For a patient with difficulty selecting
There are many to face every day
"Tough" choice
Countless circles were made in front of the dazzling shelves
But in the end, he returned empty-handed
Every morning in front of the wardrobe
The station is getting longer and longer
Lunch at noon on the question of "what to eat"
More and more entangled...
Tangled star people face choice every time
It can be particularly difficult and hesitant
So they will run away from making choices
Difficulty in choosing
There is a meme circulating on the Internet:
Which has a hard choice
It's not because you're poor
But is that really the case?
Why do we have difficulty choosing?
01
Inability to satisfy the desires of the heart
You love that pair of shoes and want to buy it
But it felt expensive
Constantly weighing these two options and getting tangled up
The choice becomes hesitant
Fish and bear paws cannot be combined
People tend to have a lot of demands
But these demands may be in opposition to each other
Cannot be satisfied at the same time
02
Exhaustion after reading all the options
When eating, I want to pick a variety show to watch
After eating, I haven't decided which one to watch
Pick a bag on Taobao to see all the styles
Then slowly analyze which one is right for you
But I didn't make a choice for half a day
The available options are not satisfactory
So I went looking for better options
But more options have not eased
Anxiety when we make choices
Instead, it fell into it
"Infinite Reincarnation without An End"
"Infinite Reincarnation without An End"
03
The reluctance to "lose"
Although many people will tell themselves after the choice
The choices made are the best
But there is always a sense of loss
Even when there are more choices
The easier it is for us to regret the options we made
Any choice is a trade-off
Choosing this one may mean abandoning the other
And when the more choices
At checkout, I also clearly know that I have given up something,
The heart will feel unwilling and even uncomfortable
Such emotions will also make us choose
The "best option" loses its charm
Some netizens often laughed
"In the face of indecision, quantum mechanics"
This one sounds "unconscious"
So how do we get rid of choice difficulties?
Form habits on trivial matters
Focus your energy on the choices that matter most
In trivial decision-making
Habit formation can help us
Reduce uncertainty in everyday life
Narrow your selections
to combat the distractions of superfluous choices
This reduces the amount of energy we expend in our various options
Avoid spending too much time and effort on chores
Make irreversible choices
And tell yourself not to regret it
A lot of indecisive people are after decisions
They tend to fall into feelings of remorse
When a choice is irreversible
We must learn to adjust our psychological expectations
Improve your adaptability and satisfaction
To maintain the correctness of their own decisions
Instead of putting yourself in more options
Make a list of decisions
Analyze the pros and cons of each choice
Sometimes we can't make accurate judgments
Because we don't know the pros and cons of the options
At this time we can try to decompose the problem
Break down the factors that influence decision-making
Make a checklist
Then according to these factors to obtain the corresponding information
And then make a judgment.
It's really hard to make a choice
But we still hope that we can grasp the initiative of choice
This avoids falling into a sense of powerlessness with no choice
Studies have shown that choice can lead to a sense of well-being
But don't let too many choices be made
Become your "sweet burden" Oh
"When we start throwing away the unimportant 90 percent of life.
The remaining 10% will allow us to reap more."
Text | Xie Zihan
The image | comes from the Internet
Typography | Liu Jianning
Edit | Li Hanyue
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