preface:
Now many elderly people have made great progress in their thinking, and they are no longer willing to trouble their children, but are more willing to ask a live-in nanny to take care of their old age. Ask a nanny to do housework without worrying about yourself, there are people to take care of when you are sick, and when you are bored, the nanny can also chat with you, which is much better than going to the children's home to see the faces of the children.
In real life, some employers and nannies have been together for a long time, and they have a spark of love, which brings them together. Many people think that the reason why the nanny is willing to be with the employer is for money, and the employer and the nanny are also purposeful, that is, they want the other party to serve themselves for free. But everything is not absolute, let's take a look at Ms. Zhang's experience!
Ms. Zhang's statement:
My husband and I are farmers, after we got married, we are working as farmers at home, it is very hard to be a farmer, facing the loess with our backs to the sky, but also to see the sky to eat, if the weather is not good, may be lost, we are not willing to continue to work at home after two years of farming, because we feel that farming is too hard, getting up early every day and greedy, not making much money a year, I think that paying is not proportional to the harvest.
Later we went to the city to work, we feel that the part-time work is more secure, although the part-time work is also tired, but the part-time work can be fixed every month to receive a fixed salary, much better than their own farming, and there is no risk in part-time work, unlike farming, to rely on the sky to eat, the weather is not good, then there may be no harvest.
My husband and I have no skills, so when we work, we can only do some manual work, that is, work on the assembly line of the factory, work at 8 o'clock every morning, and work overtime until 12 o'clock at night, the factory can choose not to work overtime, but we choose to work overtime in order to make more money. At that time, although I was very tired every day, I felt very happy, because I felt that I had hope, and I felt that after working in the factory for a few years, I could go back to the countryside to build a house, and our dream was to go back to the countryside to build a house of my own, and if conditions allowed, I would buy another car.
I and my husband worked in the factory for six years, six years later, we went back to the countryside to build a house, because we saved a lot of money, it was enough to build a house, at that time we built a two-story building, the decoration was very good, after the house was built, I moved in with my husband, but what I did not expect was that my husband died on the third day after entering the new house, he died of a sudden cerebral infarction, when I found him, he had lost his breath, I was particularly sad at the time, I desperately called my husband, I hope a miracle happens, I hope my husband can wake up, but shake for a long time, my husband just did not wake up, watching my husband lying there quietly, I have a feeling of heart like a knife, I have become accustomed to my husband's company, he suddenly left me, I really don't know how to accept.
After my husband died, I didn't want to stay in the countryside anymore because I would think of my husband. At that time, I originally wanted to go to the factory to work, but because I was older, I couldn't get into the factory, so I went to work as a nanny later, because there was no age limit for being a nanny, and many employers liked to ask for a nanny of my age, they felt that people my age were more stable, not as frivolous as young people, and people my age were more diligent.
When I was a nanny, I was in my 40s, when I was a nanny for an uncle in his 60s, who was still in good health and completely self-care, and the reason why he would hire a nanny for himself was because he felt that it was too lonely to live alone, and he wanted to have someone to accompany him. I think this kind of work is very good, not very tired, and the salary is still very high, which is very suitable for me. So I cherish that job, the uncle let me do things, I worked very hard to complete, the uncle is very satisfied with my work, he thinks I am a very good woman.
When I was a nanny for my uncle, I would often chat with my uncle, chatting and chatting, we were familiar, we became friends, I would tell my uncle my heart, and my uncle would tell me his story, and I thought that the relationship was very good.
The uncle in the back actually confessed to me, the uncle said that he wanted to be with me, he thought I was a very reliable woman, at the beginning, I was also entangled, because the uncle was more than 20 years older than me, I was afraid of being laughed at by others, and then I asked my children's meaning, my children were particularly supportive of me, they felt that there was some age gap is also very good, so that the two are not easy to have contradictions, and then I am with the uncle, it is also very funny, in the uncle's house as a live-in nanny for three months, After that, I sparked love with my uncle, and finally came together, but now I am really happy, because that uncle is a very good person, he is very considerate of me, knows how to make me happy, I think there is nothing wrong with choosing him.
Author's Point of View:
Many people do not mind remarriage, think that remarriage is not happy, in fact, this idea is too pessimistic, not that remarriage will not be happy, but many remarried couples think too much, are not willing to pay for each other, always particularly selfish, how can such a marriage be able to obtain happiness?
If you have the idea of remarriage, you can't worry about each other, you have to learn to pay for the family, think more from the perspective of the other party, as long as the husband and wife have a heart, then life can be happy and happy.