In 2003, Ying Ruocheng died, and Batu wanted to go to his grandfather's funeral, but his biological father, Yingda, refused, saying, "You are not eligible to attend this funeral, because I don't know if you are still surnamed Ying?"
In January 1997, when Yingda and Song Dandan divorced, Batuu was only seven years old, and the innocent and happy little Batuu was tightly pulled by his mother's hand to leave the home with his father Yingda on a snowy day, he also thought that he would go out to play for a while as usual and come back, but he did not know that this walk was a lifetime, and his father Yingda did not care about him from then on!
Yingda quickly married his colleague in the same crew, screenwriter Liang Huan, and in August of the following year, the third wife Liang Huan gave birth to a son, and Yingda happily named him: Ying Rudi, and called him the fifth generation of the Ying family, as if he had forgotten that he also had a son with his ex-wife Song Dandan!
Divorce is Song Dandan proposed, only because she briefly cheated in the lack of love and loneliness, she immediately confessed to Yingda and proposed divorce, Yingda immediately said "good", without the slightest intention of retention, ten years of marriage ended in a hurry, but just after the divorce on the way Song Dandan saw Liang Huan send a message to ask Yingda whether the divorce procedures were completed, at this time Song Dandan suddenly realized that these two people had long been on good, waiting for the opportunity to let her out! Their gossip before was true! However, in the face of Song Dandan's inquiry, Yingda denied it, but his actions were very sincere, and he immediately went with Liang Huan to get a license in the second month after the divorce! And Song Dandan and the cheating partner only maintained a relationship for one month and then broke up! After all, it is just a momentary confusion when lonely and lonely, and the feelings are sustenance!
Seven months after divorcing Yingda, Song Dandan remarried with Batu to marry Zhao Yuji, who had only known her for 28 days, because she needed a husband to take care of the children together in pain! After all, even strong women face a frustrated life when they are too weak to live!
But this time Song Dandan met the right person, Zhao Yuji loved her very much, regarded Batu as his own, Zhao Yuji was also a divorced person, had a daughter, and this family of four reorganized and opened a happy new life!
But no matter how much he loves his stepfather, it is difficult to replace the young Batuu's thoughts about his biological father Yingda, Song Dandan specially put out the photo of Batuu and Yingda, and also let Zhao Yuji put on the photos of her daughter and her mother, they all want to alleviate the harm of the parents' failed marriage to the children!
How song Dandan hopes that Yingda has time to contact his son, take his son out to play, let Batu know that his father also loves him, for this reason she has not dared to change the mobile phone number that Yingda is familiar with, and she has not dared to change for more than ten years, however, Yingda has never contacted his son, he does not take the initiative, Batu takes the initiative to find his father, seven-year-old Batu asks Indah to take him to play once, but Yingda ignores it, there is no following, and then Yingda changes the phone number, did not tell Batu and Song Dandan, Batuu can no longer find him, When he was 11 years old, he just met his father's Batuu at his grandfather's house and excitedly asked his father for a phone number, but Indah refused! The young Batuu was sad, he did not understand why the family was gone, even his father no longer loved himself, the little he went back to his stepfather's house and slipped into his mother's arms, Song Dandan tightly hugged his son to comfort his son, sad and angry, but she suppressed her emotions!
Later, on the show, when Indah was asked why he ignored Batuu, he explained aloud: "Since you are divorced, don't come back to me, I still care about him, I still have contact with him, but I can't play the role of father in this situation, which is not good for him first, and secondly unfair to his current stepfather." "
Divorced and can no longer play the role of father? Can't care about the ex-wife's son anymore? As soon as this remark came out, there was an uproar with the theory, what bullshit logic did this person have, how could Song Dandan find such a person before?
In fact, Yingda was born famous, I graduated from Peking University, studied in the United States and returned with a master's degree, and Song Dandan met in 1987 during the filming of "Arsonist", when she was an actor, and he was an intern director, he was 27 years old, she was 26 years old, at this time he just divorced his wife, his ex-wife was his Peking University classmate, and then went abroad to study together, and at this time Song Dandan also experienced breaking up with his first love and just after the first marriage, Yingda fell in love with the beautiful and interesting Song Dandan at first sight, chased after him, Finally touched the heart of Song Dandan, the two entered the marriage in 1989, in the Spring Festival Gala of the same year, Song Dandan was popular all over the country for performing the sketch "Lazy Man Blind Date" Wei Shufen, in the Spring Festival Gala of 1990, Song Dandan played the sketch "Superborn Guerrilla" with a pregnant belly, and in March Song Dandan gave birth to his son Batu.
After giving birth to a child, the hard-working Song Dandan career family is not wrong, busy, the family children and housework have to do it themselves, the husband Yingda who has no career is either sleeping at home with his head covered and sleeping as the "Emperor jue" or when he shakes his hands in the treasurer, he is still unbalanced in his heart, feeling that he was called "the son of YingRuocheng when he was a child, and now he is called Song Dandan's husband, as if he did not have his own name."
In 1994, Yingda had a hard time cheering up and began to prepare for the production of sitcoms, this model is the first time in China, Yingda is talented after all, this drama is "I Love My Family", Song Dandan strongly supports her husband's career, and she has become famous, she also does not hesitate to participate in it, thinking that this is far better than him sleeping at home as "Jue Huang".
But later it turned out that Song Dandan was wrong! Indah is safer to sleep at home! At least the home will not be scattered!
Because it is filming this drama, Yingda met Liang Tian's sister, Peking University talented daughter Liang Huan, she also came to the curtain I love my home" as a screenwriter, every day, Song Dandan after playing his role of the drama rushed home to do housework to take care of the children to take care of the old and sick father, on the stage of the bright she even had to do such rough work as changing gas at home, because Yingda was busy, he was always busy talking to Liang Huan about the "script" in the crew, always talking about coming back late at night, not caring about Song Dandan and the child at home, and then it turned out that yingda and Liang Huan had a scandal. Song Dandan, who had a big heart, laughed and ignored it, because she was too busy and tired, the crew ran on both sides of the family, and there were busy things every day, but after the busyness, she was very lonely and lonely! She needs love! In vulnerability, she found a substitute for a brief run!
But if you think that Yingda does not know how to care about people and does not know how to be a father, you are wrong, after Liang Huan gave birth to his son, Yingda sent his wife and children to the United States, he has made money in the domestic program filming and filming advertisements as a family mediator, etc. To make money to raise them, as soon as he has time, he will fly to the reunion, for the son of his current wife, Yingrudi, he is pampered, Yingrudi when he was 3 years old, Yingda spent a high price to buy a piano and asked a famous teacher to teach him, he likes luxury ice hockey, Yingda strongly supports, not only spends hundreds of thousands of dollars to send training, and even spends huge sums of money to build an ice rink for him.
In 2003, Yingda's father Yingruocheng died, Yingruocheng loved Batuu very much before he died, and the sad Batu wanted to go to his grandfather's funeral and send his grandfather on the last journey, but Indah unexpectedly disagreed, he refused Batu to participate, and the reason for the refusal was: "I don't know if you are still surnamed Ying?" On the contrary, he brought Yingrudi to attend his father's funeral in a high profile, declaring that Yingrudi was the fifth generation of the Ying family! Be completely like air!
In 2011, Indah showed off his father's love on a TV show, saying that he was his youngest son's "driver, nanny, cook, coach." He also said that if he could only take three things with him to space, he would bring "a book, a CD of Mozart, and a picture of dysprosium." ”
After the festival was broadcast, Song Dandan was angry, very distressed about her son who had been neglected for many years, she sent a Weibo to count Indah's behavior towards her son over the years, pointing out that Yingda "you are not a person", at this time, Batuu in the bi room came to Song Dandan and said: "Forget it, Mother! "This year, Batuu was 21 years old, he had grown up and understood things, he knew that his mother had not been easy in these years, and he was no longer the child who only cared about himself and cried in his mother's arms when he was 11 years old and could not get his father's phone.
Recently, Yingda came out to show his father's love again, his beloved son Yingrudi participated in the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics, Yingda was interviewed and said that the family has been preparing for his son to go to the Olympic arena for 20 years, these days he himself is very nervous, for his son's participation in the nervousness can not sleep, stomach pain! Yingda lamented that it is not easy for parents, and he did not forget to praise his son for not practicing in vain for so many years! Although I didn't get a ranking, I was still the pride of the whole family!
Yingda brought her daughter Yingwendi to help, Yingwendi is the youngest daughter of Yingda and Liang Huansheng, 16 years old this year! Is attending a famous school in the United States, but also an ice hockey player, her two ears look very similar to her mother Liang Huan, shrugging, but her mouth is unexpectedly very similar to her father's ex-wife Song Dandan, which is very ironic!
Yingda triumphantly showed the reporter the prize trophy of YingruDi from small to large, pictures,
I have to say that under the careful cultivation of Yingda, YingruDi is sunny and cheerful, very excellent, and has been a professional hockey player with an annual salary of one million yuan at a young age, in another interview, Yingrudi was asked about his brother Batu, he replied: "Never seen Batu."
Fortunately, the bitter child Batuu, who lacks the love of his biological father, under the full care of his mother Song Dandan and accompanied by the love of his stepfather, has also grown up healthy to become a good actor, and found the other half of his life to become a father, looking cheerful and humorous, but I believe that the harm that his biological father Yingda did not pay attention to him is the pain and shadow that can never be erased in his heart!
Conclusion: Parents divorced, the original family is broken, the most hurt is the child, as a parent, in reason, we have to double the care for the child, let him (she) know that although the parents are separated, they will always love him (her), always be the child's strong dependence and backing, and Yingda's "divorced can no longer care for the son of the ex-wife" is really not against human nature, losing a father's conscience and sense of responsibility, no matter how good he is to his current wife and son, no matter how good he raises his current wife and children, None of him would be a qualified and respectable father! What do you think?