Cookies? ice cream? red? blue?
I can't decide which is better...
Recently, there seems to be an increasing number of indecisive and difficult children. When the child is young, the parents feel that it is okay. But when your child grows up to start his own life, school, profession, work, etc., will you worry about your child's hesitation?
In this article, we talk about how to improve your child's indecisiveness. After all, when standing on the wrong path of life, "the power of self-determination = the power of determination."
The child's indecisiveness needs to be improved!
Choosing what you like is an essential ability for growth. Children are still young, so it doesn't matter if they are a little indecisive, some moms and dads may think so, but once they are in kindergarten or school, they should not be indecisive.
Of course, even if left unchecked, there is a possibility of change, and indecision can also be counted as one of the personalities.
However, if you find indecisiveness when your kids are still young, you are in luck! Because you can practice early to improve your child's judgment, it will be good for later.
What causes a child to be indecisive?
Indecision is based on personality tendencies caused by various causes. It may be inherited from a parent, or it may be hesitant due to one's own experience or lack of experience.
Three ways to improve your child's indecisiveness!
Practice selection
Indecisive personality and behavior can be improved by consciously practicing daily. Start by choosing between the two, and once you get used to it, you can practice choosing from many options.
Create opportunities for choice and ask questions
By showing specific examples, such as "Which is better, this or that?" Or ask in words, not "which" or "what", making it as easy as possible for children to choose.
At this time, more adjectives as a reference for selection will help when making choices. That way, the next time the same option appears, the choice is easier. For example, show short and long sleeves and tell him if it's cold or hot today.
I'll wait for you to answer
Hesitation may be due to a lack of self-confidence. Don't deny or ignore your child's choices.
This will take some time, but if it takes too long, make the selection easy by offering alternatives or simplifying the selection criteria on a case-by-case basis.
Indecision is not all a disadvantage, but also an advantage!
When people say "indecisiveness should improve," you might feel that indecisive personality is not good. However, indecisive personality is not all disadvantage.
Some indecisive people have the virtues of being good at listening to others, respecting others, and cooperating with others. Sometimes it becomes indecisive because it thinks about the people around you rather than focusing on yourself.
Of course, we shouldn't be hesitant about important decisions in life, but sometimes the indecisive side of social life isn't a bad thing.
Kids who can make decisions in urgent and important moments!
Honestly, indecision is unlikely to be a big problem for children. But it makes positive sense to be prepared to be a "decisive person" and make decisions about future life events such as career paths, employment, marriage, and job changes.
I hope that when my child grows up, he will become a person who can choose what he likes, while respecting his child's personality.
Source: Li Jia Baby ~