If your child is not interested in reading, don't always be reasonable and compare him to other people's children.
Try to give him some examples, and tell him the meaning behind his efforts than to tell countless big truths.
Author | Coke Mom
Dear son, school is about to start.
But obviously you haven't been able to adjust from the "holiday mode" to the "school mode", and every day is still free, loose and indulgent.
The morning alarm went off countless times, and I called you countless times, but you still lay in the bed and refused to get up.
As soon as there is time, it is to play with mobile phones, watch TV, no matter what Mom and Dad say, it is the left ear into the right ear out.
Until this evening, I gave you an ultimatum to prepare your school bag in advance.
As you pack up your stationery textbooks, you grumble with a reluctant face:
"It's annoying, I hate school the most, and I don't know what to learn."
Looking at the look of disgust on your face, my heart aches.
But this time, I don't want to lose my temper with you and be reasonable.
I want to tell you the story of these three people, I hope you can understand the meaning of struggle and hard work, the need for concentration and perseverance.
Wu Dajing's feet
Child, I remember when we watched the Winter Olympics together, you told me that your favorite was Wu Dajing.
I ask you why.
You tell me, because he's dashing on the ice, and he's handsome.
I smiled and found another photo to show you.
You ask me:
"Mom, whose feet are these and how do they look like an old man?"
When I told you that this was Wu Dajing's foot, you were astonished.
Perhaps in your eyes, Wu Dajing is a dashing and handsome Olympic champion, a leader in the short track speed skating team, or the embodiment of "Chinese speed".
But what you don't know is how long and painful a low he has been through.
At the age of 10, when he first stood on the ice rink, he fell 107 times;
At the age of 16, he entered the national team, because he has always been in the last place, he can only be a sparring partner for the women's team, but the girls are skating faster than him;
At the age of 20, he advanced all the way to the final, but lost to the talented athlete Ahn Hyun-so by a gap of 0.204 seconds...
Even his enlightenment coach, Li Jun, said, "Dajing is not the most talented child. ”
But do you know how he went from the tail of the crane to the first, and then to the Olympic champion?
Coach Li Jun gave the answer:
"This kid is born with the urge not to accept defeat.
Skating as fast as his teammates, he secretly worked hard, and slowly, his teammates who were a few years older could not slide him. ”
At four o'clock in the morning, in the weather of more than twenty degrees below zero in the northeast, Wu Dajing wore a pair of ice shoes that did not fit his feet, and fell one after another.
By the time the shoes were taken off, the blood had glued the shoes and socks together.
Later, at the age of 13, he came to Nanjing alone to receive professional training.
When someone else practices for an hour, he practices for an additional hour.
The ankle bone was sharpened out of the bag, and the pain as soon as I put on the ice knife was unbearable.
In order not to delay the practice, every day before going to the ice, he would beat his ankle fiercely, numb, and he would not feel pain.
After entering the national team, he still maintained a high degree of self-discipline.
I get up at seven o'clock every day and train until 12:30 p.m., even for the New Year.
Not only that, but while training, he will also use computers and video recorders to record his own movements, face the camera, and repeatedly polish the details of the movements.
Finally, his efforts were seen.
National team coach Li Yan saw the indomitability and tenacity in his bones, and gradually stopped his sparring work and let him play the game.
And Wu Dajing also lived up to expectations and won a series of championships.
Until 2018, at the Pyeongchang Winter Olympics, a battle was enshrined.
Child, you see, in fact, Wu Dajing is like thousands of ordinary you and me.
Luck is average, the family is ordinary, and there is no talent.
But the difference is that he has worked hard to write a magnificent life of his own, so that the world will remember his unusual gesture on ice.
My child, my mother told you the story behind Wu Dajing, just to let you understand:
Many times, origin and talent are not as important as you think.
As long as you don't give up your efforts, even if you make mistakes, even if you fail, even if you fall into a trough, you are stepping towards the self you want to become.
If effort doesn't solve the problem, try a little harder.
Zhang Yimou's awareness
Children, speaking of the Winter Olympics, I believe you must have a deep memory of the opening ceremony on February 4.
Ice and snow rings, virtual snowflakes, intelligent ice sculptures, ignition ceremonies, fireworks displays... The appearance of each element makes us in front of the TV marvel and cheer.
After the opening ceremony, you excitedly said to me:
"Mom, this is also too shocking, I have never seen such a wonderful performance!"
But boy, this is not the first time a mother has seen it.
Because as early as the opening ceremony of the 2008 Olympic Games, I had already seen the creativity and ability of director Zhang Yimou.
14 years ago, thousands of people beat drums, painted scrolls, movable type printing, dream five rings, ink landscape... That visual feast on Chinese symbols still makes countless people talk about it to this day.
But as the world's first "double Olympic" director to direct the opening and closing ceremonies of the Summer Olympics and the Winter Olympics, Zhang Yimou's suffering is known only to himself.
There are two videos on the Internet about "Zhang Yimou's Day".
One was a day in 2018 when he was preparing for the "Pyeongchang Winter Olympics beijing 8 minutes":
"At 7:00 a.m., attend the 'Pyeongchang Winter Olympics Beijing 8 Minutes' oath ceremony;
10 o'clock, participated in the post-dubbing work guidance of "Shadow";
At 11:00, participate in the discussion of the report plan of the 'Pyeongchang Winter Olympics Beijing 8 Minutes';
At 13:00, he participated in the project meeting again;
At 14:00, attend the art conference of "One Second";
At 16:00, he participated in the '2018 Qingdao SCO Summit' theatrical performance conference;
At 18:00, he participated in the rehearsal of the second season of "Dialogue Fables 2047";
At 21 o'clock, participate in the large-scale live performance project meeting;
At 24:45, video conference was held;
At 1:00 a.m., I once again participated in the extraordinary meeting of the 'Pyeongchang Winter Olympics Beijing 8 Minutes'..."
The second paragraph is his day preparing for the "opening and closing ceremonies of the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics":
"At 13 o'clock, attend the oath-taking ceremony;
At 14 o'clock, a meeting is held in the office;
At 16:30, arrive at the bird's nest site;
At 18:15, attend the official pre-row meeting;
At 19:24, watch the rehearsal of the program on the spot;
At 21:30, the first rehearsal ends;
At 21:50, the director team met to prepare for the second rehearsal;
At 22:30, the second rehearsal begins;
At 22:50, the meeting continued;
The next day at 3 a.m., the meeting ends (by which time he has been working for 18 hours);
At 3:25 a.m., the director group continued to discuss;
At 3:50 a.m., the day's work is over..."
As a 72-year-old man, he works nearly 20 hours a day and advances 9 projects at the same time.
During special periods, only sleep for 3 hours a day and eat only one meal.
Even so, he still maintains a high production and exuberant creative force, and insists on doing everything he does to the fullest.
Netizens hurt him, saying that he was a "labor model" and "a natural choice".
Zhang Yimou explained:
"Our generation has been educated not to treat itself well.
Looking back on my experience, I have encountered good opportunities step by step, but what is more talented than I have is that if I am still wasting my time and wasting time, I can't say it. ”
On weekdays, you always complain that "it is too hard to do problems" and "too tired to study".
But child, you see, is Zhang Yimou's day much harder than you and me?
Life is hard.
But in a sense, if a person has suffering to eat, does it also prove that he has something to do, that someone is cute and has responsibilities to bear?
And what about those who never suffer?
You think they get comfort, rest, blessings, but in reality they are nothing more than boredom, burnout, depression.
Every second in their hearts is tormented and anxious.
Not to mention, the truth of "young and strong do not work hard, and the old man is sad".
Therefore, the child, at the age of struggle, is the most correct choice for you at the age of struggle.
Xu Mengtao's tears
Child, so far in the Winter Olympics, you have asked me:
"Mom, which athlete do you have the most impression of?"
Maybe you think I'll say Gu Ailing, but I thought about it and told you:
Xu Mengtao.
As a veteran who has experienced 16 years of Olympic cycle and passed the champion position three times, Xu Mengtao finally won the first Olympic gold medal in her 31-year life with the most difficult action in the women's group.
At that moment, her face was full of tears, she draped the flag, and shouted excitedly:
"I've finally won the championship on my doorstep!"
Boy, you know what?
This sister who is always full of smiles, her life background is actually full of suffering, vicissitudes and reality.
At the age of 4, Xu Mengtao was sent to an gymnastics training class in Anshan, Liaoning.
At the age of 12, she first appeared sharp and was favored by Coach Chen Hongbin, which was the first time she heard about the "Snow Gymnastics" project, and after watching some competition videos, she blurted out:
"Old danger!"
But then it was promised:
"To do a project, we must practice well, I want to practice it well, and win glory for the country in the future!"
For a promise, Xu Mengtao insisted on training every day, preparing four clothes a day, because after a while, her body would be soaked with sweat.
Unexpectedly, when she arrived at the arena, from Vancouver to Sochi to Pyeongchang, she repeatedly rubbed shoulders with the champion.
All you get is an injury:
Rupture of the anterior cruciate ligament of the left knee, sprain of the medial collateral ligament, deformation of the posterior angle of the meniscus...
In the worst case, nearly 70% of the meniscus on the outside of her left knee was removed;
Then, after nearly a decade of the fourth major surgery, it was also in this operation that she was removed from the left knee of most of the lateral meniscus.
She endured injuries while challenging the most difficult moves.
She has walked the most bumpy road to winning the championship, but she has never given up.
It was not until this Beijing Winter Olympics that she finally got her own consummation.
Child, on weekdays, you are often sullen because you can't do a question, and you are depressed because of a mistake in an exam.
I was even asked more than once:
"What's the point of reading?"
"What's the point of not taking the first place?"
Before, I have not thought about how to answer you, but today, I want to answer you with Xu Mengtao's story:
Children, many times, we do not have to stick to the momentary gains and losses, ask the meaning behind it, because what really matters is your current actions and efforts.
You can't do it, but you try and think, and it makes sense.
You didn't do well in the exam, but you found a problem, and this thing has value.
As the saying goes:
"The end of life is happy, if not, it is not over."
Children, many times what defeats us is not the difficulty, but the self in our own hearts who are afraid and unwilling to try again.
Believe me, life will always give you the answer, not in this moment, but in the next second.
Having said so much, dear son, what I want to tell you is that I understand your impatience.
What you want is instantaneous erudition, is full of spirit, and has a sparkling life like Wu Dajing, Zhang Yimou, and Xu Mengtao overnight.
Instead of doing endless exercises, memorizing endless words, and inexhaustible tests.
But reality will eventually tell you:
Only by being able to endure loneliness and make enough efforts can life be willing to hand over the beauty to you little by little.
Look at those who have achieved fame, and whose life has been smooth?
Reading is really hard.
But it is the hardships you have suffered, the nights you have stayed up, and the problems you have done that will eventually pave a wide road and take you to any place you want to go.
So, child, I hope you never easily put away your open legs and stop swinging your arms.
Grit your teeth and hold on.
Even if life makes you bruised, in the future, those wounded places will surely become the strongest places in your body.
【References】
1. The character "Wu Dajing, When You're Fast Enough"
2. The news party "The Character of the Champion, Wu Dajing"
3. Sanlian Life Weekly "Wu Dajing: From Sparring to Olympic Champion, One Hundred Percent Effort Behind One Point of Growth"
4. South Wind Window "Why Zhang Yimou Cow"
5. Documentary: Zhang Yimou's 2008
6. Wangwen Dog Director Zhang Yimou's schedule of work and rest
7, the South Wind Window "Xu Mengtao, why are you crying"
8. Southern People Weekly "Behind the new youth who have attracted the world's attention, what have Xu Mengtao, Su Yiming, and Gu Ailing experienced?" 》