The most popular TV series in these days is undoubtedly "The World".
Yesterday I watched this drama with my mother, and when I saw that the Zhou family's mother was paralyzed in bed, and the three children of the Zhou family only Had Zhou Bingkun in front of the bed to take care of, my mother said this sentence:
"'The World of Man' proves once again a truth: stupid children really come to repay the favor."
It seems to be true.
The eldest son, Zhou Bingyi, was talented from an early age and had always been a bully, and later he was admitted to Peking University, later became the leader of a state-owned factory, later became a leader of a certain city, and later transferred to the central government.
His life is considered to be beautiful, but his children of this kind of scenery are doomed to be impossible to stay with their parents, he has his city, he has his career, he has his pursuits.
The second daughter, Zhou Rong, is also talented, from childhood to adulthood, she was a bully, and later admitted to Peking University, later became a university professor, and later lived in France for more than ten years.
Her life is also considered successful, but her successful child is doomed to stay with her parents, she has her stubbornness, she has her pursuit, she has her journey.
The third son, Zhou Bingkun, is quite stupid compared with his older brother and sister.
He was not very bright when he was a child, coupled with his relatively thick, his brothers and sisters all thought he was "very stupid", and his parents also called him "old knots".
People like him were destined to fly not far, and he went to the lumber factory as a small worker, then to the soy sauce factory as a small worker, and later opened a noodle shop.
Although Zhou Bingkun could not fight for face for his parents, he was kind, benevolent, and industrious, and when his parents were in trouble, only he could wait in front of and behind the saddle, and take care of him before and after.
So indeed as my mom said:
The wise eldest brother and second sister are here to collect debts, and the stupid Bingkun is here to repay the favor.
This sentence from my mother reminds me of a speech made by a principal at a parent-teacher conference in 2018:
"Some children are born with the qualifications to read, and some children do not.
Children without qualifications are used to repay the favor, because reading is particularly good, and they will go to the United States, britain, and Canada in the future, and they can only rely on video to meet.
Reading is not qualified, when we are old, we can often accompany us, today take us to eat beef balls, tomorrow take us to eat seafood, think it is really beautiful!
If you observe carefully in life, you will find that the child who can take care of himself when he is old is often the child who does not have much success, but can see it all the time. ”
Indeed, as the headmaster said.
Looking at the children around us who study well, the universities they choose are in first-tier cities or new first-tier cities, and after completing undergraduate studies and then studying for masters and doctorates, many of them have gone abroad.
After graduation, they either settle abroad or return to first-tier cities to develop their ambitions, because small places can't hold their dreams.
So as the principal said, "A lot of times we can only meet by video." ”
And those students with average grades didn't run very far when they went to college.
After graduation, most of them chose to return to their hometown and then found a stable job.
They are not far from their parents, they can often go home to see, and when their parents are older, they can also take their parents to their side and let their parents enjoy the joy of the world.
Compared with the parents of students who study well, the parents of students who study in general can enjoy the fun of parenthood more.
"Children who study well come to collect debts, and children who study badly come to repay favors."
There is actually some truth to this statement.
Of course, this is not absolute.
Those children who have good academic performance also have stayed with their parents.
Those children with poor academic performance are also more unfilial to their parents.
So I'm talking about only the relative situation, just most of the situation.
The reason why I am writing this article is not to explore:
Is it better to have a gifted child, or is it better to have a child with mediocre qualifications?
I want to emphasize that having a child with mediocre qualifications also has his own good.
If there is a child like Bingkun, although he has not been admitted to a prestigious university, although he has not been able to become a party member, although he has not been able to enter a large factory and cattle enterprise, he is diligent and self-motivated, kind and filial, which is also a very good result for his parents.
So as the headmaster said:
"We have to respect the differences of each child, many things are already predestined, we don't have to be too demanding." To have a child with extraordinary talent is to be gifted; to have a child with mediocre qualifications is also to have a good quality. ”
The reason why I write this article is that I think that many parents now have too narrow a definition of a good child, in their eyes, only a child who learns well is a good child, and a child who does not learn well is simply not worthy of being a child:
"It's useless."
"How are you so stupid?"
"You look at other people."
"What you cry, you still have your face to cry."
"You're so angry, I'm disappointed in you."
"Forget it, I see you won't be out of the way in the future."
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We are always used to using academic performance to measure the quality and failure of a child.
In our eyes, children with poor grades do not seem to deserve to live.
But "The World of Man" tells us that a child's good or bad can not only look at academic performance, as long as he loves his work, as long as he is diligent and self-motivated, as long as he is kind and filial, he is a good child, he can even be a better child.
The reason why I write this article is that I think that many people now have too narrow a definition of a happy life, and many people's definition of happiness is:
You have to have money, you have to have power, you have to have fame.
It seems that only with these, our lives are happy.
But Adam Smith, the father of economics, said a passage:
"Suffering and chaos in life often comes from overestimating the difference between one long-term condition and another.
"Greed overestimates the difference between rich and poor, ambition overestimates the difference between high officials and commoners, and vanity overestimates the difference between the well-known and the obscure."
Indeed, the reason why many people live anxiously and unhappily is that they overestimate the difference between rich and poor, the difference between high-ranking officials and commoners, and the difference between the well-known and the obscure.
Among the three brothers and sisters in "The World of Man", in fact, I think the happiest is not the eldest brother, nor the second sister, but the old third Bingkun.
Although Bingkun is the most ordinary one in the family, he is the happiest one in life, because his life is full of fireworks, and he lives a real life.
We are taught every day how to be successful, but few people tell us:
How to be a happy ordinary person.
The other day, saw a big V said:
It may be that I am older, and now I like the ordinary and stable life, do not catch the waves, do not take any boats, and feel satisfied with my own sea.
Do your daily work step by step, go to the supermarket with your lover to cook after work, walk by the neon river after dinner, snuggle up to each other and watch the big aunt dance square dance...
A bland life like this without big ups and downs, I think it's already very good.
Indeed, life does not have to be rich and rich, and it is also very good to have some small pleasures and small tastes.
Do your daily work step by step, go to the supermarket with your lover after work to cook, walk by the neon river after dinner, finally be able to rest on the weekend, be able to watch a favorite movie with your lover, a monthly salary and a bonus at the end of the year, and every holiday and birthday, as well as the upcoming spring and the first spring rain...
Such an ordinary life is actually worth living.
Author: Shi Yi Jun, Source: Shi Yi, an interesting, tasteful, and attitude cultural life micro-journal.