In the hearts of most parents, they always think that their children are naughty, disobedient, and do not understand things.
No matter how tired the parents are and how much pressure they are at work, children cannot have any understanding and always live in their own little world.
Therefore, in the process of children's education and companionship, many parents put forward requirements for their children: to be sensible, obedient, and well-behaved.
In the face of many harsh requirements of parents, children will gradually restrain their own nature, become less and less reticent, and obey the requirements of their parents.
A few days ago, a video of a mother shopping in the supermarket with her child was posted online, which aroused the attention of many netizens.
The sweet and sour taste of strawberries has won the love of countless children, but because of the super high price, many parents are also discouraged.
When the child in this video sees a box of strawberries for more than 20 yuan, he decisively puts it down, and even says in his mouth: too expensive, too expensive, do not buy.
Although the boy's mother in the video said many times, if you want to eat it, buy it.
However, the incomparably sensible child actually pulled his mother away directly.
After many netizens saw this video, tears couldn't help but slip from their eyes, and they sighed: When they were young, they were educated in this way.
Although the 8-year-old boy only has one sentence, it has stung the hearts of countless netizens, which is probably a common disease of children who have grown up in a "poor" environment.
Most parents will tell their children when they are faced with their children's desire to buy toys or various consumption desires: there is no money.
As everyone knows, this concept of "poor support" will also bring unexpected harm to children.
【Poor support, the harm to children】
1, too inferior, dare not show themselves
When the child wants to buy any items and has money needs, if the parents blindly instill the concept of no money and our family is poor, it will also bring wrong and pessimistic hints to the child's heart.
Children whose long-term desires are not satisfied will become more and more inferior in their hearts, believing that they are very different from other people's children.
This kind of inferiority, which was rooted in the heart when they were teenagers, will follow them throughout their lives.
Even after growing up, in front of their peers, they will deliberately restrain their hearts and dare not easily express themselves, and this inferiority will also cause mistakes and pessimistic hints to their future lives.
2, depressed personality, unhappy
Children who grow up in the consciousness of poverty and the environment, their vision is not only very short-sighted, but also dare not make a choice, and their personalities are relatively depressed.
This is true of their performance as teenagers, but as they age, their social circles become narrower and narrower, and they are not only afraid to make friends, but also dare not even spend money.
Such behaviors and psychological hints will also make their lives limited, lose the possibility of free choice, and do things in the future, and it is also very difficult to become talented and have more eye-catching performances.
【How to avoid children falling into the "strange circle of poor support"】
1. Face money with a rational attitude
It is precisely because children who are poor, whether from the perspective of psychology or from the perspective of personality integrity, will be subject to certain restrictions
As a parent, in order to avoid making the child fall into the strange circle of poor support, we must establish the right attitude for the child from an early age.
Especially in the formation and establishment of the concept of consumption, it is necessary to make the child have a correct understanding of money as much as possible, rather than blindly using the concept of "no money" to brainwash the child.
2. Pay attention to spiritual enrichment
In the process of children's growth and education, especially in the process of establishing the concept of consumption, parents should establish a correct and healthy concept of consumption for their children.
Although the material world can make children happy, we must pay as much attention as possible to the shaping and cultivation of the spiritual world.
Only a sufficient sufficiency of the spiritual world can make them face money with a more sound attitude.
When they can reasonably dispose of the money in their hands, they will certainly be able to get rid of all kinds of harm caused by poverty and have a certain ability to grasp money.
3, give children a certain amount of money to control
In order to avoid children entering the strange circle of poor parenting, parents should give their children as much pocket money as possible.
So that children have a certain right to control pocket money, and at the same time have a certain perception of money.
Especially when interacting with other children, you will not become unconfident or avoid socializing because you don't have money in your pocket.
From an early age, children have a certain ability to control money, which can better cultivate their financial management ability and self-care ability, and the benefits for the future are also great.
【Author's Message】
Tao Xingzhi once said that the countermeasure of China's education revolution is the hand-brain alliance, and the result is that the power of both the hand and the brain can be incredible.
The growth of children is a process of continuous description and accumulation from a blank piece of paper to a colorful world.
In the growth of children, whether it is rich or poor, it will leave memories that cannot be ignored in the child's inner world, and it will also have a crucial impact on the child's behavior.
Poor support has the advantages of poor support, and rich support also has the characteristics of rich support, but no matter how to raise children, parents ultimately hope that children can become talented and become more excellent.
For most children, the state of life is the same, parents should try to avoid children falling into the strange circle of poverty, to create a healthy and positive growth environment for children, in order to let them have stronger energy to face the future life.
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