Double subtraction has been carried out for more than half a year, subject education and training institutions have been changed to non-profit institutions, but the anxiety of parents is still there, because there is always a kind of "self-chicken" baby, which makes you "hate" to itch your teeth.
You accompany your parents and children to read and paint every day to practice pen control, but the children of other people's families who are generally large are all by themselves, and the effect is also hanging their own babies.
Learn from other parents, or the old saying, "I didn't teach anything, children love to read and learn." ”
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The "self-chicken" baby is really enviable
My twins are more than 4 years old, last year I saw a 6-year-old child's soft pen and hard pen are very good, I humbly asked this mother for advice: How old can the child practice hard pen calligraphy?
The mother said: "My daughter began to practice at the age of 4, she first bought two pen control training books, the child himself came back from kindergarten every day, took the initiative to practice, naturally the hard pen can be written well." Brush calligraphy has only been studied for half a year, and I write it every day during the summer vacation. ”
I saved her handmade pen training book, this winter vacation, the child is 4 and a half years old, but I think my family bought it and can't use it. I ended up buying a scrubbable pen training card with a thick pen tip.
Don't say that the baby writes potholedly, even if it is, the learning attitude is also playing for two days of fresh energy is not very happy. I bought a brush training card for drawing again, thinking that drawing is always interesting.
At first, I could also comfort myself: "After all, children born in August are younger than their classmates, and they are boys, so it is normal for them to develop slower naturally." But when I see the pictures that others have inadvertently posted, I am not calm.
A girl who was also born in August and is also 4 and a half years old this year has written 1 to 100 herself when her mother is doing housework. Didn't use the pen controller, used it a few times, the child didn't like it was useless. I don't use a three-sided pencil, just a normal pencil.
Look at my family, not without practice, not without teaching, not without accompanying, or holding a pencil with a three-sided pen holder on the pen controller, the horizontal and vertical writing are also crooked, let alone writing numbers independently.
I felt 10,000 critical hits inside me! It is really not whether there is a mother to accompany, there is no family teacher to accompany the matter, "self-chicken" baby, the effect is not a little bit.
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Why are some children so "self-disciplined"?
Theodore Roosevelt had a classic quote:
"There is a quality that can make a person stand out among the mediocre who do nothing.
This quality is not talent, not education, not IQ, but self-discipline. ”
6-year-old can write a good hand, can take the initiative to practice words; 4-year-old can write numbers independently, and her mother does not argue for people to play with her when doing housework. Are these two little girls good and self-disciplined just because they are girls?
Not because they found their own point of interest.
A hand-copied newspaper made by a 6-year-old girl during the winter vacation
In the teaching content of the lower grades, language learning and artistic creation are indeed more able to arouse the interest of girls. In contrast, the active boys are like long-tailed monkeys, and it seems that only by hanging their long tails on a tree and swinging, climbing up and down can they be happy.
In fact, it is not, but I have not found the interest point of my own child, and I have not seen that the child can invest in the interest point of full enthusiasm.
3 Let children enjoy life, study and work happily, and what is needed is repeated trial and error
A few days during the holidays, I brushed a divine drama with a minimum rating of 9 points in a single season: "Dreher's Family".
The mother inside, Mrs. Dreher, as a widow with no other source of income except for government subsidies, looks like a family that is spoiling 4 children on the surface, but after arguing and supporting each other, fighting and thinking about each other, it really touches the softest part of everyone's heart.
The Dreher family originally lived in England, but the high cost was already overwhelmed, and mrs. Dreher felt that her family was not happy: "Why can't we be as happy as before?" ”
Her stolen wine was discovered by her eldest son, who said, "I'm going to consider your suggestion: our family moved to Corfu, Greece." ”
She moved here to live a life in a non-secular sense.
What is the non-secular meaning?
The Dreher family considered moving out of the UK after the family's 10-year-old youngest son went to feed rats during class time and was physically punished by the principal. Mrs. Dreher felt that it was wrong to whip children, saying: "The purpose of education is to guide the best part of children, not to instill in them the fear of whipping".
In this way, she gave her youngest son withdrawal procedures. The third daughter saw her brother drop out of school, and the 16-year-old said she didn't want to study anymore.
This is in ordinary people's homes, a boy only went to the first grade of primary school and was removed from the principal, a girl is in the flower season, all day long to make a flower obsession and want to marry, and two adult boys are almost "nibbling on the old family", parents will either scold, give up, or force their children to go on a normal track, right?
Mrs. Dreher only saw that the whole family was unhappy.
Moving to Corfu, the eldest son began his writing career, quit his job as a real estate agent he hated, and published manuscripts one after another. The big brother in the real story, named Larry. His work The Alexander Quadrilogy was twice nominated for the Nobel Prize in Literature (based on a true story in a television series).
Larry
The second son was free to hunt and live happily ever after.
Although the third daughter was a doctor's assistant and did not know Greek, she absurdly arranged the patient's height and eventually lost the job. But her cheerful, funny personality opened the heart of the duchess, who had been living alone, and let her go out for the first time after her husband's death, and she also attended a party.
The youngest son met a young friend in Corfu, a scientist Theo, who was finally able to observe a variety of animals up close and truly became a famous zoologist. His original name was Gerald, he received an honorary doctorate from three top universities in Yale, Durham and Kent, and was awarded the "British Empire Medal" by the British Royal Family.
Statue of Gerald at jersey zoo in the UNITED Kingdom
Gerald
Watching the Winter Olympics recently, Gu Ailing is very popular, and I also like her, especially her mother.
Gu Ailing was third after the first jump and second after the second jump in the free ski competition.
Before the third jump, she called her mother. The mother said: "The last jump, you jump 1440, you can get the silver medal." ”
But Gu Ailing was not, she said: "I want to jump 1620, I want to win the gold medal." ”
The mother did not analyze the pros and cons with her, did not make sense, did not have any opinions and suggestions, but said: "No problem, this is your game, you just enjoy it fully." ”
This 1620 (4 and a half turns in the air) Gu Ailing has hardly practiced in normal times, and before that, only one person in the world had completed it. And this project is Gu Ailing's weakest project.
But in the end, Ai Ling did a good job and perfectly, and she really got the gold medal.
The most important thing I appreciate about Gu Ailing's mother is that she can take her to trial and error in her child's formative years. In addition to skiing, Gu Ailing also loves running, basketball, piano, etc., which is inseparable from the cultivation of her mother.
Mother Gu has been instilling a concept in her children: "To enjoy, have love, then you will not feel tired when practicing." ”
Gu Ailing said: "At first skiing was a social activity, growing up was a way to challenge myself, and then it was a way to express myself and improve my self-confidence, but now as I grow up, skiing slowly begins to have more new meanings." ”
Only with the child to continue to trial and error, really find his good and favorite side, let the child immerse in it, enjoy it, naturally will do more with less.
Double subtraction, we parents also strive to find the child's interest point, so that their children also become a "self-chicken" baby!
(Some of the pictures are from the Internet, the copyright belongs to the original author)