In 1988, 18-year-old Zhao Mingming was admitted to Jilin Academy of Arts with excellent results with his dream of stardom. She was pampered since she was a child, and she once had conflicts with her classmates because of her appearance, but under her father's strict teaching, her personality became more docile.
After entering the university, Zhao Mingming quickly became the focus of the campus with her outstanding appearance, but she did not indulge in fame, but devoted herself more to studying acting skills.
To keep her full attention in class, she would even pinch her own arm with her fingernails. This unwavering determination laid a solid foundation for her future acting career.
During his sophomore year, Zhao Mingming ushered in an important opportunity in his life. She took over the filming of the first drama in her life, thus officially entering the showbiz. Since then, she has participated in many other film and television works.
Among them, her role as "Buckle" in "Women Are Not the Moon" left a deep impression on the audience, and Zhao Mingming successfully showed the simple and honest image of a village girl to the fullest, fully demonstrating her solid acting skills.
However, Zhao Mingming became famous in one fell swoop with the work "Han Palace Feiyan". In order to perfectly interpret the role of Zhao Feiyan, she has made unimaginable efforts. Despite her good figure, her natural baby fat face is somewhat inconsistent with the character's image.
For this reason, she began to strictly control her diet a month before joining the group, eating only boiled vegetables in plain water every day, and an apple can be gnawed all day.
After several months of shooting, Zhao Mingming successfully carved his bun face into an angular goose egg face. Her efforts were not in vain, with the popularity of "Han Palace Feiyan", Zhao Mingming was known as "the first Zhao Feiyan", and countless viewers worshipped her as a goddess.
"There are beautiful women in the north, peerless and independent. One look at the city, and then look at the country. This poem seems to be specially tailored for Zhao Mingming. There are constantly crew members inviting her, and fans are also in an endless stream, all of which have witnessed the brilliance of her star journey.
In this period, Zhao Mingming's eyes flashed with a vision for the future, and her face was filled with the joy of success, and she firmly believed that as long as she continued to work hard, her acting career would be able to reach a higher level.
Just when Zhao Mingming's star journey was thriving, love also came inadvertently. On the campus of Jilin University of the Arts, she met Yingda's younger brother Yingning. At first, Zhao Mingming was deterred by his nickname of "Iceberg Beauty".
However, Ying Ning's shyness and composure, in stark contrast to Zhao Mingming's lively and cheerful personality, unexpectedly attracted her attention.
By chance, Zhao Mingming found that Yingning was practicing seriously in front of the mirror alone after class. She was moved by Yingning's persistence, so she took the initiative to talk to Yingning and invited him to join her acting group.
The relationship between the two quietly grew in the day and night.
On an ordinary school day, Zhao Mingming encountered a group of boys under the teaching building, which was a turning point in her fate. After hearing the news, Ying Ning ignored the teacher's reprimand, rushed out of the classroom directly, bravely solved a series of problems, and successfully rescued Zhao Mingming.
At this moment, Yingning's courage and responsibility made Zhao Mingming deeply attracted to him.
However, the love between the lovers did not go well, and the school persuaded the two to break up many times. Zhao Mingming said firmly: "I won't break up, and I will go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate after graduation." This dedication made her endure countless ridicule and doubts in the last half of her school days.
In 1992, Zhao Mingming fulfilled his promise. On the 5th day after graduation, she and Yingning received their marriage certificate. Although there was no luxurious wedding, not even a marriage ceremony, Zhao Mingming thought that he was married to the person who knew him best, and his face was full of happiness.
The newlyweds explore opportunities and move north together. They initially lived in a small dilapidated house with a relative's house, but they supported each other and worked together. Yingning felt sorry for his wife, and took the initiative to take on the role of Zhao Mingming's assistant, and even went to win important roles such as "Han Palace Feiyan" for her many times.
However, as Zhao Mingming's star journey became more and more brilliant, Yingning also began to be busy with his career. With the help of his brother Yingda, he participated in the filming of "I Love My Home" and gradually realized his dream of directing.
Sadly, the double harvest of their careers did not bring more happiness to their marriage. The long-term separation has caused a gradual rift in their relationship. Yingning said in an interview: "I am in a long-distance relationship with Mingming now, and the number of times we meet in half a year is pitiful.
This sentence deeply pierced Zhao Mingming's heart.
Looking at Yingda and Song Dandan's happy family, Zhao Mingming sensed a potential crisis. At the peak of her career, she decided to leave work and go home to prepare for pregnancy. However, this did not save their marriage.
A worried look began to appear in Zhao Mingming's eyes, and she vaguely felt that the once sweet love was beginning to change quietly.
In 2000, Zhao Mingming was ten months pregnant, looking forward to the arrival of her daughter, but fate played a cruel joke and pushed her into the trough of her life.
On the day Zhao Mingming was about to enter the delivery room, Yingning was unexpectedly calm. There was no joy in his eyes about to become a father, but a trace of alienation. This apathetic attitude can be interpreted both as a worry about the unknown and as a harbinger of an imminent parting.
After a long childbirth process, Zhao Mingming finally heard his daughter's cry, and the corners of his mouth were filled with happiness as a mother. Although she was exhausted, when the nurse asked her to take a look at her daughter's appearance, the corners of Zhao Mingming's mouth almost reached the back of her head.
After Zhao Mingming returned to the ward, she excitedly told her husband: "Husband, my daughter looks too much like you, especially her nose and mouth. Unexpectedly, Yingning did not give her the same joy in return, but replied coldly.
Ying Ning said lightly: "Let's get a divorce, I'm in love with her!" Zhao Mingming felt very painful about this sudden blow, and couldn't believe that he had paid so much for love, in exchange for such a cold betrayal.
"As soon as the child was born, do you want to abandon our mother and son? Isn't your heart too ruthless? Zhao Mingming shouted in pain, struggling to get up to visit his daughter, but was ruthlessly thrown away by Yingning.
Ying Ning didn't even look at her daughter and turned to leave. Zhao Mingming collapsed, her perception of herself and her trust in her husband collapsed. She was unwilling to chase her out of the ward, but because she had just given birth, the severe pain made it difficult for her to move an inch.
She could only express her despair by shouting, but to no avail.
Zhao Mingming's cries echoed in the corridor of the obstetrics and gynecology department, telling of her pain and despair. Eventually, with the help of the nurse, she returned to the hospital bed, her eyes full of confusion and pain.
In 2000, Zhao Mingming and Yingning went through divorce procedures, and their daughter was sentenced to be raised by her. But an even bigger blow followed, and Yingning soon formed a new family and soon had children.
All this made Zhao Mingming deeply confused and heartbroken, and she never understood why Ying Ning could be so ruthless.
Zhao Mingming looked at the daughter in his arms, knowing that he had to cheer up. Her eyes turned from confusion to firmness, and she made a vow in her heart: for the sake of her daughter, she would stand up and start a new chapter in her life.
Zhao Mingming soon realized that she did not have significant appeal among the younger generation of actors. Although her appearance is still extremely well maintained, it is difficult to gain a foothold in the highly competitive film and television industry with her current strength.
The former glory seems to be just a dream, and the cruelty of reality makes her have to face the difficulties of life.
At the anniversary party of "I Love My Home", Zhao Mingming encountered a poignant thing. At the time, Yang Lixin didn't seem to have any impression of her, although she explained that she had played his sister in the play.
This scene made Zhao Mingming feel very lost, and her former glory had disappeared.
In the process of raising his daughter, Zhao Mingming always gave his daughter enough respect and freedom. When her daughter expressed her desire to study abroad, Zhao Mingming resolutely decided to fully support her despite the huge financial pressure she had to bear, and she firmly believed that her daughter must be allowed to pursue her dreams.
Zhao Mingming most often said to his daughter: "Be yourself, never lose yourself!" This is not only her expectation of her daughter, but also the life insight she has gained in life. She hopes that her daughter can be independent and not give up herself for love like herself.
Today, 52-year-old Zhao Mingming still maintains a single life. It has been 23 years since the divorce, but she has not chosen to enter the palace of marriage again. In the face of her friends' eager introductions, she always responded calmly: "I am very happy in my life now, I have experienced many glorious moments in my life, and I have no regrets, so I don't need to get married again."
Zhao Mingming poured all her love into her daughter, and for many years, she has insisted on giving her daughter enough respect. When her daughter expressed her desire to study abroad, Zhao Mingming still fully supported her, even though it meant huge financial pressure.
She is convinced that her daughter must be allowed to follow her dreams, even if it requires her to "smash the pot and sell iron".
Zhao Mingming watched his daughter mature and even had a boyfriend, and his heart was full of deep relief and worry. She is afraid that her daughter, like herself, will lose herself in love, but she is also convinced that her daughter is capable of making the right choices.
Therefore, her most frequent words to her daughter are: "Be yourself and never lose yourself!" This is not only the expectation of her daughter, but also the life insight she has drawn from her own experience.
When Zhao Mingming was looking back on his past, his eyes revealed complex emotions. Her life has experienced ups and downs, from "the first Zhao Feiyan" to an unknown single mother, she has experienced the ups and downs of life.
However, now she has found balance in her life, with a gentle smile on her face and wisdom and open-mindedness in her eyes.
Zhao Mingming's story tells us that life is full of ups and downs, and as long as there is love in the heart, there is always hope. She vividly demonstrated the greatness of maternal love and the tenacity of women with her actions.
In her philosophy of life, love may have betrayal, but maternal love will never.
Although today's Zhao Mingming is no longer the glamorous film and television star, she is undoubtedly successful in the role of mother. Her choice may confuse some, but for her, being able to give everything for her daughter is the greatest happiness.
Zhao Mingming's life is a hymn to mother's love, and it is also a moving story of women's self-realization.