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When parents are with their children, they will always talk together about their experiences and some interesting things about bringing their children.
In the process of chatting, the mothers will find that the babies really have a variety of characteristics and situations.
Some babies are very well-behaved, they do not cry or make trouble, as long as they are full, they will go to sleep obediently.
But some babies are very unobtrusive, always want to be held, hope that their parents accompany him, once they are not satisfied, they will cry and make trouble, which can make the mothers a little tired.
★ In the face of the baby's various tricks, the mothers also expressed their own different views:
"A baby who doesn't cry or sleep quietly is an angel, and they are born to understand their parents and will be very filial in the future."
"The baby who always cries and wants to hold is actually playing a little clever, they just want to get the care of their parents, and there is nothing else." Since childhood, I have been very careful, and I have to grow up? ”
So, is it true that the child is always crying to hug it, and is it really clever?
My cousin's daughter is a very clingy child, every day to the cousin to hold, only when held in the hand, is more well-behaved, and as soon as the child is put down, the child will cry and cry.
And the child only recognizes the mother alone, no one else is allowed to hold, she wants to do some housework can not, every day can only be around the daughter's side, which makes her feel uncomfortable. So her mother-in-law always said that this child has a heart and eyes since he was a child, and he is very worried about his mother, and he does not let his mother do other work, which is really smart. But the cousin thinks that the child is so small, how can she have a heart and eyes?
Once took the child to the physical examination, and the doctor chatted, the cousin said that the child's clingy situation is a headache, but the doctor smiled and said: When the child is young, especially before the age of 1, he wants to let his parents hold or want to let the people who often accompany him hold, in fact, he wants to find a sense of security, but not to play smart. Give children a sense of security, they are practical, and when children grow up, they dare to challenge, because they know in their hearts that there is the love of their parents, which is also their confidence.
In fact, there are actually many children like this, they hope that parents only hold themselves, in order to let parents hold, they will "play a lot of careful eyes" in order to let parents hold. When you are young, you may cry, and when you are older, you will say that your feet hurt and you can't walk. As long as Mom and Dad hugged, they immediately showed a proud smile.
Many mothers are very troubled when they meet this kind of child, and they don't know why their children are so clingy, and such a baby is indeed very tired to bring up.
However, the baby wants to be held by the mother, but it is only a physiological need, not to spoil the mother. Help your child survive this stage, build self-confidence and a sense of security for your child, then it will be more relaxed in the future.
★ In general, in which cases does the child need the mother's hug more?
When the child is "uncomfortable"
Babies don't speak at birth, and whenever they're hungry, thirsty, or feel any discomfort, they express their emotions by crying.
At this time, the mothers just need to gently pick up the child, because of the mother's hug, the child will become much more stable, feel that someone is around him to care about him, will gradually quiet down.
Therefore, mothers often hug their children, which makes children feel very comfortable, and they will not cry like before.
Lack of "security"
When children are just born, they are very unfamiliar with the world, so they are very insecure about everything in the outside world.
At this time, they can only rely on their mothers, and only their mother's hugs can make them feel a little warmth and peace of mind.
The most common is that children always want to seek the hugs of their parents on the street and in the mall, not that they are careful because they do not want to walk, but only because they lack a sense of security on the outside and want to get inner solidity through hugging.
●The world that adults see is not the same as the world that children see.
Adults see a lot of goods in the mall, but children's focus is on many strangers. The children were so low that they couldn't see a variety of toys, just the legs of countless strangers.
At this time, the child will feel very dangerous and cannot find a sense of safety, and the mother's hug will bring peace of mind and steadfastness to the child. Being hugged by the mother, the child will see the fun toys, gorgeous decorations, and of course, he will be more happy.
Mothers should pay more attention to their children's emotions
Only when children get enough hugs, they will feel solid, dare to face strange things, and gradually help them build confidence.
Mothers should pay more attention to their children's emotional changes and give them warm hugs at the right time. Instead of forcing the child to go on his own, resolutely not satisfying their careful thinking.
Children who have not been embraced by their parents for a long time and are always rejected by their parents will have a creepy and insecure situation instead. Because the parents did not help them well, did not give him the right example, did not give them care, so it brought a negative impact on the child.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
It is a very normal phenomenon for children to seek their mother's hugs, and mothers should not feel impatient, only by giving him enough hugs can children feel more secure and have positive feedback on their personalities.
Moms, do you often meet the needs of your child to be hugged?
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