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Circle of Friends is a platform for everyone to record a good life and share their emotions.
At first, most of the content in the circle of friends is what everyone sees and hears, and later, the content of the circle of friends is gradually enriched, and a variety of purchasing agents and micro-businesses have appeared, and now, the content of some circles of friends has begun to appear a bit "morbid", releasing various strange dynamics, just for the sake of attracting people's attention.
The circle of friends was actually originally a way to share life moments and pull into the distance between people, but everything is two-sided, and the development of the Internet is also a double-edged sword, which will also amplify the vanity and desire of human beings while pulling into the relationship between each other.
Everyone craves other people's likes and comments, which also makes some people start to sickly win the attention of others, in order to attract the attention of others, they will release any kind of bottomless content.
The most incomprehensible thing is the death of someone in the family, and such a sad thing has become the subject of some people's gimmicks.
Life, old age, illness and death is a natural law, the departure of relatives is a huge blow to everyone, there are relatives who talk and laugh on weekdays, in an instant it becomes a handful of ash in a small box, this blow is very intuitive and painful.
So, what kind of psychology do those who post the news of the death of their loved ones in their circle of friends hold? Psychology points out that people who want to send a circle of friends after the death of a loved one cannot guess the complexity of their human nature.
Most people think that posting the news of the death of a loved one in the circle of friends is an act of disrespect for the deceased. The Slovaks are gone, the living can no longer do anything for him, and the most respectful way to respect the dead is to let him go with peace of mind and dignity, rather than using his death to create a topic and win the attention and sympathy of others.
When the living person handles the aftermath for the deceased, it should be quiet and serious, which is the most basic respect for the deceased, which is why most people cannot understand that those who post the news of the death of their loved ones in the circle of friends.
In fact, in the final analysis, publishing the circle of friends, first of all, must be to attract the attention of others, to share their own life trivia with others, is to get the respect and affirmation.
In Maslow's hierarchy of human needs, the need for respect and recognition of others is an instinctive desire of human beings, so the act of posting the news of the death of a loved one in the circle of friends is actually embracing this psychology.
In fact, such people may not be very concerned about the death of their relatives, nor are they very sad, they can share the news of the death of their relatives in the circle of friends like daily small things.
However, big data surveys show that most of the people who publish this circle of friends who have died are mostly teenagers who have not yet matured mentally, and such teenagers' cognition of the world and thinking logic are one-sided and have certain limitations, they cannot clearly realize what kind of consequences their actions will bring to themselves, and naturally they do not recognize that their behavior is disrespecting the deceased.
Posting this heavy and sad news in the circle of friends can make them get the care and attention of many people for a short time, he can get the sympathy and care of many people, and let people have a more tolerant attitude towards him.
Those who desire the attention of others, the understanding and attention of others, are actually not really psychologically mature, because when a person really sees through the world and becomes mature and stable, he will become relatively more silent.
They don't easily reveal their lives to others because they know that human joys and sorrows are not exactly the same, so they don't desire others to understand themselves, especially by sharing their pain with others.
It is undeniable that the circle of friends is indeed a platform that can vent emotions, and it is also used by these people as a way to exchange for love, but can this understanding of the pain of others really be at ease?
In the circle of friends to publish the dynamics of the death of relatives, most people are holding the psychology of winning the sympathy of others, for this type of person, the attention of others will make them affirmed, so that they are enriched, and what kind of content is released is not important to them.
Pursuing the affirmation and approval of others is normal and consistent with Maslow's theory of needs, but pursuing the approval of others in this way is too extreme and stupid.
In addition, there is another situation, some people are unable to accept the death of their loved ones, in order to post a circle of friends to commemorate the deceased, after all, everyone's understanding of death is different, perhaps in their hearts this is a way to express their reluctance to the deceased.
In any case, whether you really want to pay homage to the dead in this way, or to win the attention of others, posting this kind of news in the circle of friends is more or less disrespectful to the deceased.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205