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Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

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In many palace fighting costume dramas, we often hear the saying "go to the mother and leave the child", that is, to execute the mother with a humble status and leave the child with royal blood.

With the passage of time, in the new era of gradual equality of the status of men and women, the idea of leaving children to mothers has naturally disappeared, on the contrary, it is replaced by a new concept of marriage and childbearing, that is, the "father and son" that is touted by countless modern women.

Improper wife, only mother, the role of men for women is to assist in childbearing tool people.

At some point, women began to applaud this setting, and some even said that "leaving a father and a son" is not a bad thing for children, after all, widowed marriage is the most harmful to children.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

A while ago, the strong woman Ye Haiyang successfully gave birth to a second-born little princess, followed by netizens' discussion of the new concept of marriage and childbearing, and some netizens directly launched the topic: How many suites are there in the family, in order to "go to the father and keep the son"?

Indeed, if you want to become Ye Haiyang also needs the support of economic conditions, only if the family is rich and can independently bear all the expenses of the child, can you arrogantly say that the father keeps the child, for ordinary people, if you do not want to bear the pain of marriage, the pain of child-rearing, you can only be unmarried and infertile.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

In fact, leaving a father and a son is not the initial attitude of most women to marriage, but a kind of self-avoidance for fear of being hurt.

Even some young girls have never been exposed to marriage at all, and only because of the discussion of scumbags and the accusations of widowed parenting, they have a fear of marriage and childbearing.

If this is the case, then the probability of women encountering happiness is also greatly reduced, because from the beginning we have questioned marriage, which is not a rational view of marriage and childbearing.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

Is the concept of marriage and childbearing that "go to the father and keep the son" really responsible for the child?

It is undeniable that some women will be completely disappointed in marriage after experiencing cheating, hurt and widowed parenting, and this family atmosphere is indeed not suitable for the growth of children.

At this time, in order to give the child a good growth environment, the mother will choose to be separated from the partner, which is no problem, and it is a relief for both adults and children.

But for ordinary families, small contradictions and small frictions between husband and wife are not enough to cover up the happiness of marriage, if you decide to "go to the father and keep the son" because of the sublimation of negative emotions, it is really irresponsible to the child.

Because from the perspective of parenting, the influence of fathers on children is very large.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

First of all, we cannot deny that mothers will be more meticulous and patient in educating children, but the father's broad mind and brave character will complement the mother, which is very beneficial for the development of children.

Secondly, the family environment is very important for the growth of children, the lack of paternal love will make a child more dependent on the mother in terms of behavior habits, and over time, the child will often become less independent.

For girls, the lack of fatherly love from childhood will make them insecure, and when they grow up, they are easily moved by the opposite sex in choosing a mate.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

"Leaving a son to the father" is not advisable, and women should establish a rational view of marriage and childbearing

The reason why the new concept of marriage and childbearing to father and son will be popular is that women's social status is improving, ideological consciousness is awakening, and when women are no longer dependent on men and survive, there will be more autonomy and resistance.

At this time, if men are unable to shoulder the responsibilities of husband and father, if the bad family atmosphere has affected the children, then the woman's choice of divorce is a rational decision.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

But for women who have no marital experience or only some small friction in the relationship between husband and wife, going to the father and keeping the child is not a rational view of marriage and childbearing, it will only bring anxiety and negative emotions to more women, and it is completely unhelpful to the growth of children.

There is no perfect marriage relationship in the world, whether it is between husband and wife or between parents and children, it is necessary to go through the run-in, learn to cherish each other and understand each other in order to harvest the most stable happiness.

Is the "father and son" praised by thousands of women a rational view of marriage and childbearing?

Mom's message

The new concept of marriage and childbearing that "goes to the father and keeps the son" seems to be free and happy, but behind it hides the hearts of thousands of women who are afraid of being hurt, in this regard, women's attitude towards marriage and childbearing should be rational, and do not lose hope in their marriage and children because of the experience of others.

How do you view the contemporary women's concept of marriage and childbearing "leaving fathers and children"? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!

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