When children ask such questions, parents need to pay attention to two points:
First, children are not very involved in family life.
In the world of children, it is felt that mothers do nothing but pick up and drop off students every day, which must be because the child's participation in the family is not high.
Parents can follow the child's answer: "Mother is also envious of you, as long as you do a good job of schooling is enough." In addition to picking you up and dropping you off at school on weekends, your mother also has to do housework, buy vegetables, and cook when you come home. To learn how to pair nutritious meals with you, take the time to see your grandmother. Wait for the weekend, mom will show you to experience it. ”
Then, on the weekend, he took him to do housework together, kneaded rice balls together, and went to the market together to pick fresh fruits, so that he could fully participate in family activities. Let the child fully understand: the mother is also trying to live in the places you can't see.
According to the survey, parents take their children to participate in family activities, which helps to improve the intimacy between children and parents.
Second, the child is dissatisfied with his current situation.
I don't think he would envy his mother if he had been happy at school every day. After all, most children will feel that there is no point in encircling the home. The envy of his mother must be that he is not very happy at school.
You should ask the reason why your child is unhappy at school, and you can start from the following aspects:
First, start with the people you reach out to most frequently.
Ask the child about his recent relationship with his friend, whether he has recently had a conflict, whether he has been isolated, whether there is violence in school, whether the teacher has corporal punishment or other circumstances for him.
Second, start with mental stress.
Children don't want to go to school, in fact, it is a reason why we don't want to go to work.
According to the survey, excessive work pressure is the main reason why most adults do not like to go to work. Therefore, understanding the child's learning stress situation is an essential skill for every parent.
Some parents tell me that they are obviously learning the same thing, why don't other children know tired?
As a counselor, I would like to say that every child is different, and it is because of their uniqueness that you each cherish your children.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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