ask:
Met with the blind date 3 times, each time it was to eat - watch a movie - go shopping, and then go back, see each other once a week, if you want to improve the relationship, what to do?
At present, the two of us meet 3 times, once a week, the relationship is in a chat point, and the two sides do not talk much.
If I want to improve my relationship, wouldn't I ask her if I would like to be my girlfriend when I meet her next? Or how to do it?
It is always impossible to always come out to eat a meal, chat and watch a movie, if so, it feels like there will be no results in a lifetime
answer:
1, first of all, rule out the wrong answer - in the case that the girl still does not like or does not like you enough, you go to confess to the girl
You yourself feel that the state of your dating with girls is not very good; look at your statement, you and the girl have only met three times, each time they meet is to eat, watch movies, go shopping, and the state of dating is relatively flat;
In this case, if you ask the girl at the next meeting if she would like to be your girlfriend
You are most likely to be directly rejected by the girl, even if the girl does not directly reject you, she will say that she feels that you do not know each other enough, and hopes that you can give her more time (this is actually a kind of rejection)
From the point of view that you and the girl have gone on three dates, all eating, watching movies, and shopping, you should not have much experience in love; the state of your dating with the girl is relatively flat, which shows that your attraction to the girl is actually more general.
If you confess to the girl, the girl does not directly agree, which is actually very much affecting the subsequent development between you and the girl
After being rejected by the girl, he can continue to interact with the girl on an equal footing with the normal heart, and the mentality and emotions are not affected. To do this, for some love whites, in fact, there is still difficulty
So you don't ignore the objective situation of the interaction between you and the girl, and go too early to confess to the girl;
Don't because you don't know how to improve the relationship between you and girls, so you go too early to confess to girls.
Confession is a good interaction between you and the girl, and the girl likes you after a natural behavior
It's not your way of chasing girls and attracting girls to like you
Regarding confessions, you can take a look at the relevant content I have created
Since you and the girl are blind dates, and the girl is willing to continue to date you, it means that the girl is willing to continue to contact you and try to develop, which objectively also gives you the opportunity
But the objective state of the girl interacting with you and dating actually shows that she does not like or does not like you enough (whether a girl likes you, whether she likes you, has had love experience, and is really liked by girls, naturally feels it, if you do not feel that girls obviously like you, it means that girls actually do not like or do not like you very much)
This state and attitude of the girl, in fact, do not need you to confess to her, you can also intuitively know
Since you go to confess to the girl now, you are not only easy to be rejected by her, but also you go to confess to the girl now, in fact, it has no substantive effect, but it will have a very adverse impact
So don't get up or run to ask the girl if she wants to be your girlfriend
2, Secondly, if you continue to date girls like before, it will not be as you think, and it will feel like there will be no results for the rest of your life
You will most likely be rejected by the girl at that time, and the reason why the girl rejects you is often that she does not feel anything about you, and it feels that you are not in love together
Don't doubt that this kind of drama takes turns in this world every day
Some boys have a misunderstanding about blind dates, girls will choose blind dates, which only shows that girls have a clear willingness to get off the list
Girls are close to you, which does not mean that girls will definitely choose to take off the list with you
Although the girl has a relatively clear willingness to get off the list, but whether you are the person she wants to be together, it still depends on whether you and the girl are interacting and dating in the process, whether the girl has feelings for you, and whether the girl likes you
And you want girls to have feelings for you, you want girls to like you, girls are willing to contact you, come out and date you, this just shows that your basic conditions have passed the threshold of mate selection for girls
The key is still to see what kind of dating experience you bring to the girl in the process of dating, and whether you can make the girl feel in love in the process of your dating
Like you and girls dating, repeated eating, watching movies, shopping, this is actually very unfavorable to you to bring girls a good dating experience, but also not conducive to girls in the process of dating you to have a feeling of love
Eat a meal by yourself, you will try to avoid eating the same for every meal, you date a girl, how can you keep repeating the same dating content?
3, avoid the love of Xiaobai easy to step on the girl premature confession led to their own rejection of the pit, but also know their own interaction with girls, dating deficiencies, your correct approach is that you should try to improve the dating between you and girls, you should try to bring girls a good dating experience as much as possible
If you do it well enough, even if the girl and you have not yet clearly determined the relationship, she and you in the process of dating, the same instinctive feeling of love.
If you don't understand the sentence I said above, you go to see a certain number of love films, you know, men and women interact and date together, boys bring girls pleasant emotions, girls and boys together will produce related emotional states, like a person, or do not like a person, this is an instinctive psychological feeling and emotional experience of people, and this is actually not deceiving people.
So how exactly should you improve the interaction and dating between you and girls, so that it will help girls like you more?
1) Fundamentally
What kind of dating experience a boy can bring to a girl has to do with his own dating experience
Dating and attracting girls is an art of practice
Some boys start early, he dates girls, whether it is chatting with girls when dating, or arranging the content and process of dating, and controlling the details of dating
He is able to bring girls a good dating experience easily and naturally
Girls dating such boys will be more likely to be interested in dating between two people
How attractive a boy is to girls has to do with what kind of person he is
A boy is handsome, humorous, has strong personal ability, has a lot of experience with girls, and understands the psychology of girls.
He is more attractive to girls than boys who are introverted, can't talk, and don't understand girls' psychology
Of course, all of the above cannot be achieved overnight
The reason I mention this is to remind some teenagers that your experience has shaped you
If you want to become really good at attracting girls, then you should start to consciously practice, experience and improve now
Don't wait until you are older and forced by your family to go on a blind date, only to know that you lack experience and ability in this area
2), in terms of skill
If you are not a boy who has a lot of dating experience and is very attractive to girls, then you consciously use the following skills in the process of dating girls
This will help you perform better when dating girls
A, the dating content between you and the girl, don't repeat it all the time, the dating content that has been repeated is not conducive to bringing a good dating experience to girls
You should explore something new with your girl, which will help you and your girl build up a common good experience and memory
You should share and present yourself in the process of dating girls, which will help you and girls to improve their understanding of each other
Eating, watching movies, shopping, girls can do these with girlfriends, and the boys who chased this girl before must have also taken girls to do this
If you and girls do this again, the effect will often not be great
Not to mention that you repeatedly go to dinner with girls, watch movies, and go shopping
B, in the early days when you and the girl try to develop a relationship, you don't have to deliberately think about how you want to attract girls to like you, and you don't have to deliberately think about how you should promote the relationship between you and the girl
You just need to pursue the girl in the process of dating you, she feels happy, she has a good emotional state, you have a common language, you can play together, this is actually OK
Even if you and the girl are dating to eat, where to eat, what to eat, implemented on the specific details, whether it is careful or not, whether the arrangement is appropriate or not, the feelings and experiences brought to the girls are also different
In addition to the regular eating, watching movies, and shopping, do girls have any places they want to go but haven't been there, and have girls always wanted to do things but haven't done yet?
If there is, then you try to achieve his wishes with the girl; if not, then can you lead the girl to experience some places and things that she has not experienced again
Some boys and girls meet him and feel that their world has become bigger and more exciting
Such boys will naturally be more attractive to girls
And some boys, their usual life is more boring, boring, he has no dating experience
He dates girls, either there is no arrangement, do not know what to do with girls; or rely too much on girls, even with girls where to do the arrangement task, are completely pushed to girls; or for dating with girls too low requirements, just very casually with girls to have a meal, watch a movie
Such boys are naturally less attractive to girls
C, you are a boy, it should be up to you to arrange and dominate the date between you and the girl
Boys are really good at certain things, and when they do things, they are planned and arranged, which is very important for attracting girls
If the girl is with you when she does things, gets the experience, the feelings she produces, she can get it alone, or she and her girlfriend can get it
So why should she like you? So why would she want to be with you?
Isn't it fragrant that she is alone and that she plays with her girlfriends?
Although as boys, we should arrange dates with the lead and the girl, but be careful not to overcorrect
This is not to make you disrespect the wishes and ideas of girls, but on the basis of your planning, assertion, and arrangement of things
You should also involve girls in the dating planning and arrangement between you
For example, when you arrange a date, you can ask the girl's opinion
You can also try this date for you to arrange, and the next date for the girl to arrange
Specifically, you want to be more dominant, or you and the girl are open, depending on the personality of the girl you are dating
Some girls will be very assertive, she does not like to blindly listen to boys;
And some girls, they don't have any opinions, what you say, she says good, you ask her anything, she says casually
Girls can have no opinion, and girls' lack of opinion may even arouse the protection of some boys
But if the boy has no opinion, the boy without the opinion is very unpopular with the girl
D, in the process of dating girls, you must dare to have timely physical contact with girls, dare to try to make your state when dating girls closer to the state of lovers
As long as you grasp the premise, timing and occasion of your attempt to have physical contact with a girl
As long as you grasp the ways and methods you try to have physical contact with girls
Not only will you greatly increase your probability of success, even if it is the worst outcome, your attempt will be rejected by the girl
Girls won't completely pass you off because of your attempt
Because you did not disregard the feelings and wishes of the girls, rushed to have physical contact with the girls; you did not simply take advantage of the girls to make physical contact with the girls
There are a lot of boys who don't really like him in the process of dating him
One reason is that he lost in the creation of a dating atmosphere, and he failed to get the girl into a good emotional state in the process of dating him
Another reason is that the other person is too well-behaved, too good, too timid, obviously the girl feels very happy when dating him, and even the girl releases a positive signal to him
But boys just don't dare to try accordingly
The same is dating girls, the same two people have a good time and chat well
The boy who naturally guides two people to hold hands while walking is more able to bring the feeling of love to girls than the boys who just have fun and have a good conversation with girls
Girls and their own boys who have a good feeling hold hands, hugs, and even kisses, these bring stimulation to girls, will make girls' hearts deer bump, make girls shy, blush
And these are more able to make girls feel in love with you than girls simply chatting well, eating well, and playing well with you when they are dating, and it will also help to improve the relationship between you and girls
Hope it inspires you
Wishing you all the best
Love Sir
2022-2-10