverted, just like the meaning of the color itself - enthusiasm is like fire.
The son of a friend is a typical "red type" personality. I took Bu Ni to his house to play, and as soon as I entered the door, he quickly got us slippers, and then he was busy finding us cups to pour water and snacks. After doing this, he took out a series of proud handmade works and showed them to us one by one.
Extroverted children generally have a typical characteristic, that is, "love performance". I hope others can see him and pay attention to him.
Psychologist Maslow divides human needs into 5 levels, the highest of which is "self-actualization."
Expressive children realize themselves and gain satisfaction by expressing their talents, wisdom, abilities, etc.
Children with phenotypes generally have the following characteristics:
●Advantages:
Phenotype children, full of enthusiasm, love to explore, full of curiosity about new things, in the treatment of people and things, generous. Such children, after entering the social circle, are generally very popular and can be compatible with everyone. It is especially easy to be favored by teachers. Because in order to show his talents, he usually volunteered to help the teacher organize discipline and distribute tools. He is not only the teacher's right-hand man," but also the "little leader" of the children.
●Disadvantages:
Phenotyped children generally crave affirmation and praise. If you are too "enthusiastic" in public, it is easy to disturb others. For example, like loud noise, noise, etc. After the guests come to the home, it is easy to "people come crazy", and excessive enthusiasm makes the guests uncomfortable.
★ Parenting Points:
Children dare to show, extrovert, positive character, we must give affirmation. However, in the process of children's growth, we should also be properly reminded not to pursue performance too much, and often rob others of the limelight. Such behavior usually leads to children not knowing how to respect others, but causes others to resent.
We need to tell our children what is really needed in their hearts and what is valuable. Don't breed vanity because you are too much in the unexpected world of applause.
Two: Blue - thinking personality
If you like red, the child's personality is as enthusiastic as fire. He likes blue, and the child's personality is calm, low-key, and even a little mysterious. They look reserved.
A mommy friend asked me if my son was different from other boys. Wherever other boys go, they can play around and make noise, but their own children are quiet and do not like to talk. What's going on?
In our impression, boys are generally active and naughty, but children with "blue" personalities are exceptions. Because they have the following characteristics:
Good at thinking, the logic is particularly clear. When you talk to him, you can be surprised to find that he thinks deeply. Children with thinking personalities also have a very obvious characteristic - love to ask questions. He did not only ask why but did not have the patience to listen, but he was particularly curious about everything around him, and had to find out the logic and principle behind it.
Children with thinking personalities sometimes worry us, because they are introverted and love to be silent in front of unfamiliar people, and such children are somewhat sensitive and suspicious, afraid of blending into unfamiliar environments. They love to think, but they are also prone to drilling the tip of the bull's horn.
When a child asks "100,000 whys", we should not feel that the child is deliberately mischievous, but should try to satisfy his curiosity. If we don't know the answer, help find the material or explore it with your child.
Children with blue personalities will be somewhat timid and sensitive, and the daily affirmation and encouragement of parents is very important. See more of your child's progress and increase their self-confidence. Also, don't criticize and suppress too much, it will make them more timid. Daily parenting is gentle and firm.
Three: Yellow - guiding personality
Children with yellow personalities are generally "child kings". He is very assertive and also has a "leadership model". He stood in the crowd and held out a finger, and the other children were willing to listen to his arrangement.
Children with a guiding personality, as well as children with expressive personalities, like to be the "little assistant" of the teacher, and they also have leadership skills. But the difference is that expressive children generally pay attention to showing their own intelligence, while guidance children are more inclined to direct others and make people obey their own arrangements.
Parents who raise this type of child feel both pride and headaches because they have the following characteristics:
Flexible and assertive, and with a strong sense of justice, it is popular among children. When there are group activities, he is often willing to stand up and take on the role of leader, directing everyone to complete the task in an orderly manner. But this type of child, the shortcomings are also very obvious.
It is precisely because of the love of command that when encountering others who are unwilling to obey, such children are prone to become domineering and unreasonable. Because he felt he was the rule-maker and others had to follow. Moreover, such children are stubborn and proud, and are easy to despise others. Unless that person is really good and outstanding, and he really admires, he is not easy to obey.
Knowing the characteristics of children with a guiding personality, parents cannot use authority to suppress them when raising them. Because this way will not only not convince the child, but also may make him more stubborn and rebellious. Parents can lead by example, show our children our own good side, and lead them by example.
In addition, because the child with the guiding personality will be too strong, we need to let him understand that if you want to become a real leader, you can't be overbearing, but you must use your charm and talent to attract others and convince people with reason.
Four: Green - kind personality
If you want to ask, what are the characteristics of a child with a cordial personality?
Then I can count you a bunch: kind, soft-hearted, good-natured, compassionate, gentle, humble...
This type of child, like an angel, makes people very comfortable to get along with. They have these characteristics:
Do not argue, do not be paranoid, do not worry, rarely offend others, rarely cause trouble, and the popularity is particularly good. At the same time, they are very quiet, so quiet that parents will think that this child is too good to bring. A piece of plasticine, a pencil, a small toy, you can play with it for half a day.
This type of child will be relatively timid. And because they are reluctant to clash with people, they often obey and do not raise their own objections. This leads to their easy formation of indecisive, fearful personality.
Parents need to be very patient in raising this type of child. Usually, it is necessary to consciously exercise the child's courage, but you cannot force the child out, but you should take the child and cultivate the courage little by little. We need to give more encouragement to such children in life, less reprimands, and children will slowly become confident and bold.
Of course, the above 4 personalities are only a few typical personalities, and do not contain all. Some children's personalities will be combined with several types, because a person's personality will be affected by many aspects of the environment and growth experiences.
I don't know, which color character does your child belong to?
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