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Red, blue, yellow, green, 4 different colors represent different personalities. When parents raise children, they can adopt different methods according to the different personalities of the babies.
This time, Cuckoo wants to talk to everyone about the "red personality" and "blue personality". What are the differences between them, and what parenting points should parents pay attention to?
One: Personality test
According to the content provided by "Child Personality Psychology", we can first do a small test to see whether our children have a "red personality" or a "blue personality".
◆ Red Personality Test:
We can look at ten options and rate the child. If the answer is "yes", 3 points are credited; if "no" is credited with 1 point; if it is "occasional", 2 points are deducted. You can take a notebook and a pen to record it.
Very active in chatting with people
After being praised, you will be happy and work harder
Likes to do several things at the same time and then get distracted
I don't like being watched by the side when I'm doing things
Happy to help with household chores
There is always a lot of talk in the crowd
Like to figure out how to solve problems on your own
Willing to take responsibility for mistakes after making mistakes
Likes to express herself, cares about what others say, and wants to be recognized and praised
Like commitment, but turn your head and forget
Parents can look at the total score, if it is greater than 20 points, the child is a red personality. If the score is between 15-20 points, it is a reddish personality. If the score is less than 15 points, the child does not belong to the red personality, you can measure the blue personality below, and the symbol does not match.
◆ Blue Personality Test (test method as above):
Not ostentatious, like to do things silently
I like the quiet environment and love to be alone and not to join in the fun
Well thought out, not reckless
Be planned, and do everything to be planned and executed first
Concentrate on doing one thing at a time and stay the course
Not many friends, but very attentive
Caution and alertness
Promise others to do your best
Promises, do what you say
It is sensitive and vulnerable
Similarly, more than 20 points belong to the blue personality; between 15-20 points, it is blue; less than 15 points, it does not belong to the blue personality.
If parents find that their children are not in these two colors, it may be "yellow personality" and "green personality". (Due to space limitations, I will continue to write about personality colors later, and interested parents can "click to follow" and pay attention.) ）
If my children belong to the "red personality" or "blue personality", what are their typical psychological characteristics, and how should we raise them? Look down.
Two: "Red" and "blue" represent different personalities
"Child Personality Psychology" points out that the personality represented by red or blue can be said to be completely different.
Let's take a look at what are the characteristics of these two types of children in terms of personality?
Red personality
Children with red personality, they belong to the "phenotype", the biggest characteristic is that they love to express themselves. Of course, they will also have the following typical characteristics in life:
● Kindness
For people who are enthusiastic by nature, helping others is one thing they feel very happy about. It is because of their extroverted nature that they take care of most of the people around them, especially those in need. This kindness is worthy of recognition.
● Self-confidence
Because the child with the red personality loves to perform, how can he be less than him when he participates in the performance program? He is also particularly confident on stage, shining with a unique light.
● Enthusiasm
The extroverted child can't sit still, and when he is at home, he has to "help" when he sees what the adults are busy with. Of course, it is often "help".
● Active
If there is any activity in the class, this kind of child is always the most active one to participate in, and has the courage to fight for opportunities.
● Tenacious
Because they are cheerful and enthusiastic, when they encounter difficulties, they are very tenacious and smile at the face.
● Optimistic
Cheerful personality is easy for them to forget unpleasant experiences, so the nature is more optimistic.
● Share
A character that loves to make friends so that they are willing to share and build friendships in sharing.
Blue personality
Compared with the red personality, the child with the blue personality can be said to be diametrically opposed to many of the above characteristics.
● Sensitive
Red enthusiasm, big grin. Children with blue personalities are delicate in their hearts and pay attention to details. The blue personality is a typical introvert, and children do not like to communicate when they encounter problems.
● Wise
The child of the blue personality, his biggest characteristic is that he loves to think. For example, Sima Guang played with his friends, one child fell into the water tank, and the other children were panicked and confused, only Sima Guang was calm and calm, smashing the cylinder to save people. Children who love to think are generally very intelligent and wise.
● Focus
It is precisely because of the love of thinking that this type of child is often very focused. Sometimes he seems to be in a "daze", but he is actually concentrating on the problem.
● Obedience
This kind of child is generally more "well-behaved", not troublesome, very quiet, what you let you do, he is also willing to obey.
● Cooperation
They are docile and gentle, and they tend to perform particularly well when working in teams.
● Rigorous
Love to think, strong logic, they are very rigorous, not sloppy, look at the problem has their own unique insights.
● Fragile
Children with blue personalities are easily troubled by negative evaluations. A critical rebuke from someone else may frustrate him for a long time.
I don't know, have you found the shadow of your own child in these two colors?
Three: How to raise?
How should children with "red personality" or "blue personality" be raised?
★ Raising children with "red personality"
When raising a warm and outgoing child, in addition to encouraging and protecting his positive and good intentions, we should also strengthen the child's awareness of preventing dangers and protecting themselves. For example, when going out, if the child is curious about things, he must not walk away without permission, but should be accompanied by his parents to check together.
Because the child with the red personality will be attracted to many things, we have to emphasize the rules with him. When he does something, he must have a beginning and an end, and understand what the rules are and strictly follow them.
In order to free up the energy of this type of child, we can assign them some tasks to cultivate his sense of responsibility. In addition, when a child is in trouble, we must let him bear the consequences himself, and make up for mistakes and learn from mistakes.
Children with red personality are easily affected by external evaluation, and we can make them insist on themselves through the affirmation and recognition of specific things. For example, affirm children: the garbage on the floor has been swept away; the books have been put on the shelves; the clothes are hung in the closet.
When children receive such specific recognition, they will be more convinced of themselves and will not be affected by the outside world.
★ Raising children with "blue personality"
Parents who raise "blue personality children" generally have more worries: this child is so introverted and quiet, there will be no problem, right?
In fact, parents do not need to worry too much about raising thinking children, but they do have to spend more thought.
Children with "blue personality" are more sensitive, and what they care about most is the love of their parents. When your child usually makes you angry, don't say things like "If you do this again, I won't want you" or "I don't like you anymore."
Scare does calm the child down immediately, but the sensitive one will believe it, and then fall into panic and pain, insecure.
If we want our children to become bold and confident, we need to start from the details and constantly encourage. We need to see every shining point of our children and give recognition and encouragement in a timely manner. With such positive guidance, the child will slowly become confident and cheerful.
Children with blue personalities are more fragile at heart, and as parents, they need to create a warm and loving environment. Don't make a lot of noise, this will make the child more timid and close himself.
Also, teach your child to say "no" out loud. When confronted with bullying from other children, he does not cower, but bravely protects himself.
Well, about the red personality and the blue personality, Cuckoo Mama said so much. After that, Cuckoo's mother will also talk about the personality of other colors, and if you want to know more fun and interesting psychological knowledge, remember to pay attention to Oh~
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