The Winter Olympics came to a successful conclusion, and the audience witnessed one wonderful event after another, and also met many athletes who sweated their own sweat and fought for the honor of the motherland and the spirit of sportsmanship.
However, one of the athletes from the Chinese ice hockey team caused criticism from the whole network because of his words during the live broadcast.
He is a member of the Chinese ice hockey team , Ying Rudi.
At the same time, he also has the identity of the second generation of stars, yes, his father is the famous director Yingda.
When it comes to Yingda's son, many people think of Indah's ex-wife Song Dandan's son, Batuu.
When Yingru di di opened the live broadcast, the audience in the live broadcast room also naturally asked Batuu, wondering if there was any connection between them.
When mentioning this half-brother, Yingrudi's expression was slightly embarrassed, but she also replied frankly: "I am indeed Batuu's younger brother, but we have not been in contact with each other." ”
Netizens said that he should take the initiative to contact Batuu, after all, it is two brothers.
Yingrudi said that he welcomed Batuu home and hoped that Batuu would contact him, but it was not convenient for him to contact the other party.
There are two reasons, one is that Batuu already has a family, and it is inconvenient for him to disturb him; the other is that perhaps the other party does not want his brother.
As soon as these words came out, the crowd was in an uproar.
Netizens feel that Yingrudi, like her father Yingda, knows how to shirk responsibility in a dignified manner.
In two words, the main responsibility for "not contacting" was pushed to Batuu, and even implied that Song Dandan did not allow Batu to recognize his relatives.
Obviously, this explanation, everyone does not buy it, but also feels that the attitude of Ying rudi today is deeply influenced by his father Yingda.
It is difficult to break the ice in the relationship between Batuu and Yingrudi.
This chasm was formed as early as the moment when the relationship between Song Dandan and Yingda broke down.
In July 1989, Song Dandan and Yingda registered their marriage.
At that time, Song Dandan had already become famous with the sketch on the Spring Festival Gala- "Lazy Man Blind Date", and Yingda was still an obscure little director.
But whether it is the past emotional experience or the consensus of the family background, they have made them feel deeply sorry for each other.
Both have experienced a failed marriage, so it is prudent to enter the marriage hall again.
The year after their marriage, Song Dandan gave birth to his son Batuu, and in the eyes of outsiders, their family of three lived a sweet life, which was enviable.
However, Song Dandan slowly found that her life after marriage was not satisfactory. The man in front of her seemed to be far from her imaginary husband.
At work, she admires Indah's talent, but in the family, she finds that Indah is not a husband who is suitable for life.
Yingda, who has been spoiled by her family since she was a child, does not do housework at all, and is accustomed to the care of others, which can be bitter to Song Dandan.
On the one hand, Song Dandan has to take care of the work and the children on the other hand, and at the same time, she has to manage the big things and small things of the family in every detail.
This kind of day has been too long, and the contradictions between husband and wife have naturally deepened.
In 1993, as a director, Yingda led the filming of the large-scale family sitcom "I Love My Home", and Song Dandan played the heroine in the play.
Originally, the husband was the director and the wife was the star, and this job was a good time for the husband and wife to get along with each other.
But it is this play that makes the relationship between the two people completely collapse.
When filming, Song Dandan was already well-known, so he worked a lot, often needed to rush between different sets, and did not spend much time with Yingda in the crew.
At this time, the relationship between Yingda and Liang Huan, the screenwriter of the same crew, is getting closer and closer, and there are many scandals.
Song Dandan naturally heard a lot of these rumors, but Yingda firmly denied these rumors.
Although the mouth denies it, the sense of psychological alienation cannot deceive people.
Song Dandan felt pain in his heart, and felt more and more that the man next to the pillow was so strange at the moment.
The husband did not admit to cheating, and he was not willing to survive in a marriage that looked like a god, Song Dandan, in a fit of anger, did a shocking act.
Driven by loneliness, she took the initiative to cheat with another man and held a press conference to announce that she had an affair and wanted to divorce Indah.
The marriage that was originally a talented man and a beautiful person ended up cheating and hastily divorcing.
After the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get their divorce papers, Song Dandan drove Yingda home, but accidentally saw the pager message left by Yingda on the car.
Just when Liang Huan left a message to Yingda, asking when Yingda would do a good job and come back for dinner.
At this moment, Song Dandan finally saw the evidence he wanted, but he had lost the qualification to blame.
She was tired and just wanted to take her son Batuu and live her own life.
Yingda, on the other hand, quickly registered his marriage with Liang Huan after the divorce.
The old man's tears have not dried up, and the new people have been made to laugh.
In this situation, it is not only Song Dandan who is suffering, but also his son, Batu, who was also abandoned by Yingda.
When Song Dandan divorced Indah, Song Dandan won custody of his son Batu, which seems to be exactly what Yingda intended, because he did not want Batu to become a hindrance in his new life.
The year after the remarriage, Yingda and Liang Huan's son Yingrudi was born, and Yingda regarded Yingrudi as a treasure in her hand and instilled all her father's love on Yingrudi's body.
Yingrudi has performed well since childhood, and has a good talent in piano and ice hockey, which makes Yingda very proud.
In an interview with the show, he said even more proudly: "This is a british father, I think I am very honorable." ”
In order to emphasize the position of the younger son in his heart, Indah also made an analogy, "If you go to outer space, you will only bring three things, Mozart's CD, a book, and a picture of his son (Ying Rudi). ”
After the show was released, many classmates who knew Batu's identity began to laugh at him, laughing at his father's heart for having only his youngest son and no more.
After Song Dandan saw the program broadcast, he was even more angry, and directly tore Yingda on Weibo, angrily denouncing his dereliction of duty as a father over the years:
When Batuu was 7 years old, he asked Indah to take him out to play once, but he refused;
When Batuu was 11 years old, he asked Indah for his contact number, but he refused;
In the past 14 years, Indah has played an excellent "four-amphibious father" in front of another son, Ying Rudi.
Marriage only dissolved the relationship between husband and wife, but the cruel Yingda unilaterally severed the father-son relationship with Batuu in the name of marriage, and severed his responsibility as a father.
He even rightly believes that he can no longer play the role of Batuu's father: "It is not good for Batuu, and it is not fair to his stepfather." ”
This kind of logic is really absurd.
Today's Batuu, although under the belt of his mother Song Dandan, has also received a lot of exposure, he has been on the show, but also filmed, but the response has always been mediocre.
Song Dandan also loves him deeply and is responsible, often because he has higher requirements for him, and he often blames him.
Perhaps because of his relatively peaceful and introverted personality, it is always difficult for him to confidently express himself in the face of public cameras.
But he is also very optimistic, since he can't make money as an actor, he will go live to sell goods.
Although his father was absent during his years of growing up, fortunately Song Dandan raised him carefully, and his stepfather also loved him, batuu did not grow up with hatred.
(Batuu claims that the stepfather makes up for the lack of paternal love))
Compared with Batuu's blandness, Indah's other son, Yingrudi, who has worked hard to cultivate, grew up in glory and applause.
The Indah who claimed that when Batuu was a child, he felt that he was still a child and would not take care of another child, but for the sake of Yingrudi, he learned to cook, take care of the child, and learned to accompany the child to grow up with his heart.
Lo and behold, it's not that he won't be a father, but that he chose to put his father's love into the pampered child and give up another child.
Batuu avoids talking about the topic of Indah and Yingrudi;
However, YingruDi could shout batu generously, saying that she would welcome him home at any time, but he was afraid that he did not want to recognize this brother.
Yingrudi's words are not necessarily words, but may only be used by his father Indah to perfunctory when he was once curious about the news of Batu.
Obviously, whether these two brothers can contact and recognize each other, the key person is Yingda.
But Yingda, a long time ago, had already given his own answer: the son in his eyes was only Yingrudi.
The enmity of the previous generation, so silently let the next generation bear the result, the scolding is not Ying Rudi, but this eccentric father.
Some people say that it is precisely because they are afraid that their children will become babies of single-parent families and affect their growth, so even if the marriage is not satisfactory, they dare not easily mention divorce.
It seems so, but the question is not at all whether the child is a single parent, but whether there is effective companionship from the father.
If the father is not absent, then even if the husband and wife are exhausted, they can give the father love in limited companionship and cultivate the courage, perseverance and strength of the child.
If the father is absent, whether divorced or not, it will also make the child grow up, lacking the rigidity of the father's love warmth.
There is no shortage of fathers in this world, only effective fatherly love.