Comment 1+1: Get married every festive season

A few days ago, the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center and the Questionnaire Network (wenjuan.com) conducted a survey of 2021 unmarried youth, showing that 68.2% of the unmarried young people surveyed had experienced "marriage hypnosis". 80.6% of the unmarried young people interviewed admitted that they were "urged" to increase the pressure of visiting relatives and friends during the Spring Festival. In the face of marriage hypnosis, 59.2% of the unmarried youth surveyed will divert the topic and attention, and 53.0% of the unmarried youth surveyed will agree with whatever the other party says.

Guangming Daily: The essence is the difference between the two generations' views and values of marriage and love

"Being urged to marry every festive season" is no longer a personal problem, nor can it be left to the suggestion only "parents and children communicate more and understand more". The reason for the emergence of marriage urging is not unrelated to the intergenerational gap. The essence of marriage is from the concern of parents, and the reason why this concern spreads to anxiety is essentially the difference between the views and values of marriage and love between the two generations. The generational divide allows young people and their parents to have different marital anxieties at both ends of the urge and the urged. In the eyes of the parents who urge marriage, whether the child is married or not is like a punch card task on the road of life for himself and his child. In the process of being urged, young people are worried that they cannot meet the expectations of their families, nor do they want to be bound by traditional value standards, and they do not want their love and marriage to be swayed by others. In addition to the intergenerational gap, the factors of social change cannot be ignored. Some parents' concept of marriage and love still stays in the traditional marriage model and has not transitioned to modern marriage. Happiness is not sooner or later, parents may wish to understand and respect their children's choices. Children can also try to rationally look at their parents' marriage urging, and find out the hidden expression of their parents' love. Every festive season, it is a communication opportunity to bridge the gap between generations, rather than helplessly urging and being urged, it is better to reveal their hearts to each other, so that love and temperature are full of joyful moments.

Beijing Youth Daily: There is a dilemma of communication between two generations

"Being urged to marry every festive season" is ultimately a generation gap in the discourse system between the two generations, and the screw cannot be screwed into the nut. They are not familiar with the city where young people are located, and they do not know much about the working life of unmarried young people, and caring about the situation of marriage and love has become a way and a word for parents and relatives to deal with their children. Due to different ideologies and concepts, the two generations have very different attitudes on the issue of marriage and love. Behind the "marriage urged to marry every festive season", there is a dilemma of communication between the two generations. Some young people preconceived that "they don't understand what they say" and "they say it in vain", and give up making in-depth exchanges with their parents about their living conditions and feelings. This requires some parents to change their "condescending" posture and understand the current situation of their children's lives with a more peaceful attitude. When both parties can take the initiative to debug and actively communicate, "every festive season is urged to marry" can become an opportunity for positive interaction.

Nantong Network: "Every festive season is urged to get married" needs to go in both directions

For most parents and marriage promoters, what they are really worried about is that they have not moved after the age of twenty-six or seven or even thirty, and even because they are frustrated in marriage and love, they have the idea of not getting married, which is the real reason for them to "catch the hurry". As children, we must understand the concerns of our parents and elders. Although "urging" will be annoying, it is even more sad that no one "urges". In the face of "marriage hypnosis", it is possible to show your true thoughts and gain the understanding of your elders. Furthermore, parents and elders have more experience and more experience than young people, and it is obviously more beneficial to discuss the problems in marriage and love with them. In the face of "being urged to marry every festive season", two-way rushing is the best response, and it is also beneficial to the lives of young people.

Chuanguan News: Read the conscience of parents

As the saying goes: a man should marry a woman. It is natural for young men and women to marry at a certain age. However, in the current social context, some young people play too hard, have no interest in starting a family and getting married, and even regard it as a fearful way, becoming a realistic version of the "Diamond King Old Five", resulting in parents complaining and relatives and friends being difficult to understand. "Every festive season is urged to marry", good intentions "you know". For the younger generation, it is necessary to fully understand the good intentions of their parents and properly consider their "lifelong events" under the premise of doing a good job. You know, the male university should not marry, the female university should not marry, will always be the worry of the parents. In a sense, marrying at the right age is also a filial piety to parents. Young people are invited to weigh it well, and they must not be obstinate and act rashly.

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